LordIsaac:
Marriage: the coming together of two compatible people. See how they cannot come to a compromise before they begin, how on earth do they ever think they will agree on anything later? Africans like stepping into problems that common sense and logic would have prevented and when the problems arise, they will start disturbing God and blaming "PDP".

Genesiszero:
Hello nairalanders, please help advice my cousin brother. I've been in this forum for quite a number
of times and i've seen people post their problems here and has gotten numerous solution from experienced people, so i thought i could share this here!

WARNING: might be a lengthy post!

My cousin has been in love with his girlfriend
for about 3years now, she was loving, caring, remorseful, respectful, intelligent, exposed and understandable girl. she's the dream girl that any guy could imagine and ever wanted! though she's from a rich background but has never used her superiority, class or exposure to downcast or contradict my cousin in any form.
My cousin in the other end is a working class guy with some enterpreneural investment as well, he's finacially stable and can carter for any finacial uprising. he's decent, tall, handsome, educated, learned and connected too!
Fast forward to 2months ago, he decided to take it to the next level(walking down the aisle with her),
few weeks down the line, our people went to her's and the introduction was made and the bride prise has been paid as well, he has performed all marital rites that is expected of him as it's recommended by the culture and traditon of where we come from. The white wedding is coming up in few weeks but a very big and gigantic problem eventually emerged recently, my cousin called me 2days ago and was telling me to advice him on what to do, my cousin has been living a low key life even right from our childhood days,
the latest trends doesn't freeks him, he's isolated(Not primitive), he's a gentle man always never wants unecessary attention for whatsoever
reason just like me too, but his fiancee was this classical hell of a girl who wants an elaborate wedding, a wedding that is so expensive and luxurious
to be the talk of the town, may be it's due to her background i guess but my cousing in the other end does not fansy such things, a wedding causing road blocks or unecessary commotion all in the name of getting married. Not that he could not afford the money or afford the expences, he earns from 190,000 - 230,000 monthly, i think finance is not the problem but a choice of prefernece and life style. i can remember some years back during our teenage years, he once told me that he wouldn't want more than 30 people in attendance for his wedding,
just his family, the girl's family and close friends and collegues. this might sound a bit funny huh? lol. The whole thing is now getting so serious as the girl insist
on her point of view of the wedding(classic and luxurous). he called me somtimes yesterday and was a kind of threatening to call off the wedding if the girl could not adhere to his perspectives and choice but she insist, i'm afraid guys, he's family knows about this, his parents know him even from childhood, this is his life!

As funny as this would sounds, its becoming very serious as the girl is not ready either. I tried explaining to him that
as a girl, she would like to impress her friends and collegues too, she'll want to have dignitries and other repuatble people in attendance, she even told him that she would foot the bills and cover the finances herself since he has done his responsibilties as a man, i think this is mormal for girls. i tried letting him know that its a thing that invloves two people, you and your fiancee and her voice and perspective must be considered too......

i've spoken enough, so please say your opinion on this and advise us on what to do on this, thanks!

F22RAPTOR:
Tell your cousin to give his girl the wedding of her dreams since finance is not an issue. He should stop being insensitive to her. Wealthy people keep their connections by showing off, the wedding is another opportunity. If he truly loves his girl, he'll oblige her this one time, for heaven's sake, it's the biggest time of her life. Let him drop his principles for her just this time if not he'll regret it because 5 years down the line, this wouldn't have mattered at all.

Darkseid:
Same thing I've been telling my family and I hope my future wife can read it from here; there won't be more than 20 guests at my wedding and any two people wearing the same material in the name of asoebi would be bounced at the gate.

But on a serious note, I think your bro should give the lady what she wants, one day wedding won't kill him. He is probably introverted like me and having too many guests would make him uncomfortable but he should just try and manage. The lady might have been dreaming about that day all her life.

stone350:
that man no go enjoy that marriage at all.. in a few years time the woman will be the one controlling and giving him orders.. if she can't respect this little wish of his then I don't think she will when they eventually marry

Tamarapetty:
So at this point, none of them understands each other?? Little thing like this can even make them breakup?


Since she has all the quality he wants in a lady, he should go ahead with the type of wedding her parents want, afterall, didn't he know she was from such a family before dating her? Las las all the party go end one day. . This shouldn't be an issue sef, it might even turn out he'd be the one to enjoy it most.

Tamarapetty:
So at this point, none of them understands each other?? Little thing like this can even make them breakup?


Since she has all the quality he wants in a lady, he should go ahead with the type of wedding her parents want, afterall, didn't he know she was from such a family before dating her? Las las all the party go end one day. . This shouldn't be an issue sef, it might even turn out he'd be the one to enjoy it most.

LordIsaac:
Marriage: the coming together of two compatible people. See how they cannot come to a compromise before they begin, how on earth do they ever think they will agree on anything later? Africans like stepping into problems that common sense and logic would have prevented and when the problems arise, they will start disturbing God and blaming "PDP".

LordIsaac:
Marriage: the coming together of two compatible people. See how they cannot come to a compromise before they begin, how on earth do they ever think they will agree on anything later? Africans like stepping into problems that common sense and logic would have prevented and when the problems arise, they will start disturbing God and blaming "PDP".

Dshocker:


This is not a problem in any way.
If your cousin wants to have a peaceful marriage,let him just do an elaborate wedding....After all,the wedding is just once in a life time.

Fyi0:
Buhari is a big fool!

Dshocker:


This is not a problem in any way.
If your cousin wants to have a peaceful marriage,let him just do an elaborate wedding....After all,the wedding is just once in a life time.

Headlesschicken:
If she's ready to foot d remaining bills,then i don't see d problem,buh i do wonder if dix two people v been dating at all....

Fyi0:
Buhari is a big fool!