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Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by theSpark(m): 3:51pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
Bro make friends and be comfortable with guys. If you have tight guys, you'll start getting contact with their sisters, girlfriends etc. Secondly, whenever you're somewhere say hi to the people around. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 4:01pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
undefeateds:Start drinking moderately, your problem is shyness and lack of confidence and booze actually helps with that, it makes you want to talk and say what's on your mind and it boost up courage as well, so start drinking. It will really open up your mind and turn you in to a social animal. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Thavik(m): 4:03pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
undefeateds: undefeateds fam, I totally understand where you are coming from, so trust me when I say I get you You see, what you have is social anxiety, most people do, and it is socially debilitating. I'm not going to tell you about building your confidence or other things like that, it won't help you much. Without what I'm about to tell you What you need is mindfulness meditation, hold on, lemme finish. mindfulness is being present in each moment, getting rid of unnecessary harm inflicting thoughts, experiencing life as it comes without being too much in your head.. With mindfulness meditation ,i have absolutely zero anxiety in any situation, for over a year now I've meditated for 10 minutes a day, and I started seeing benefits in the first 2weeks of starting the mediation Just trust me and try it out, check out any video on YouTube on mindfulness . Safe |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 4:06pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
undefeateds:Have a drink as in a few shots of liquor, you will see yourself talking and flowing nicely with the girl, Hell! You will even have the courage to lay with her. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 4:10pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
amaniro:What this guy needs is booze! No doubt. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by damselicious1(f): 4:21pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
I think when someone is an introvert this situation is very common... but the only thing you can do to help yourself is to build your confidence first, though u might feel uncomfortable when talking with people but u should keep on trying till you become a guru at that. people will even tell u that u talk too much. I was once in your shoe, that during our V. S people volunteer my name as the most gentle girl. But when I become so uncomfortable with my ways, I decided to change and today when my old friends See me they are happy that I have changed, and I relate more with people sorry for the long post 1 Like |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 5:05pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
amaniro:you type as if its easy. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by jidxin(m): 5:13pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
QueenBelle:oshey....awon adviser aye....tuale ma |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 5:17pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
jidxin:lol. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by daben1(m): 5:21pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
look at this guy o, so you think you've a problem? make your money and you'll see that you'll make real and responsible friends, you're you, you can't be like everybody Na, Haba! to me o, you don't have any single problem... I wan be like you self 1 Like |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 5:24pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
jidxin:lol |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Casido1(m): 5:30pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
The first step is to stop masturbating. 1 Like |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Newboss(m): 5:47pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
QueenBelle: It's not a stage in life His system is configured to isolation He has to deal with it himself He knows exactly what to do |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Darevofpeace(m): 6:44pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
Bros, there is nothing wrong with you,I was also like you as a teenager,I could stay indoor for day's and I must make three days rehearsal in my room to talk to a female friend even to family friend's, I was so lonely and got low self esteem.But I read a book by Tim Lahaye "Spirit controlled temperament" and "Why you act the way you do" it really opened my mind and I discovered my strengths and weakness and as of today I am a motivational speaker and I have an audience of 500 people and I even make leadership training's and seminar now.You need to discover yourself and keep adding new skill's. There is nothing wrong with you dear.Go discover yourself. 1 Like |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 7:09pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
QueenBelle:That is why as a teen, a kid should be left alone to party and experiment with friends, it gradually makes them come out of their shells, because its all part of growing up. But Nigerian parents don't understand, they will force their kids to stay indoors 24/7, how do you expect a kid to grow up and come out of his shell at that age. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Legolast: 7:14pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
undefeateds: Where in Ifè are you? |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by holluikon(m): 9:49pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
undefeateds: You're an introvert bro, try to have an extrovert male friend, he would teach you how to go about life |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Marshalxv(m): 10:35pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
Ur situation is not uncommon. you have to learn how to talk to people around you, start with those people around you b4 taking it to outsiders. You can't do this alone you need a friend that's good in communication ,who can relate to both male and female fluently, move with him and you'll be amazed by the changes you'll notice. Don't make it all about talking to girls alone. make friends, not necessarily intimate friends, hang out with people and try not to isolate yourself from crowd. Dont try to be too careful and too perfect, you're probably afraid of making mistakes and rejections. Those two are the things that sometimes bring out the best in us. Good luck bro 1 Like |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 10:43pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
mhd5757:that would be over exposure you know |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Albertone(m): 11:20pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
QueenBelle:... |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Albertone(m): 11:52pm On Oct 12, 2018 |
mhd5757:... |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 12:01am On Oct 13, 2018 |
QueenBelle:Even though, exposure has got its good sides too. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 12:25am On Oct 13, 2018 |
Albertone:i'd have told him to consult an adult or guardian and tell him everything he said here 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 1:20am On Oct 13, 2018 |
mhd5757:So he can dependent on that fake courage What he needs is to go out more often & make new friends with females especially and be prepared to receive rejection by seeing it as a normal thing u need to get better at making female friends.. KILL THE FEAR OF BEING REJECTED |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 1:25am On Oct 13, 2018 |
QueenBelle:There's nothing like over doing it... Let him go the whole nine yards |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by KalakutaRepubli: 7:01am On Oct 13, 2018 |
QueenBelle:you my kind of woman. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Albertone(m): 8:10am On Oct 13, 2018 |
QueenBelle:Alright! |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 10:21am On Oct 13, 2018 |
KalakutaRepubli:haha... You're not serious. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by princfred(m): 10:36am On Oct 13, 2018 |
Somepeople want to go into the shell but cant find it others are trying to come out of theirs. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Evangkatsoulis: 10:37am On Oct 13, 2018 |
QueenBelle: What's pitiful about not relating with girls? |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by princfred(m): 10:43am On Oct 13, 2018 |
Why was alcholic and indian hemp made if not for special cases and people like him? Forget the long stories here and follow this prescription the way you will follow malaria treatment course: Take two bottles of Origin and hero every morning before going to school (that your girl and others sef go dey hold your swag) and 2.6 tabs of ijebu hemp after school then head of to anywhere lots of people gather- football field, club, church even bus stop for 3 weeks. Don't even thank me later. Just share your testimony. |
Re: Pls,how Do I Overcome This Nonsense by Nobody: 10:44am On Oct 13, 2018 |
Evangkatsoulis:take a second to imagine your life is you've never related to one girls through out your life |
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