HardMirror:
see porn is never the problem, our need for sexual gratification is natural and unfortunately some are obsessed which cld be a problem. But porn itself can never be the problem. It is rather an outlet for an underlaying problem and yes maziomenuko whom you quoted is right, in SOME cases it could be a lack of sexual satisfaction in real life. But that is not always the case. So his advice cld work in many cases.

As I said it not only a lack of sex. Sometimes it is, sometimes not.

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frank317:


Lol...isn't porn supposed to be sweet and exciting? Which on is depression after porn again. All those moans of pleasure from the lady can't possibly make me depressed...mbanu.

Maziomenuka pls can porn make u depressed? U should know better

bro i weak honestly. Just read one say idleness and unproductive cant lead to depression then went ahead to blame porn for depression. Is porn supposed to be depressing? How exactly? That porn must be very boring or something cos i still dont know how porn shld be blamed for depression while we ignore other factors present at that material time. Only way porn can be depressing is from feeling guilty after watching porn.

Souless0:
Honestly going through this thread makes me depressed and want to throw up. Nairaland needs to have a delete button. Can't come and be opening account upandan

Soul ful, you need to turn your heart and mind to Christ Jesus, the lover of your soul.

You can only find fulfillment and satisfaction in this life through your heart set on Him. The pleasure of porn is not real but just a counter.

It is well with you spirit soul and body in Jesus name. Amen

seunbrotherly:


this is not an APC site and he should not discriminate PDP supporters.


Nothing about bend here rather appeal.

better ways to appeal, you sound like you are threatening him. By the way i atiku has my vote.

HardMirror:
at the bolded, i cant believe what i just read up there 'idleness and unproductiveness cant lead to depression, but porn can lead to depression? Jesus! Martinez i cant believe i just read that. Are you for real? I rest my case. Read and think over what you just wrote up there first

lol. Why is it that when I quit porn during the ASUU strike and I was still idle, the depression vanish? How do you explain that The depression vanished. Staying at home for seven months and awaiting to resume school after I got admission is not enough for me to get depressed maybe for you and others it's enough but for me it's no and I never did.

Martinez19:
lol. Why is it that when I quit porn during the ASUU strike and I was still idle, the depression vanish? How do you explain that The depression vanished. Staying at home for seven months and awaiting to resume school after I got admission is not enough for me to get depressed maybe for you and others it's enough but for me it's no and I never did.

you are in best position to know, but porn in itself cant make you depressed. Else explain to me how exactly it makes you depressed.

Martinez19:
lol. Why is it that when I quit porn during the ASUU strike and I was still idle, the depression vanish? How do you explain that The depression vanished. Staying at home for seven months and awaiting to resume school after I got admission is not enough for me to get depressed maybe for you and others it's enough but for me it's no and I never did.

Where u a Christian then?

HardMirror:
you are in best position to know, but porn in itself cant make you depressed. Else explain to me how exactly it makes you depressed.

Well I can't say, all I knew then was that when I became a heavy user, it would numb me( I won't be able to derive pleasure for normal daily activities) and then I would be depressed. Also I had this brain fog that dulled my brain. All these reverses each time I quit (even though I was still idle). Also note that I wasn't absolutely idle, I spent that months of ASUU strike around playing ps3, going out and watching porn. I stopped watching porn 4months before I resumed 100lvl on March 3rd, 2014. I swear, this is my experience. I won't have been firm on this if not for my experience. Perhaps there might be something else that causes brain fog and depression, I don't know but that's my experience.

I don't like bullshiting myself and others, I am a realist and I stand nothing to gain by being sincere about my experience.

frank317:

Where u a Christian then?

Yes I was.

Martinez19:
Well I can't say, all I knew then was that when I became a heavy user, it would numb me( I won't be able to derive pleasure for normal daily activities) and then I would be depressed. Also I had this brain fog that dulled my brain. All these reverses each time I quit (even though I was still idle). Also note that I wasn't absolutely idle, I spent that months of ASUU strike around playing ps3, going out and watching porn. I stopped watching porn 4months before I resumed 100lvl on March 3rd, 2014. I swear, this is my experience. I won't have been firm on this if not for my experience. Perhaps there might be something else that causes brain fog and depression, I don't know but that's my experience.

I don't like bullshiting myself and others, I am a realist and I stand nothing to gain by being sincere about my experience.

well i still feel everything that causes depression shld be explainable no matter how trivial or ridiculous the explanation may be. What was your appeal towards porn?

frank317:

Where u a Christian then?

good question

Martinez19:
Yes I was.

And u couldn't figure out why u were depressed after watching porn? Guy why u de fall my hand na?

It was guilt. As a christian, watching porn is bad and evil. Its also a form of fornication which the bible condemns and calls sin of the flesh. Many Christians who watch porn feel depressed because of the guilt that they are deliberately doing something shameful which is also despised by the creator.

