Cohomology:

lola-luv,

Some questions for you:

1. How long have you been dating this guy?
2. Are you employed? In what sector of the economy?
3. What is your educational level? What field/course/profession?
4. What is his educational level? What field/course/profession?
5. Finally, is there anything he has been complaining about concerning you for a some time, that you think has not been addressed? Think hard and well about this question.

Supply the answers then I'll tell you what went wrong, and probably how to handle the situation. Though, you may have figured it out yourself.

Agibecky:

I think another name for the Romance section should be Public Complaints Bureau (PCB).
Nigerian men and women love to whine about the shortcomings of their lovers.
It's no use crying over spilt milk.

MOBO444:

Look do i need to go on and on,i know how you ladies want to eat your cake and have it, these Niger ladies think they are smart and we men dont think deep, believe me your guy is doing some deep thinking right now and he is about to take a smart decision.
You write and talk like a nice lady and I only hope for your sake you did not do much damage back then, maybe you kept telling him they were your uncle or lecturer in school or your boss at work, now must we go into that,must we, the worst case senario is very soon you going to be in the market again looking for a relationship and your man will get himself a nice 22 or 23 years old that will get pregnant for him in 3 months ( as ladies grow older they find it had to get pregnant).
One thing you ladies dont know is once a relationship breaks up before the lady will find a new relationship (may take 9 - 10 months or 3 years depending on her age) the man already has 3 girls that are ready to carry his baby within the first month of break up, i hope you did not do much damage back then for your sake.

lola-luv:

@mobo444

Like I said before, thank you. U must be a psychic, or omnipresent. You sure do know alot, don't you? Clap for yourself!

Cohomology:

lola-luv,

How about those questions I asked?

lola-luv:

@jidobaba-thanx, that shows that most guys here are making me pay for the sins of some other girls!!! Oh well, what can I do? Guess I brought it on myself!

@Cohomology-Well, I've always known him for a long time. But we started going out about 2 years now.
We're both educated,
Since graduating, he started doing business. But the business wasn't making too much of a headway and so he decided to get a stable job, then he got the job late last year.

I got a job that wasn't too bad, but I had to resign because of some unethical stuffs going on. Since then, am just managin a very low-income job for now.

About the complaints, he didnt have any serious complaints about me! Except sometimes, when we're going out-He'd tell me to let my hair down for a change or just some other little suggestion!

But I don't really want to go indepth with the answers. Because, u neva know who might be reading that will figure out who u r. Thanx.

MOBO444:

 The young man just got a job and you cant even allow him to rest, you now want to know all his plans,i hope you are not from old Bendel state or the eastern part of Nigeria, those women are very intrested in their men wealth, is he even married to you yet ( and you already want to know so much).
 You may call me anything you want sister, but the home truth is you are the one about to get kicked out, the reason there are so many sigle old unmarried Nigeria women out there is cos of greed, just wait till he goes for that young smashing 23 years old lady the apple of his eyes

The craddle-robber talks

whiteroses:

some men are scum of the earth, i was there for a guy through watever when the money was gone i was there too, he had no real friends i was playing wifey and friend at the same time who told him i liked playing xbox kmt and I think he suck in life i only lied that he's doing well this foolish fool broke up with me when he knew i needed him at the time, i was confused its amazing how men transform, the person that wont sleep if i dont sleep so they just delete you like that. i think you should forget this bf of yours and move on everygirl deserve a man that appreciate them, if you are no longer relevant to him sticking around only makes you a joke

lola-luv:

I previously started a thread some days ago about 'how I allowed a good man slip my hands'. But I can't even continue writing that one again because I have stuff happenin presently, The other story is about the past and I have decided to let the past rest inorder to deal with this new issue bugging me.

Now here's what is happening-
I have been supportive to my boyfriend who has been on his own (doing Business) since he graduated a couple of years ago. The business isnt a big one, just enough for him to get by. At a point, he decided to look for a job as a stable means of income.

He got an one excellent one last year. An extremely well-paid international job. And there was an instant change in his character. The guy is no longer recognizable to the guy I've been dating all these while. I was with him when he didnt have a job, I stuck by him through thick and thin! Now I dont understand why he wants to treat me this way!
He is now proud, arrogant and talks down at me and others! I can't even reach him emotionally anymore! He claims he doesnt really have the time to act the way he used to,  due to the busy nature of his job, but I know better. He has changed!

Pls, I'd appreciate advice on how to make the situation better. Does anyone have valuable words of counsel?



N.B-Some1 misquoted the word 'Applicant'. I meant applicant as in 'job applicant'. I didn't want to use the word 'formally jobless' to describe my boyfriend. I think its insultive!

whiteroses:

some men are scum of the earth, i was there for a guy through watever when the money was gone i was there too, he had no real friends i was playing wifey and friend at the same time who told him i liked playing xbox kmt and I think he suck in life i only lied that he's doing well this foolish fool broke up with me when he knew i needed him at the time, i was confused its amazing how men transform, the person that wont sleep if i dont sleep so they just delete you like that. i think you should forget this bf of yours and move on everygirl deserve a man that appreciate them, if you are no longer relevant to him sticking around only makes you a joke

MOBO444:

You must have forgotten how men kept calling your phone back then and you kept saying they were admirers and you accepted gift from them and you gave them your numbers and heaven know what else you did behind his back and i bet you must have forgot a lot of other issues, how you kept dragging him for money he borrowed from you,how you belittled him,how you did this and that,how you and your fellow girl friends said he no dey try ( typical niger lady), how you kept boasting that you will find a male friend to come pick you up with his car ( even when you know he could not afford a car back then), how you must have given him some deadline ( like you have till december to get a life or a job).
You have come onhere to say you supported him and you know what that makes you, well i did need to go into that, the funny thing is Women get their salt and pepper from we men here on earth, and mind you i am happily married and live in England with my wife so i am not just some bitter brother spilling salt,but i know the mentality of the average Nigeria lady from the central,east,west and south,i will exempt the norther Nigeria lady,i grew up in warri,Delta state and i know Niger women.