XDaBOSS:
3 things a lady needs to enjoy and rule her marriage:
1. Win your mother in-law heart
2. Be a good cook
3. Be humble to your husband.

And all other thing(s) will be an added bonus.

Treasuredlove:
thank you jare...you are indeed wise

And to add to what he has put down, all those shouting with holy rage, I have a question:
Do you still wash your mummy/daddy's clothes? Or do you pass the task to a younger one, washerman/woman, maid, dry cleaner?
Be truthful o
When was the last time your mom/dad, elderly one sent you an errand and did not grumble?
Hmmm...answer truthfully o

UyaiIncomparabl:


Mehn. Bae. Leave these pained creatures. I find it very hard washing my clothes sef, to top another na hassle on him own.

If I will do it, I will. If I won't, you won't force me.

pocohantas:


The question people ask on certain issues will give an insight to how they view that topic.

E.g,
...If my sister slaps you, what will you do?
...Can you wash for your MIL?
...What will you do if you find out your husband is cheating?
...Can you resign your job for the marriage?
...Should married women change their number?
...Who should sit in the front sit of a man's car, his wife or mother?
...Who do you love most, your wife or mother?

Observe the questions and trend. It will tell you a lot on how they view marriage/wife. Which is why I will always say, if you meet the one that has sense...marry him immediately and respect him. Lots of them do not have sense.

OladimejiRufai:


And it is not a curse to die single.

Even Jesus was single before he left the world.

But he is coming back though... maybe he will marry then

funmisticqueen:
my dear, it is one thing for the men to talk, it is another thing for them to do what they say. Actions speak louder than words. Have you noticed the threads in romance section calling us recently?

pocohantas:


The question people ask on certain issues will give an insight to how they view that topic.

E.g,
...If my sister slaps you, what will you do?
...Can you wash for your MIL?
...What will you do if you find out your husband is cheating?
...Can you resign your job for the marriage?
...Should married women change their number?
...Who should sit in the front seat of a man's car, his wife or mother?
...Who do you love most, your wife or mother?

Observe the questions and trend. It will tell you a lot on how they view marriage/wife. Which is why I will always say, if you meet the one that has sense...marry him immediately and respect him. Lots of them do not have sense.

funmisticqueen:
your loss

tamethem:



Laziness and Pride are the problems of you ladies. No sane man would want his loving wife to be a slave for his family members.
But some situations warrant a good wife to be good to her mother in-law. Is it an everyday thing? No!

If they visit their In-laws like spending days with them. What stops a good girl from a good home to help her mother in-law with Kitchen chores and Laundry? If it
was her own parents home would she watch her mum wash her cloths while she folds her arms?

The same way you don't expect me as a man to visit my in-law and my Father in-law goes out into the compound to wash his car and I sit down reading the News paper, watching TV or Chatting.

Do I need anyone to tell me what to do before I know
its my duty as a son in-law to help out in such situation. Should I watch him Iron his cloth and walk pass. Or he goes into the backyard farm to weed and I start acting potche

There some things you don't need someone to tell you is right to do before you know its right.

This might sound weird or arkward. If I meet my mother in-law washing her cloths , I will attempt to do it for her. if she accepts I will do it. But most mothers won't want that to happen because it is a man .

nkwuocha:
There's nothing wrong in washing ones mother inlaw clothes.Although not everyone likes washing clothes.Some are used to giving out their clothes for washing.A working class lady may find this chores very demanding but wouldn't mind cooking and serving your mother in law or any other chores.

If you can afford it,get her a washing machine.If not,your wife should try and help ones in a while.But it's not supposed to be by force by fire.
Come to think of it;
She 4cks you
Get Belle for you
Born for you
Cook for you
Of course wash your clothes
Wash your pikins clothe
Still add your mama own
She go still go shop and market

Kuku kill your wife

Bros you self get hand,wash your mama clothes na.

pocohantas:


The question people ask on certain issues will give an insight to how they view that topic.

E.g,
...If my sister slaps you, what will you do?
...Can you wash for your MIL?
...What will you do if you find out your husband is cheating?
...Can you resign your job for the marriage?
...Should married women change their number?
...Who should sit in the front seat of a man's car, his wife or mother?
...Who do you love most, your wife or mother?

Observe the questions and trend. It will tell you a lot on how they view marriage/wife. Which is why I will always say, if you meet the one that has sense...marry him immediately and respect him. Lots of them do not have sense.

ShameOnAPC:
stop quoting me, take your lowlife else where.

NWANZEH:


Matured Mind

SURElee:



I'm very sure because I mentioned washing machine and laundry woman to wash on weekly basis, you rushed to reply me. You didn't read where I said if the wife can wash her own mother's clothes, nothing stops her from her Mother in laws clothes(MIL)? Abi is it the MIL you didn't understand? Now if a wife works and faces Lagos traffic like I said and has weekends to rest, and attend to family chores and kids, so you expect her to use the 48hrs of weekend rest to do laundry? Biko, how much is washing machine on konga, Jiji, and jumia or cash and carry outlet on Allen Avenue? Oh! Na only the one the wife wash with her hand go clean abi? Oh! Till she overwork herself to exhaustion before you know she is a humble and hardworking wife abi? No wonder some wives look like grannies. Call me lazy all you want I'm entitled to my opinion, there are men who know they married a wife and not a slave. And why will you work round the clock year in year out and not even be able to afford simple basic equipment to make life easy for you? As I dey, I'm waiting for oyibo man to invent the machine that will be bathing me sef hahaha.


