defn my frnd's wedding

We're talking of a Boy/f here not a husband.

I know that my sarcastic point being she has her own husband , poster should be working on securing her own

Can't You see that the total planning and fixing of date isn't within Your influence?
Your Boy/f's birthday is his birthday, You can't do much about it.
It's either he agrees to postpone the party or not.

As for the Friend . . . . even if You were involved in the planning, You can't ask her to change the date, simply because it happens to be Your boyfriend's birthday.
At the end of the day, You still have to choose where to be.

Nope thats not the point I am making .

1. If your are close to your friend u will have been informed of the date well in advance , and would know it falls on the same dat as your BFs birthday.

2. If you are the One lady in BFs life you should be involved in planning his birthday so it should be understood that that there is a mutual agreement to postpone the Bday it is not by force that it must be on the day he was born , or you tell friend un will not be attending .


If none of the above are happening , you either failed to plan ahead or your relationship with one of the parties is not that strong .

If it is a real close friend, I will choose her wedding. I will try to convince him for both of us to attend together if possible. But if not make it up to him and celebrate together at another time.
You only get married hopefully once in a lifetime!!! On the other hand if she is a casual friend, I would most definately skip the wedding.

It is called plan. Everything starts with a plan. A friend close to you should have made known his Birthday before then so you just have to organize. It does no harm in attending one half way then going for the other unless, the events are not in the same city or state. Even at that, you can chose one and make known your presence by Telephone, e-mail, Video conferencing or webcam. You mustn't completely abandon one for the other.

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the wedding comes first, it only happens the one time. you and your bf can plan a special weekend to make up for the differnt date

I will plan ahead to attend both even if possible i'll attend the reception with my BF. my friend has already seen someone to hook up with & i must be careful not to loose mine cos she will be the first person to mock me. Since it's possible to plan the get together with my BF i can't leave my BF 4 another thing u know LOVE WAN TIN TIN,

why asking, did ur BF broke up with you for attending your friends weeding instead of his buffday?

weddings always come up mornings/afternoons even with the reception parties, and my boyfriend's birthday party will definitely be an evening/night thing. So i will go for both. But if the distances are two continents apart, - we(my bf n I) would have talked about the possibility of postponing his to the next weekend or work out something else- i'll attend the wedding. My girl gets to be married just once in her life time