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Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by allanphash7(m): 11:36am On Jan 01, 2019 |
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Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by Grace001: 11:36am On Jan 01, 2019 |
That’s one of the functions of religion. It’s create seperations once the other persons views is different from yours. It create “we” and “them” Bro, my advise is that giver her sometime and show her lots of love more than ever. Let her understand that you have no issue with her being a practicing Muslim and warn her not to ruin her marriage because of religion which always create a perception of “we” and “them” Tell her you still love her and respect her, but you also have the right to live a happy life that will make you free from seeing your neighbors as perceived enemy just because they practice another religion. What’s is religion without love? When you keep seeing others who have different religion views as enemy or infidel. Ask her if she still loves you for who you are or just for your religion/faith. Her answers will determine how to make her understand what negative impact religion has caused. It’s not easy to make a fanatics view things differently but with time she will through your own simple life and how you take life simple and happy without religion. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by dultmax(m): 11:38am On Jan 01, 2019 |
If truly you love her, divorce her. As a Muslim woman, she will forever be hurt thinking about you going to hell fire. And besides, it is written in the Quran 24 vs 26 “a believing man for a believing woman while a non believing man for a non believing woman” ...just divorce her and look for a lady who can explore the science world with you...you can share same views together. God will provide her with a man of same school of thought. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by loadedvibes: 11:39am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Why not just agree with her and let peace reign.. you don't have to rub your atheist views in her face |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by Harryase(m): 11:41am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Time2Smile:Nonsense! 9 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by stixz(m): 11:41am On Jan 01, 2019 |
sexybaby22:Well believe what you want to believe. In Islam, there is no forced child marriage, no terrorism, no encouragemention of slavery and illiteracy. Child marriage - Islam encourages people to marry early so as to prevent fornication and the girls con sent is very essential Terrorism- Islam says when you kill a man it's as if you have killed the whole mankind. And not beliving in Islam isn't a reason to kill another person because Allah said 'to you is your religion and them is their religion' he also said 'there is no compulsion in religion' Slavery- in Islam if you free a slave you get a big reward in return Illiteracy- the prophet said seek knowledge even if it is as far as the end of the world. Because some people have decided to do evil under the umbrella of religion definitely does not mean that's what the religion teaches. I implore you to read the translation of the Qur'an and Hadith in your free time to know more. 31 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by AnanseK(m): 11:42am On Jan 01, 2019 |
sexybaby22: Ignorant people like you will always rehearse the cliches and western stereotypes images attached to Islam. Please look inwards into your own culture and religion and see all the fallacies. I can see from your moniker that your objective in life is to be sexy and I wish you have a thousand customers in your brothel room. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by mainanalyst: 11:42am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Time2Smile:Bro, many of us are just product of indoctrinations We have been programmed from birth to believe our own religion is the best and only way to enter paradise while others are going to hellfire for not subscribing to ours. So God created humans on earth and gave them various religions to divide and will put billions of them in hell for not believing in his preferred religion ? How does that sound to you? I believed if the Indians had promoted their religion in Africa, many of you today will be defending Krishna. 28 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by theapeman4: 11:43am On Jan 01, 2019 |
mainanalyst:bitter Truth! divorce that biitch! Muslims are way backward in there thinking faculty. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by bolinjkezzy(m): 11:43am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Les:Guy used to be a Muslim and now he felt religion is a waste of time, you are there asking if he knows Jesus personally. Do you know Jesus personally or you know him based on stories you read? 26 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by Hassan88(m): 11:45am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Les: Did you enter 2019 with weed again? Which one is have you tried knowing Jesus? Didn't you read his post? 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by Preator: 11:45am On Jan 01, 2019 |
mainanalyst:Gbam. I can feel ur dilemma. Most enlightened mind will know that religion(especially as practiced in Nigeria) is a scam. Funny thing is that most people practice it as a means of getting miraculous shortcut to worldly things rather than the salvation of their soul. That's why some religious scammers grow rich on their sweat while they toil in poverty. Well, u can spare time and go through the motions so that u don't draw unwanted attention to urself. Our society is unforgiving to freethinkers. So act until u can get to a saner clime. Religion, after all, is all about what u believe. It can not be forced on you. Peace 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by ashjay001(m): 11:46am On Jan 01, 2019 |
mainanalyst: The earth, has been around for millions of years. Humans have been around for over 10000(ten thousand) years. Christianity and Islam, have been around for about 2000(two thousand) years, yet them no go allow person hear word 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by Preator: 11:47am On Jan 01, 2019 |
bolinjkezzy:Made my day 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by jesmond3945: 11:48am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Op you are very much normal and i have also advised prople to always ask questions about what they know and be convinced beyond doubt that what they know or believe has passed the minimum treshold of truth. Thats what makes you discover and invent things. The world is not perfect and if the world is not perfect, why not ask questions and discover those imperfections so as to remove them and make the world perfect. If the world was perfect then God does not exist because the imperfection of the world determines his existence. Now I am a Christian, I asked a christian priest why do you think christianity is the true religion while islam is not. He said with mere words that christianity is true while other religions are false. The same answer would be given by an imam. So now it creates more confusion because the state of your conviction has not been satisfied. I would advise you leave religion and desire to know the true God with all your heart. Seek Him and you shall find Him. Tell Him you want to be convinced beyond doubt of His love and existence. Aside that I love your quest for the truth, it shows you have advanced beyond primordial things. I have a lot to say. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by segmatic: 11:50am On Jan 01, 2019 |
