I have been dating this girl for the last 2 years now and she is just the right girl for me. The only problem I have is that my family/friends are doing their damdest to hook me up with a Nigerian. Whenever the topic of my getting hooked up to her is brought up, they always have a Nigerian alternative for me to consider. This is grinding on my nerves full time.
Before u ask ,I grew up in Nigeria and most of those pressuring me live in Nigeria. I am going home to visit this year and am sure its gonna be a heck of a fight against them and their choice of women they will surely be presenting to me. What am I gonna do?

its all up you. prepare for war and learn to stand ur ground.

Do what feels right. If you love her then go for it. Like deniyor said, be prepared for war.

stand ur ground and go with the woman u love

Follow your heart.

Inked_Nerd:

Do what feels right. If you love her then go for it. Like deniyor said, be prepared for war.

I am really getting my arsenal all set up for the impending war Seriously wats wrong with marrying from out of ur race?

cito us:

I am really getting my arsenal all set up for the impending war Seriously wats wrong with marrying from out of your race?

That's hard to answer . I have a cousin going through the same thing right now. Have you talked to your family about their xenophobia?

My brother our black sister may be bad, but for the sake of your sister, mother and Nigeria do not bring home a filipino, we cant be that bad in Nigeria,please not a filipino, have fun with the filipino lady and drop her, in 5 years time you will look back and realise you made the right decision.

MOBO444:

My brother our black sister may be bad, but for the sake of your sister, mother and Nigeria do not bring home a filipino, we cant be that bad in Nigeria,please not a filipino, have fun with the filipino lady and drop her, in 5 years time you will look back and realise you made the right decision.

Can u educate me please on wat seem to be wrong with a filipino in 5years time. This is not a case of bad or good, rather an issue of who u are compatible with. She is down to earth and even have learnt a few of my language and delicacies.

cito us:

I am really getting my arsenal all set up for the impending war Seriously wats wrong with marrying from out of your race?

I would say some of them are just looking out for me, I would not go to the xtent of calling it being xenophobic. I would say some of the resistances are born out of ignorance cos they believe only a Nigerian will afford me a better wife.

cito us:

I would say some of them are just looking out for me, I would not go to the xtent of calling it being xenophobic. I would say some of the resistances are born out of ignorance cos they believe only a Nigerian will afford me a better wife.

I hope I didn't offend you with the xenophobic comment and don't mind MOBO, he's Nairaland's official village goat.

poster
i say dont fall for all the hook ups. A person who loves you and understands you and cares about you no matter what color or race they are is who you should be with. when you go to naija just be the educator and help these people see that life is bigger than marrying the same girl from your village.
by the way is your lady travelling with you?

Inked_Nerd:

I hope I didn't offend you with the xenophobic comment and don't mind MOBO, he's Nairaland's certified goat.

No u did not offend me, not at all.

omega25red:

poster
i say dont fall for all the hook ups. A person who loves you and understands you and cares about you no matter what color or race they are is who you should be with. when you go to naija just be the educator and help these people see that life is bigger than marrying the same girl from your village.
by the way is your lady travelling with you?

No she is not going, but may be later. Don't want her in the mids of the brouhaha.

@Poster what do you mean she can cook your delicacies and understand you local language, well i still think it is a bad idea, trust me, have fun with her and move on.
@Inker_nerd i dont understand you,why do you give the fellow wrong advice, he is about to bring home a filipino and this is all you got to say., filipino are know as international maids and servants the world over.

MOBO444:

@Poster what do you mean she can cook your delicacies and understand you local language, well i still think it is a bad idea, trust me, have fun with her and move on.
@Inker_nerd i dont understand you,why do you give the fellow wrong advice, he is about to bring home a filipino and this is all you got to say., filipino are know as international maids and servants the world over.

Yes she learnt to do some of things I listed. But I gat to say bro ur replies are rather unintelligent/dumb thanks to the highlighted line above.

cito us:


Yes she learnt to do some of things I listed. But I gat to say bro your replies are rather unintelligent/dumb thanks to the highlighted line above.

Don't you know he's the residential fool of Nairaland? lol

@ Poster: Please neglect any snide remarks against your lady. I hav a filipino friend in naija and i reali admire the lady. Her father is igbo and her mom is filipino. U r the one who is going to stand ur ground unles u dont reali want her.
@ Inked_Nerd: keep it comin',
@ mobo: u shudnt be insultive against a race created by God as yours is. It's not good at all and u shud apologise to the poster for doin' so. Wud u want some foreigner to insult ur mother or sister? Even If u wer tryin to prove a point u shud hav used other words. "use her and then move on"? Just listen to urself.

Keep what comin'?

^^^ i meant keep ur posts coming. Very original-love ur dialogue. I can't believe MOBO can be so insensitive towards this issue. I mean, how can he say that the poster shud "have fun with her and move on"? What insolence! Well, this just proves that you may teach a goat to read n write and even operate a computer, but u can Never teach it Sense!

na wa o some parents think we still live in the 19th century

sexylogan:

^^^ i meant keep your posts coming. Very original-love your dialogue. I can't believe MOBO can be so insensitive towards this issue. I mean, how can he say that the poster shud "have fun with her and move on"? What insolence! Well, this just proves that you may teach a goat to read n write and even operate a computer, but u can Never teach it Sense!

