My ex is causing me stress. I kicked him out cos he was cheating, he did not take all his belongings, his mail still arrives, he still pays a bill here which i want him to transfer back to my name. I've been trying to get this sorted out over a long period of time, as i know he moved in with the girl. I phoned him the other day to take his belongings, as i no longer want them around the house even though they are stored in a spare room. I have told him i am now dating some one else, which he is now going mad and saying he is coming home, that i'm his. I have told him the relationship finished a long time ago that he was never there for me. I buried my dad in nov and he turned up after the burial. This is a guy who has not been there for me but how do i get it across to him that he is no longer welcome in my life.

better think again before you finally kick him out,he might really love you just that is in our nature to cheat we cant just help it

xxcarolxx, sweetie 4get your ex coz am looking for a wife

Can u cook and clean & are u light skin?

Sorry, b4 i for get, do u have Nyansh?

u'll never change ~

Mr Cork:

Sorry, b4 i for get, do u have Nyansh?

Mr Cork:

xxcarolxx, sweetie 4get your ex coz am looking for a wife

Can u cook and clean & are u light skin?

Funny guy! lol!!!!!!!!! So, yu like light skinned ladies with nyansh abii??

Light skin ladies drive me nuts, They look like ice cream (yummy yummy)

Dark skin ladies look like big mama bread (no offence)

Are you really serious 'bout ur search cuz i have a colleague in the office who's light skinned and very pretty. Although, am a bit skeptical when it comes to online dating but if you are really serious maybe i could talk to her on your behalf.

Double 08, I already kicked him out, as can't abide cheaters. No excuse for cheating in my book. iice, tried to cancel de bill cant cos he pays by direct debit and it has to come from him. Mr cork you could say im light skinned, in fact im white .

Carol, Iice's advice is the most solid so far. If the company/utility won't let you cancel because of an automatic payment scheme, talk to a manager/supervisor that can advise you. There has to be a way to get that bill in your name, especially since he no longer lives in the home with you. If all else fails, I'd take out an order of protection against the ex and have a copy sent to the billing department; that should help in getting the bill put directly in your name and solve the issue of the ex and his 'you're mine' attitude.

As for the ex, don't take him back and anyone that tries to tell you that men cheat and it's in their nature. . .bull. Last time I checked, it's in my nature to avoid sharing cock and (potentially) life threatening diseases, so leave those excuses about infidelity for the birds; only a weak individual would even fall in to that line of thinking anyway and what does that do for you? Not a damn thing. Protect your heart, health and sanity; if your ex endangers any of those (or, God forbid, more than one) he's not worth the energy. I can't believe he's upset that you're with another man; talk about selfish! He was enjoying himself and dipping outside your relationship but now that you're possibly happy with someone else, he's got his hackles up! Dude is nothing more than toxic and you should avoid his type like the plague. He's probably disturbed that your aren't pining away over him and wants to maintain his hold on you. RUN, girl!

Thanks Travelista, It will be a cold day in hell before i'd go back to him. You have described him to a t, and as you say his hackles are up, but iv made it quite clear to him that is over, and i wont be going back,

190. maybe mr cork will strike it lucky 1 day, as de say a dumb priest never got a parish

@poster
for the bill, you should contact the company and ask THEM to change the billing name providing them with proof that you live here, simple as that!

for the clothes, as someone said earlier, send it to him at work or to his new address (if you have it). warn him that you will throw it in the garbage if he doesnt find a way to finally pick it up.

as for getting through him about how you feel, why should you?! just move on with your life and forget about him. delete his numbers and if he calls just hang up. the fact that you are even wasting time answering his calls and being cordial gives HIM the reason to believe that he still owns your a$$.
having your new bf answer your home phone might make him get the picture.

xxcarolxx:

190. maybe mr cork will strike it lucky 1 day, as de say a dumb priest never got a parish

yeah he reminds me of one certain 190 who was rugged around these parts 2008-2009
after asking almost all Nairaland girls out~