Faher:

Hmm, I'm sure I can't be accused of not reading the OP's post.

For me, I'd love my fiance/gf/wife to give me a hint of what she likes.
If she feels I don't get the message, then she should tell me what she wants.
The whole element of surprise thingy is overrated.

This is why most gifts are just a waste of space.
I've got gifts at home that I never use because they were surprise gifts I didn't need

Btw, your friend is either immature or maybe she wants a psychic partner.
That reasoning of hers is too childish.

newmusic:

Let's get it clear, you re talking about birthday gift,relationship,break up and surprise,

whats really your question regarding this?

since you dont want a surprise,tell him what you want then,it is better that way.

As for your friend that thinks she will break up with her partner if he buys what she doesnt like,i dont think that's the best.

Am i getting the right answer now or better you re-structure your question if you think i am still wrong.

newmusic:

Simply because tolutara does not like surprises,she thinks some people dont understand her question,
Tell your husband what you want ohhhhhhh,

iice:

Getting to the stage of beyond salvageable

lol. . .i blame all those strikes

Faher:

Hmm, I'm sure I can't be accused of not reading the OP's post.

For me, I'd love my fiance/gf/wife to give me a hint of what she likes.
If she feels I don't get the message, then she should tell me what she wants.
The whole element of surprise thingy is overrated.

This is why most gifts are just a waste of space.
I've got gifts at home that I never use because they were surprise gifts I didn't need

Btw, your friend is either immature or maybe she wants a psychic partner.
That reasoning of hers is too childish.

Great post especially the overrated part

Another example of poster not reading or fully comprehending.

I did not ask for a Surprise gift. I wanted an Amazon Kindle, Husbby is fine with it even though I know he might have other things up his sleeves.(it is not an issue)

The question was about my friends opinion about the whole thing, please go back and comprehend this post. Thanks

iice:

lol. . .i blame all those strikes

Great post especially the overrated part

Beetle:

I do tell DH what I want so I don't end up going to the shops and swapping it for something else. Funny thing is he knows exactly what to get me but I'm an indecisive chicken that doesn't know what she wants, so for valentine I told him what I wanted and he got it. I've started drumming it into his ears what I want for my birthday and waiting in anticipation for the d day.

I concur to telling DH what you want tolutara jo and I pray DH gets me my LV bag and make me the happiest lady on planet earth. Your friend needs to grow up ' if hubby doesn't know what you want isn't the end of the road and shouldn't mean the relationship is heading for the rocks'. Besides what works in one relationship might not work in yours. My two pence.

acidosis:
Now I'm beginning to understand Ladies. Ladies are confused creatures without the knowledge of what they want and what they do not want.
Anyway, I'll advice you go with your darling husband's opinion.
If you really wanna make your choice, then why don't you just get it yourself in a shopping mall.

iice link=topic=468993.msg6287457#msg6287457date=1277568971:

like another gift again?

chaircover:

Tolu I’m with you on this one. I am comfortable enough now with my hubby to tell him what I would like for a gift. I have fond out that there is No point in stressing over something that has a solution.

Some people are blessed with making good choices, good at shopping, have the time to shop around and are able to pay attention to detail while some aren’t too good at choosing suitable gifts.

In the early years I used to get really upset each time I opened an inappropriate present yet once again and used to think that my husband didn’t love me enough to go the extra mile to actually work out what I really wanted instead of buying things I would never use. I used to wonder how even though he had a whole year to plan and get it right, he could still get it wrong.

I’ve received sat Navs for Christmas (The irony is I use it only 10% and he uses it 90% of the time), exercise balls on Valentines day, picnic baskets for my birthday, and every Christmas I get a bottle of Christian Dior poison. I used to wonder why he choose the name poison (was he trying to tell me something) and price tags left on cards & gifts etc

Most present either doesn’t get used, is given away or returned to the shops. Now he gets me a smaller present that he chooses and he gets me something else that we have both agreed on. I usually make sure that the presents get increasingly expensive each time So I am happy and he is happ that I am happy

He can surprise me in other ways & there are a thousand other ways to be romantic but We have both agreed not to do present surprises at least for now until he overcomes his shopping mall phobia

Busy_body:

Didn't know there was an invention called the calculator so I used my hands and toes but can deffo deduce that there are at least 364 remaining days in d year - which too are potential appreciation/gift receiving days for us ladies

Really? Like another birthday gift after the birthday.
Anyway i'm not a gift person