Hehehe, MOBO is a fine example indeed!!! My cousin's mom is the only one that's against the relationship. I'm in total support though, as long as she treats him well and vise versa.

Dafemo:

na wa o some parents think we still live in the 19th century

na wa o some forumites don't have anything meaningful to contribute

rodflmao

MOBO444:

My brother our black sister may be bad, but for the sake of your sister, mother and Nigeria do not bring home a filipino, we cant be that bad in Nigeria,please not a filipino, have fun with the filipino lady and drop her, in 5 years time you will look back and realise you made the right decision.

I never took note of MOBO444 until just some few hours ago
To be very humble and sincere i think this dude is the dumbest fellow around at the moment
He types as creepy as he really is.

Inked_Nerd:

I hope I didn't offend you with the xenophobic comment and don't mind MOBO, he's Nairaland's official village goat.

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU ON THIS

talknafree:

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU ON THIS

LMAO LMAO

cito us:

I have been dating this girl for the last 2 years now and she is just the right girl for me. The only problem I have is that my family/friends are doing their damdest to hook me up with a Nigerian. Whenever the topic of my getting hooked up to her is brought up, they always have a Nigerian alternative for me to consider. This is grinding on my nerves full time.
Before u ask ,I grew up in Nigeria and most of those pressuring me live in Nigeria. I am going home to visit this year and am sure its gonna be a heck of a fight against them and their choice of women they will surely be presenting to me. What am I gonna do?

in case u need help, let me give u my mom's phone number so that she can talk common sense into ur folks head. my mom gave me only one criterion, "make sure she is a true christian", so if i marry an alien from jupiter she cares less

Poster,

I understand how you feel cause I was and is still in your situation only that Im Malaysian and my malaysian family object and disapprove me going out with my Nigrian bf. After 6 years and coming to 7, they still object but his family welcomes me to their family.

So what will I advice you to do is dont give up hope. Always let your family know that this nis the girl you love and this is what you want. If they want you to be with a Nigrian girl so badly, than they should go get married to her cause its their personal prferences. Not yours.When you keep doing this and stand firm to your ground, they will have no choice but to give in and theres nothing they can do about it. If they want to break up the family, they can continue on behaving like they are behaving right now.

I guess they are just looking out for ur best interests.
Don't be too hard on ur folks.
If u are so down with her,go ahead.
It's just that it is difficult for people from different tribes talkmore of people from different races.

At the end of day, it is u making the decisions, good or bad.

na2day?:

in case u need help, let me give u my mom's phone number so that she can talk common sense into your folks head. my mom gave me only one criterion, "make sure she is a true christian", so if i marry an alien from jupiter she cares less

Your mom is so cool!

blank:

I guess they are just looking out for your best interests.
Don't be too hard on your folks.
If u are so down with her,go ahead.
It's just that it is difficult for people from different tribes talkmore of people from different races.

At the end of day, it is u making the decisions, good or bad.

Right on point sweety!

Cause its our own life to make our own decisions, not having other people to make decisions for us.

It is all nice to be in love and crap.
EXPLORE YOUR NIGERIAN ALTERNATIVES, FIRST.
Your worst problem is taking her home later where she can be KIDNAPPED or see the HURRIBLE place you come from, and decide she is NEVER going home with you.
It is tough, but that inter racial marriage thing makes your toes tingle.

Poster,am in your shoes right now.I have a Japanese lady am staying with  for 3 to 4 years now.But am planning to go home and marry a black lady,because the cultural differences still remains.My lady is good to me,but the only difference between my lady and yours is that she got a hot temper,shouts  whenever she's angry,destroy things sometimes,she doesn't want to learn how to cook Naija food,she does want to learn about Naija culture and she believes that the woman should control the man .Even if she got all the things i need in a woman or does all the things  i like ,i will still not marry her because i cannot claim my children  if we have problem after marriage.I have seens lots of our guys here who marries to native people  ,but they can't get their children back if there's problems after marriage,they can even be deported if they trys to make any trouble with them.You can go ahead with your plans,it's better to separate when you are still dating than after marriage.For me i want to marry only one lady in my life,i don't want to marry home and abroad like other guys do here.It's your choice brother.

JesusloveU:

Poster,am in your shoes right now.I have a Japanese lady am staying with  for 3 to 4 years now.But am planning to go home and marry a black lady,because the cultural differences still remains.My lady is good to me,but the only difference between my lady and yours is that she got a hot temper,shouts  whenever she's angry,destroy things sometimes,she doesn't want to learn how to cook Naija food,she does want to learn about Naija culture and she believes that the woman should control the man .Even if she got all the things i need in a woman or does all the things  i like ,i will still not marry her because[b] i cannot claim my children  if we have problem after marriage.I have seens lots of our guys here who marries to native people  ,but they can't get their children back if there's problems after marriage,they can even be deported if they trys to make any trouble with them[/b]. You can go ahead with your plans,it's your choice.

Hmmm, interesting. Didn't know that. Note to self [me] look into child custody laws when dating and attempting to marry a non-Nigerian. Just wondering, where'd you meet this woman? Are you currently in Japan?