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Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by ImaIma1(f): 6:11pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
Batholomeu673: 4-0 by 24th minute. When it is not Huddersfield they are playing |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by Nobody: 6:12pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
ImaIma1: Like the Africans in this video clip?! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NYFI1-FTw94 Though, a movie. Its a reflection of what happens too in their society. |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by ImaIma1(f): 6:22pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
Mancala: The truth is that the case was none of the mother's business and she was not directly provoked by her DIL. Something that is not major. What if she witnessed her son and DIL fighting and she insulted him? She would have cut cane and flogged her. Seriously people should know their boundaries... young or old. I have been married for a few years. I just don't give my in-laws the allowance to insult me. 1 Like |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by ImaIma1(f): 6:24pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
WORDWORLD: I don't understand. In that movie, both of them were equally wrong too. The MIL was not absorbed of blame because she was elderly. |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by Mancala: 6:38pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
ImaIma1: True words. Mama should have excused herself and left, or kept silent, even if the son did not ensure she left first. It was none of her business. Mama should never have slapped her daughter in law. It was extremely disrespectful. An assault on the wife is an assault on the entire family. So he sent away the wife that was giving him transport money to go to work? I'm guessing his Mum gives him pocket money now huh? The man is inexperienced. His extended family is too much involved in his immediate family affairs. That is a recipe for disaster. |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by Nobody: 6:55pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
funmisticqueen:Ignore pls I hate to see such bashings on nairaland, I'd to go through all the comments because you gave me a mention. Pls I beg you. |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by ImaIma1(f): 6:57pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
Mancala: Most people don't see this. It is really extremely disrespectful to her DIL and shows that the husband doesn't have the say in his house. There are good MILs...many of them that I have met. But there are also those that make their DILs lives difficult just because they can. |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by Ishilove: 7:22pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
emeraldknytt:You are uncouth and illbred. If you can't pass across your opinions without being rude then may the seven plagues of Egypt fall upon you. Bastard |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by Nobody: 7:57pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
Ishilove: emeraldknytt this reply is a very good example of "VIOLENCE BEGETS VIOLENCE". Why you sef go dey call person moro'n haba. 1 Like |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by Nobody: 8:08pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
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Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by Korllami007: 8:09pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
Mancala: he should let His mum depart first? Did he know what was coming? |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by ghostwritter(m): 9:01pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
teresafaith:all d guys in the house...abeg make una just shift for this girl make she dey carry her curse dey go outside. 1 Like |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by kazyhm(m): 9:32pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
teresafaith: I go just kee you finish........the guy dull sha How can he not know how the wife fund the birthday ? |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by kazyhm(m): 9:55pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
funmisticqueen: And the scenario paint the wife as somebody with brain right ? She is earning way better yet can't fund her own idea without putting her own family to shame and ridicule...... You................... |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by Mancala: 9:58pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
Korllami007: I quote the OP: "As we were seeing my mum off, we met her friend coming in from the gate. She started shouting that we have been avoiding her and that we were not coming to her shop to buy things since then. She also said she has seen my wife go to other shops to buy. I was lost in words and I advised her to calm down so that we could talk. We all went back inside the house to listen to her." Classic rookie mistake! He should have seen trouble coming. Nothing good could have come out of this situation. Someone comes to your house and starts berating you and your wife for a situation that your mother is already displeased with your wife about. Your mum is already leaving and you decide to let her come back in the house ? Sir, would you have done the same? Best case outcome is that your mother is silent and hears all your business and begins to dislike your wife even more. Even if the mothers assualt on the wife was only verbal, it is still not in the long term best interest of the family. How can a mother assualt a mans wife, in their home, in the presence of a stranger? A man should learn to avoid trouble whenever possible. Sufficient unto the day are the evils thereof. 1 Like |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by kazyhm(m): 10:12pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
AmazonTopaz: Do you think a lady like this wife can own her a house.?........if she own the house the op would have been the house boy in it........silly wife |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by Korllami007: 10:24pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