So I am not alone and crazy. Hmm mainanalyst: 8 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by jesmond3945: 11:51am On Jan 01, 2019 |
In addition I want to ask adherents of both faith, what if you go to heaven and discover that the other religion was the preferred religion and not yours? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by dultmax(m): 11:51am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Don’t bother preaching....Quran 7 vs 179 And We have certainly created for Hell many of the jinn and mankind. They have hearts with which they do not understand, they have eyes with which they do not see, and they have ears with which they do not hear. Those are like livestock; rather, they are more astray. It is they who are the heedless. Also in Quran 6 vs 25 ....And among them are those who listen to you, but We have placed over their hearts coverings, lest they understand it, and in their ears deafness. And if they should see every sign, they will not believe in it. Even when they come to you arguing with you, those who disbelieve say, "This is not but legends of the former peoples.". If Allah wishes, he can open his eyes...Quran 92 vs 5-10 already explained more...... Come to think of it....We can not all be believers ....every chooses his own path. Time2Smile: 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by Abdulhakeem78(m): 11:52am On Jan 01, 2019 |
mainanalyst:Mr Op sir! I would like you tell the kinds of books you had read concerning unrealistic aspect of Allah and His Noble Messenger. The books were also read by others and nothing has happened to their religion. I used to call Socrates because Allah endowed me with the knowledge to understand Socratic method of elenchus. Sir! Let's do some critical reasoning to solve this problem. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by Protein0: 11:53am On Jan 01, 2019 |
mainanalyst:I'm interested in knowing the contradictions in the Holy book of Islam sir. Please help me by telling me some, thanks 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by philip0906(m): 11:53am On Jan 01, 2019 |
mainanalyst:You seem to be more interested in fighting religion than seeking for a way out after "scamming" your wife into getting married to you while you became an atheist 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by israelmao(m): 11:54am On Jan 01, 2019 |
I am not condemning anyone only God judges right but I want you to know every man's belief is shaped by certain force or the other there is no freethinker anywhere.My piece of advice is that you should find a common ground with your wife without making it to look like you are being coaxed or coerced. |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by Preator: 11:54am On Jan 01, 2019 |
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Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by mainanalyst: 11:56am On Jan 01, 2019 |
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Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by bolinjkezzy(m): 11:56am On Jan 01, 2019 |
In as much as I believe she wouldn't have date you talk less of marrying you if you were an atheist when she met you, it doesn't change the fact that we shouldn't try to evolve and learn new things as we grow older. You don't need to rub your atheist view on her face and if she indeed want you based on who you are and not the religion you practice, she would stay and if she's all these fanatics that goes to one Alfa or sheikh for counseling, am sorry my brother you will definitely lose her. If she indeed wants to stay last last she will say she would pray to god to change you and you will know in your mind that she will be wasting her time but don't tell her. I know because have been in that kind of situation ( though not married) but now she's cool with whatever I decided to do. With you guys married though makes it very complicated. I wish you the best. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by bolinjkezzy(m): 11:56am On Jan 01, 2019 |
I wish you the best. |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by Jamiuademola: 11:56am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Free thinker? is better to read what will benefit you to rethink back to normal my brother Islam is the Religion if you think am wrong READ !!!!!!!!!! 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by jetz(m): 11:57am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Religion been dividing nigerian since 1914...honestly only God knows the truth cos religion has caused more harm than good 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by fk001(m): 11:57am On Jan 01, 2019 |
sexybaby22: Stop the religion bashing and face the OP. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by zicoraads: 11:57am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Time2Smile:You are a hypocrite! Those who live in glass houses should never throw stones. That being said, mainanalyst, you know your religion very well and its teachings on paradise and hell fire. Your wife, as long as she is a practising Muslima, will never be comfortable with your new views. Muslims are generally less receptive about issues like these. You sound like someone who reasons with logic. You know your wife more than any other person here. You know her level of spirituality. Do you really think she will be able to live with you, knowing fully well what beliefs you now hold? Your wife, from your write-up, doesn't sound like she would. A lot of times, views like yours usually start from extensive reading and questioning of everything. Questions that religion doesn't always have answers to. If your wife isn't the type of person who reads widely, then rest assured, you are in this alone. Your marriage, I'm afraid, may become two people, living with one another; and hating on one another. Islam provides windows for divorce. You will not be able to convince her. She'll only find that path herself. But also start thinking about divorce because it may most likely come to that. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by crispus09(m): 11:58am On Jan 01, 2019 |
Op I am in your shoe as well but my own is that my wife is not a fanatic and doesn't object to my view though we 're christian, but whenever I look back to where I started as a christian and where I am today I see that I have become a freethinker. I hate what religion has done to us in this part of the world 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not Comfortable With My Religious Views by bigdot1759(m): 12:00pm On Jan 01, 2019 |
Ur religious view is ur major problem not ur wife . You only bear Muslim name but not a Muslim, not a sound Muslim @ all . Why following ur own religious ideology not what is in the Qur'an, Ur own view is over riding Qur'an view of living. And this is ur exact problem 2 Likes |
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