Checked86:
in my own damn roof? I think they are part of my business since i pay them. I should mind

If they are dating they can only do it off the clock, they are grown and what they do on their own time is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

Checked86:
I trust them a lot and i don't want to send one out and bring somebody i will start learning again. I think i will call them together and tell them that i know what they are doing. I might show them some of the Cctv footages if they try denying it. I don't want them to know that i see everything they do around the house. i don't want them to play safe. My wife wants me to show them what they are doing but i told her that it was too trivial

As long as they aren't sexing in your home it is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. If you trust them a lot, LEAVE THEM ALONE. I can't stand employers who think that they have the right to run their employers lives.

chris2face:
Please change one of them to avoid stories that touch,by the way have any idea which tribe or part of North they are from?
I remember one girl and her bF asconding with their[b][b[b]] masters[/b][/b][/b] valuables,nwanne nwoke biko nkucha abughi ujo,change one if u know whats good for u,by the way i live here in North and i know what am saying,sanu!

Really?

Won't you rather have them dating than your housekeeper going or and hopefully bringing an armed robber into your home. Atleast now you know who sheer is sleeping with. Of anything happen then you who to hold. Of you grown at it they will runaway. It's you dirty to guide the guy and your wife's duty to educate the girl on sex...... Besides we Mary early. If that girl is that age then she would be married now of sheer is in my town in adamawa. Do the right thing please

victorian:
Op, don't you think sending one packing when they've not actually done anything wrong, can create bad blood and revenge against u and your household? Human beings are vindictive and spiteful.
And trust me that's the last thing u need amongst workers.
My advice is this, call them, talk to them and let them realise what they are doing. Let the maiguard and househelp know, if he gets her pregnant? And denies it? Then that's the end of his job. And u don't condone any form of sexual relationship in your home. Also the househelp, if she gets pregnant that's the end of her work with u. In short anyone caught having sex in the premises? That's the end of their work.. So they have to be serious and focus on what brought them to your compound.
And if your maiguard wants to marry her, then he should do things properly by meeting her people for marriage.
I don't think they are plotting against u or planning to plot.
Security is from God, as long as we treat our workers well. I don't think they are a threat to your household. Except your wife maltreats one of them, that's when she can be this afraid and worrisome.

so people shouldn't have sex again according to you.
Better shut up if you have nothing to say

Checked86:
that is my wife's fear.

In my opinion, you made some wrong calls. You can never stop a man or woman from seeing each other and just because you pay their salaries as boss doesn't mean that you own them, remember, they are not your slaves so you have no right to tell your gate man not to have a woman.
Secondly, you and your wife missed the opportunity to learn a new language. Pull them close and learn their language, but be careful about your private information.
Hausas are one of the most honest tribes in Nigeria,and apart from religion, you have no problems.

that's a regular.

Checked86:
Thanks dear. that is why i am here. My wife is just afraid of pregnancy. she wants the best for the girl and she talks with the girl's mother every Sunday evening

Be careful they are both Hausa becaurful about the future I warn again be careful..

I don't know why u made the mistake of choosing same people from same tribe.. U know how divided the country is..
Even though we pretend we are not.
We cant cover the fact that we are divided.
They maybe nice to u now but that's a Time bomb waiting to explode..
I don't pray for anything bad, but u guys made a very big mistake by employing 2 people from same region especially when u don't hear the language.
u didn't think like igboman at all, We for see things that could happen.

U can still sack them peacfully without creating bad blood.
just give them one excuse that u will be traveling with ur wife for sometime or things are a bit ruff with u now ur work is not paying u well as it used to.
As u can't afford to employ them anymore.
But assure them when things become smooth u will call them back..Just do this with smiling face and petting.
If possible pay them a bit better than what used to give them monthly.

Don't take this advice as a joke.
Take care

Temibabie:



Are you hiring ma'am?

lol laughing in swahilii......let her keep deceiving u people with her fake n imaginary life....it very obvious u don't know or haven't met that low-life before in person hehe....

Mujtahida:

seems u know about this low-life fake woman....

Preshy561:
You and your wife no just like una lives.

Its simple send packing but be nice to them cos its not bad to fall in love by adults.
Make sure u send both dont send one and leave the other,it will b dangerous

smadav:
for me I think your wife is wise she is trying to avoid possible coup by them on u. if u know u know

Coup dé gràce.