Ozkar:
because men aren't speaking out enough. Call out anyone who harasses you in any form. Sure, you'd get some backlash from both genders because the Nigerian society is permissive of evil, but you'd pass your message across.

If enough men speak up, then we might be able to correct some erroneous views that men are okay with harassment, or as a female commenter on this thread put it, 'can withstand any humiliation'.

Speaking out doesn't make one weak, and there is nothing manly about keeping quiet when we can publicly condemn bad behavior.

Baddiezz:
Lol I see my cloth customer up there oh.

Sotland:
Take a statistic of the number of Decent dressed ladies and the slay/indecent dressed ladies. I happen to ply yaba route very well back in the days and I can tell that the decent dressed ladies are rarely touched but the guys will always touch those slay/indecent dressed ladies to bully. This protest should start with them " Ladies stop Immoral/slay/indecent Dressing".. Before " Stop touching ladies" and infact it should be rephrased to[b] " Stop touch decent ladies"[/b]

Sunnymatey:
They better take this campaign to the North, cus here in the south women are treated with utmost respect compare to North where they are only useful during 'other room' activities.

pocohantas:


Which electrician did the wiring?
You people keep talking of wiring, if you see your mother, sister or daughter naked...would you go touch?

Go to hostels and you see guys moving about with boxers and their penees will be swinging from left to right like pendulum... Or the ones that just started gyming, they will be moving about without shirts, that is in addition to the swinging penees.

Or those trousers you guys wear that will pack all your crotch and I can totally outline your penees down to its cap...


Is all of the above a reason to harass any man? No it isn't. Women are also moved by sight, enough of that excuse from guys. We all love to see good things, but respecting the owner of that good thing is where self-control comes in.

misterh:
Quick question, Oga! So if a lady dresses in bikini in public, does that give a guy the right to touch her without her permission? It's even insulting to think that men are seen as monsters without brains who can't keep his hands to himself and always looking for ladies to prey on.

But these traders have shown that they're monsters.

Ozkar:
bro, if we had enough Felas and Charly boys in Nigeria, things would have been a lot better.

When office holders aren't held accountable for their actions and promises, they feel like gods - untouchable. Similarly when the average Nigerian feel they can touch, insult or hit the next Nigerian anyhow, and the other person doesn't speak out, the perpetrator feels powerful, and continues harassing others.

We cannot all be Fela, but we can at least speak up against bad when we see it, even in faceless forums.

Gggg102:


Single sense, you don't have.

So because someone did not cover herself and wrap herself like Christmas present, you have the right to touch her.

You should have told us you are an animal without self control so that you will be locked in a cage.

Even if a lady is naked, you have no right to touch her.

cyrilamx:
Truth is our society is not only hypocritical but also very prejudicial towards plights of men. calling out a semi-nude dressed lady will warrant u instant rebuke from ur co guy and insults from the lady or ladies. You will hear sb saying "you no go comot eye" or "what i wear is my business". They flaunt their cleavages and what have them to gain men's attention and still go ahead to condemn such men for making passess. However, i am not unaware that their are depraved men who will still harrass a lady even if she crested in a NUN's apparel, but indecent dressings should be criminalized same way as male "touching" cos both are harrassment.

pocohantas:


Which electrician did the wiring?
You people keep talking of wiring, if you see your mother, sister or daughter naked...would you go touch?

Go to hostels and you see guys moving about with boxers and their penees will be swinging from left to right like pendulum... Or the ones that just started gyming, they will be moving about without shirts, that is in addition to the swinging penees.

Or those trousers you guys wear that will pack all your crotch and I can totally outline your penees down to its cap...


Is all of the above a reason to harass any man? No it isn't. Women are also moved by sight, enough of that excuse from guys. We all love to see good things, but respecting the owner of that good thing is where self-control comes in.

MichaelBukamzy:
Are you talking of misano?

Fash20:
Feminists are confused.

cyrilamx:
Truth is our society is not only hypocritical but also very prejudicial towards plights of men. calling out a semi-nude dressed lady will warrant u instant rebuke from ur co guy and insults from the lady or ladies. You will hear sb saying "you no go comot eye" or "what i wear is my business". They flaunt their cleavages and what have them to gain men's attention and still go ahead to condemn such men for making passess. However, i am not unaware that their are depraved men who will still harrass a lady even if she crested in a NUN's apparel, but indecent dressings should be criminalized same way as male "touching" cos both are harrassment.

cyrilamx:
Truth is our society is not only hypocritical but also very prejudicial towards plights of men. calling out a semi-nude dressed lady will warrant u instant rebuke from ur co guy and insults from the lady or ladies. You will hear sb saying "you no go comot eye" or "what i wear is my business". They flaunt their cleavages and what have them to gain men's attention and still go ahead to condemn such men for making passess. However, i am not unaware that their are depraved men who will still harrass a lady even if she crested in a NUN's apparel, but indecent dressings should be criminalized same way as male "touching" cos both are harrassment.

Ozkar:
nonsense. You don't have a right to go about touching people in ways they don't want. That's regardless of how they dress.

kay29000:


"Go to hostels and you see guys moving about with boxers and their penees will be swinging from left to right like pendulum..."

LMAO! That one is inside hostel na... Not in public.