Bottom line is enjoy life, reduce stress and get the basic things to ease stress. So before you call me lazy, know that some people who have equipments at home, have then so that the time spent on those chores can be channeled else where.

Have a great day.

funmisticqueen:
coming from a mama's boy who can't think for himself. Lol!

funmisticqueen:
the way i grew up, everyone washes their clothes, even my dad, unless someone iS ill or busy and asks for your assistance. I didnt grow up with washing machine, but this is the rule. For years my mum pestered my dad about getting a washing machine. When she saw he had a lot of financial responsibilities, she went and got one. That washing machine is 8 years old today with no issues and my dad still washes his clothes himself with the washing machine till today.

If your mother in law can wash the clothes herself, then she should. If MIL is ill or old or asks for your help and assistance then you should help. But forcing her or coercing her or using your marriage to blackmail her to wash the clothes is plain wrong, it is a sign of a double minded family. We should learn to respect each other.

Alero3Arubi:

There has been a previous post on this matter on family section.
So this is a follow up.
Try look for it and read then understand the FTC.

tamethem:




God go help u

funmisticqueen:
the way i grew up, everyone washes their clothes, even my dad, unless someone iS ill or busy and asks for your assistance. I didnt grow up with washing machine, but this is the rule. For years my mum pestered my dad about getting a washing machine. When she saw he had a lot of financial responsibilities, she went and got one. That washing machine is 8 years old today with no issues and *my dad still washes his clothes himself* with the washing machine till today.

If your mother in law can wash the clothes herself, then she should. If MIL is ill or old or asks for your help and assistance then you should help. But forcing her or coercing her or using your marriage to blackmail her to wash the clothes is plain wrong, it is a sign of a double minded family. We should learn to respect each other.

funmisticqueen:
the way i grew up, everyone washes their clothes, even my dad, unless someone iS ill or busy and asks for your assistance. I didnt grow up with washing machine, but this is the rule. For years my mum pestered my dad about getting a washing machine. When she saw he had a lot of financial responsibilities, she went and got one. That washing machine is 8 years old today with no issues and my dad still washes his clothes himself with the washing machine till today.

If your mother in law can wash the clothes herself, then she should. If MIL is ill or old or asks for your help and assistance then you should help. But forcing her or coercing her or using your marriage to blackmail her to wash the clothes is plain wrong, it is a sign of a double minded family. We should learn to respect each other.

ShameOnAPC:
this shows the type of broken home you come from, its a pity your Dad still washes his clothes himself, am sure your mom is the breadwinner

jakandeola:
dey didnt train u well and I feel pains u are Yoruba. I pray u got a man to marry u with dis ur useless shakara and itk. pocohantas have no hope again but if u join her na u sabi

Khallyella:
This man again, the mature comment you crave for is right after your post, but I'll ask you, is it a bad thing to wash for your wife's dad?

funmisticqueen:
he will still cheat so what is the point

ShameOnAPC:
you'll die of high bp on top my matter ,I don't even know you exist until you mention me, when you marry, be dragging gender equity with your husband .okponu,evening newspaper in the making

hatedisplace:
there is difference between washing the clothes she used and u and ur mother turning ur wife to laundry woman. If i may ask who was washing her clothes b4 the marriage? Is ur mother leaving with u? Does her have the time to do the washing? Is ur wife in good terms with ur mother and so
on. Don't be too fast to comdeme people. Some inlaws see themselves as god they always forgot that they have children. My inlaws are an example, always in a hurry to wash ur dirty clothes in puplic.

beeijeoma:
I am a woman and I have been married for 10years. I personally see nothing wrong in washing my mother-in- law's clothes. If his parents have unwashed clothes I will pack them and wash. I cannot imagine being in a house with them and I see them washing clothes and not help out. I love my husband and so his parents are my parents. I spent a week with my in-laws after my husband and I got married and while I was there my father- in -law asked me to help him with some of his laundry which I did willingly. The idea of being used as a slave didn't even cross my mind. I was not trying to impress them or gain anything material because my parents are quite comfortable financially. I was just raised to value relationships and it has paid off so far.

beeijeoma:
I am a woman and I have been married for 10years. I personally see nothing wrong in washing my mother-in- law's clothes. If his parents have unwashed clothes I will pack them and wash. I cannot imagine being in a house with them and I see them washing clothes and not help out. I love my husband and so his parents are my parents. I spent a week with my in-laws after my husband and I got married and while I was there my father- in -law asked me to help him with some of his laundry which I did willingly. The idea of being used as a slave didn't even cross my mind. I was not trying to impress them or gain anything material because my parents are quite comfortable financially. I was just raised to value relationships and it has paid off so far.

jakandeola:
sisisioge cococandy funmisticqueen yettymuse pocohantas and other useless feminist see a real woman wit 10ywars marriage. see sence you can learn here.

jakandeola:
sisisioge cococandy funmisticqueen yettymuse pocohantas and other useless feminist see a real woman wit 10ywars marriage. see sence you can learn here.

yettymuse:
This boy!