Martinez19:
Well I can't say, all I knew then was that when I became a heavy user, it would numb me( I won't be able to derive pleasure for normal daily activities) and then I would be depressed. Also I had this brain fog that dulled my brain. All these reverses each time I quit (even though I was still idle). Also note that I wasn't absolutely idle, I spent that months of ASUU strike around playing ps3, going out and watching porn. I stopped watching porn 4months before I resumed 100lvl on March 3rd, 2014. I swear, this is my experience. I won't have been firm on this if not for my experience. Perhaps there might be something else that causes brain fog and depression, I don't know but that's my experience.

I don't like bullshiting myself and others, I am a realist and I stand nothing to gain by being sincere about my experience.

A lot if things could have caused the depression. Did u mastur.bate after watching porn? Did u have a girlfriend? If no, after porn and mast.ubation, u will feel like u are missing out. This affects ur self esteem and make u feel low of urself.

HardMirror:
well i still feel everything that causes depression shld be explainable no matter how trivial or ridiculous the explanation may be. What was your appeal towards porn?

@true. Since I left porn for good in November 2013, I have never found anything that clinically depressed me.

@question
Well, If your question I what I think, then I would say I liked viewing heterosexual and lesbian porn videos. Specifically, the females must have big boobs and big ass.

Martinez19:
@true. Since I left porn for good in November 2013, I have never found anything that clinically depressed me.

@question
Well, If your question I what I think, then I would say I liked viewing heterosexual and lesbian porn videos. Specifically, the females must have big boobs and big ass.

ok, you loved that, and after viewing what you love you get depressed. Is it cos you felt guilt or what exactly?

frank317:

Now she is a religious fanatic and out of my reach

You're sure about that? I find it easier bedding religious chicks lol. the difficult part is getting them to leave me and move on after I become tired of their honeypot

frank317:


A lot if things could have caused the depression. Did u mastur.bate after watching porn? Did u have a girlfriend? If no, after porn and mast.ubation, u will feel like u are missing out. This affects ur self esteem and make u feel low of urself.

As funny as it may sound, I have never mastubated in my life. Then I just watched porn only. I didn't have a girlfriend then.

@bold
Truthfully speaking, I never felt low in my self esteem.

Well as HardMirror suggested, I will ponder on what really happened then. Perhaps I have things mixed up.

HardMirror:
ok, you loved that, and after viewing what you love you get depressed. Is it cos you felt guilt or what exactly?

Well I don't know. I just felt numb and depressed and this had nothing to do with being guilty as a religious person. I vividly remember those numbing and depressing moments even though it's been five years.

Martinez19:
As funny as it may sound, I have never mastubated in my life. Then I just watched porn only. I didn't have a girlfriend then.

@bold
Truthfully speaking, I never felt low in my self esteem.

Well as HardMirror suggested, I will ponder on what really happened then. Perhaps I have things mixed up.

we are drawn to porn for a reason, if that reason aint bad, why shld it result to depression? Porn is an outlet for desire, and it is a desire no one shld be ashamed of except it stands against morality or social expectations. Eg watching gay porn cld result to depression not cos of the porn but because the viewer considers it an abomination. Etc etc

hopefulLandlord:


You're sure about that? I find it easier bedding religious chicks lol. the difficult part is getting them to leave me and move on after I become tired of their honeypot

Hmmmm... The girl fine and looks sweet. Chai...I don marryooo

frank317:


And u couldn't figure out why u were depressed after watching porn? Guy why u de fall my hand na?

It was guilt. As a christian, watching porn is bad and evil. Its also a form of fornication which the bible condemns and calls sin of the flesh. Many Christians who watch porn feel depressed because of the guilt that they are deliberately doing something shameful which is also despised by the creator.

lol. I didn't feel guilty jare. I was the type that believed god is too merciful . It was when I started being a serious christian around 2015/2016 that I became an atheist. However I still remember the numbing and depressing moments vividly. This had nothing to do with guilt.

frank317:


Hmmmm... The girl fine and looks sweet. Chai...I don marryooo

When has marriage ever stopped anyone from sleeping around? I'm not encouraging you to though

HardMirror:
we are drawn to porn for a reason, if that reason aint bad, why shld it result to depression? Porn is an outlet for desire, and it is a desire no one shld be ashamed of except it stands against morality or social expectations. Eg watching gay porn cld result to depression not cos of the porn but because the viewer considers it an abomination. Etc etc

True. Some addicts I happen to meet surprisingly used porn to cope with certain harsh aspect of their lives but in my case, porn was sweet. I did porn because it was sweet. I admit that religious guilt could play a role but in my case, I was the kind of christian that believed god is too merciful so I didn't feel guilty as new generational churches teaches that your sins are forgiven once you repent. If you doubt me, look at christ embassy youths as they have premarital sex like say they no send , iffa hear say they feel guilty. It was until I started taking christianity seriously around 2015/2016 that I became an atheist.

Christians that attend mfm, deeper life and the likes will likely feel guilty because they believe that if you do these things, enemies will enter your life and steal your star or if you sleep with a prostitute, your spirit of excellence will vanish like samson . I never felt that because I attended a new generational church.

hopefulLandlord:


When has marriage ever stopped anyone from sleeping around? I'm not encouraging you to though

Lol...