"Or those trousers you guys wear that will pack all your crotch and I can totally outline your penees down to its cap..."

Lol! Poco, but you know you actually have to look down to notice that. Unlike the case with girls where they practically expose 3/4 of their boob..
And you know boobs is positioned at eye level. And you and I know that boobs are more sexually arrousing than peepee's...even to girls.

In closing, lol, you really can't compare a man's sex drive to that of a woman...sex drive in men is higher. Fact. Do your research on google. Abi have you ever seen a hen chasing a cocck for sex? Lol. But in all this, I in no way condone sexual harassment.

AHCB:
if, my bro, if. Now that's the word. The truth still remain, do we have enough Fela, Charly Boy and Gani in Nigeria?

Office holders will continue to feel like demi gods because they know one truth, which is, empty vessels make the loudest noise, particularly on social media. hope you know majority of nigerians who make noise on social media don't even have PVC, talkless of them seeing what a polling unit looks like? And the ones who have pvc don't mind selling their vote. So, what's the way forward.

So, if any nigerian is harassed, abuse, beaten, punched, assaulted (sexually or otherwise) speaking out won't do nothing, especially in faceless forum, but going to the police station or knowing the right person might.

If it was about making noise IBB won't have stepped down after he annulled June 12 election.

pocohantas:


This is the mentality that lands some Nigerians in jail abroad. You better remain in this shithole country. You won't be a freeman for more than a week if you pull this stunt in developed climes.

When they throw one of your kind behind jail, y'all will start shouting feminism. Forgetting that you took a caveman mentality to where sane individuals are.

Gggg102:


Even clubhouse girls should not be touched without their permission. Common sense.

Ozkar:
I beg to differ. I don't think dressing provocatively is on the same level as touching others inappropriately.

What's more, just like the ladies that try to make it seem like harassment is a male thing, that's how you are trying to make it seem indecent dressing is a female thing. Some guys walk about on the streets with the trousers/shorts halfway down their butts with their boxers saving the world from disgusting nonsense (sometimes). Do you think of that as harassment?

If you don't, you are being hypocritical. If you do, why didn't you add it to your examples of indecent dressing that should be criminalized?

Ozkar:
in the US, government holders have stepped down because of public outrage or noise (as you call it).

Years ago, noise on social media stopped NCC from making service providers increase the cost of data.

Recently, in Nigeria, Kemi Adeosun stepped down as minister of finance after Nigerians made noise over her NYSC cert scandal.

Noise works bro, especially when we have enough voices. Nigerians are just blissfully unaware.

cyrilamx:
But the female have the right to harrass men by their nude dressing. just reacting to what u typed above not that i condone men touching nor grooping women like POTUS. You guys are not looking at the biggar pictures. indecent dressings should also be tackled same way men's touching ladies. men's sense of sight is being bamboozled daily with nudity and all society is saying, "men should look the other way or just accept it." Except u are telling me both aint harrassment.

Ozkar:
what you see or not see is totally inconsequential. It is wrong to physically harass anyone. Even as a guy, I hate being touched by strangers, male or female (yes some ladies selling stuff are guilty too).

What's more, your female ancestors likely walked about in varying degrees of nudity. In some cultures in Africa till date, women still walk about baring body parts. Some just during certain festivals. They don't get groped publicly and shamelessly.

It's not just the dressing, it is mostly our attitudes towards sex and gender that needs to change.

pocohantas:


I went to Balogun market the other day, I had to pay this young man to walk with me round the market. I knew where I was going o, but I was just tired of being touched. I had to pay for my peace. He acted like a chaperone...

cyrilamx:
Guy let look at it from a ratio base perspective. Those "predatory" yaba guys re just handful compared to decent dudes that really know where to draw the line. Agreed some guys dress shabishly or indecently. But can u in all truth compare these to ladies who see semi-nude dressing as normal? Take this for example an indecently dressed dude is easily condemned even by guys in society, but not so with a lady. instead she is termed "hot" or even garned 1k plus likes in social media. However thanks for drawing my attention to those "hawkish" type of guys. In all we all agreed that harrassment whether against men or women should be totally denounced.

chisco82:

I get you, but i mean those places you mentioned are like home, the people you are with those places are very familiar people and like close friend.

chisco82:

With the bolded, you know you are being economical with truth...i'm your own brother do were boxers at home too, do u see the swinging pendulum not really, but wearing worth you should wear at home to market is another issue.

AHCB:
[s] this isn't the US, bro.

that is because the noise was united, not divided, and the NCC wanted to score some points.

because election is around the corner. Even after the noise and corrupt allegation trailing Diezani, did GEJ do anything about it? [/s]

noise works when the noise is united.

After all the noise about child marriage in nigeria, what have been achieved? Don't people still get married to underage girls?

Ozkar:
tell me truthfully... What have you personally done about this 'nudity' harassment by women? Many men simply call them whores to their faces and behind everyone's backs, they go about making sexual moves.

For me it's not even nearly the same level of harassment. If a person walks about near-naked, I am not forced to look. Even when I do choose to look, I get to decide when to stop looking. However, if a person grab me (even if by the arm), I am forced to have body contact with them, and deciding when the body contact should end isn't even up to me.