Mancala: But it will be a stupidity on the husband part to tell his mum to excuse them in that scenario when the to his mother before that's impossible. Although am not supporting the MIL slapping her DIL but she shouldn't have retaliated by slapping her back, the wife has ignited her husband family wahala on her home. How do you think the husband brothers, sisters will react when they hear the news that their brother's wife slapped their mother? They won't even think if their mothers is at fault or not. Think about it yourself sir your brother's wife slaps your mother am pretty sure you will never feel good about it because you will think she disrespects your whole family by slapping your mother. The wife just made a grave mistake . To me the marriage has hit the rock because the husband's mother and the family will never forget the action and will be looking for a way kick her out even if he takes her back. |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by kazyhm(m): 10:33pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
ImaIma1: You've tried so much to make sense but....... Be sincere in answering this question. If your brother's wife slapped your mom or brag before you that she can slap your mom and heaven will not fall, will you say all this thrash ? It is even before not talk than all this nonsense you've been typing |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by ImaIma1(f): 10:46pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
kazyhm: Did this lady in this scenario brag that she would slap the woman and heaven will not fall? Or did she slap the woman because she wanted to, or because it was a retaliation? Because you are talking of a different scenario. I will ignore your first and last statement. Try to disagree or argue objectively without insults. We can agree to disagree. That is how mature people communicate. |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by Mancala: 10:47pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
Korllami007: What you call stupid is wisdom in the eyes of others. Why can't a man tell his mum to excuse him to go take care of his business? So you would rather get into an incontrollable situation than nip it in the bud before it develops all because of the fear of your mothers reaction? In times like this, you choose the lesser of two evils. This matter is absolutely none of the mothers business so even if the man did not do so, the mother should have excused herself. I make no excuses for either the mum or the daughter in law, but I primarily blame the man. Again, what good can come of a stranger berating your wife in front of your mother? Is it a good thing for your mother to have a bad impresssion of your wife? Nobody is perfect, we all have faults. A man should always protect his wife's reputation because it is intertwined with his and it's the right thing to do. I am really irritated with the way the OP wrote his story. He never even said anything positive about his wife. Even when he said she had been giving him money for transportation to go to work, which is a good thing, he said it in a negative fashion. He brought this situation upon himself by not controlling it before it got out of control. 2 Likes |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by kazyhm(m): 11:00pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
ImaIma1: OK....mature people....... Answer the question because she actually did slapped your mom......... I only put the brag scenario to put a prior warning of what your brother's wife could do. |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by ImaIma1(f): 11:54pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
kazyhm: My mum is not troublesome and will always mind her business especially in her son's marriage. So that could never happen. If my mum were the troublesome type who doesn't mind her business and goes to her son's house and slaps his wife, I would really blame my brother for giving our mum such rights and blame her for overstepping her boundaries. Then I will tell the wife that she should have had some respect for her husband and his mum enough to restrain herself. 1 Like |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by IamPlato(m): 11:56pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
funmisticqueen:this is serious |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by IamPlato(m): 11:57pm On Feb 10, 2019 |
Volumetriceff7:use Brain Na. Even If Na Small |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by IamPlato(m): 12:00am On Feb 11, 2019 |
Volumetriceff7:that Is Why You Decided To Use her Id Card To Make A Mess Of Yourself |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by kazyhm(m): 12:05am On Feb 11, 2019 |
ImaIma1: OK....reasonably sensible....... Should have said this all the while dragging.... The right to slap and the effrontery to retaliate Alrt |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by IamPlato(m): 12:08am On Feb 11, 2019 |
Biglittlelois:i Thought This Was Suppose To Be A Thread For mother Slapping wife. But Na Another Thing I De See. Btw. You Ladies Should Not Use Other Guys To Judge Us All. Some Of Us Are Looking For Wife So Dont Put Sand In Our Garri |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by kazyhm(m): 12:09am On Feb 11, 2019 |
funmisticqueen: No. Better still you choose to the wrong PM Reason I usually blame girls for getting hurt because you choose the person that hurt you. You won't tell me his was the first PM you ever had on this forum.......you choose wrongly and then warn others using your poor taste as a yardstick...... |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by ImaIma1(f): 12:27am On Feb 11, 2019 |
kazyhm: Dragging what? I was just not ok with people who were trying to absorb the MIL of any blame because she is his mum or elderly |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by kazyhm(m): 12:34am On Feb 11, 2019 |
ImaIma1: One thing is synonymous to Africa.......inherited culture...... You can't wish it away from people's perspective The issue here is endurance for a lasting family bond........ Her angry retaliation has actually put question mark on her respect for her husband and her love and acceptance of her husband family........because she has added petrol to fire and her children will feel the heat as well She also have pushed her husband in a situation that needs maturity and wisdom......... But 2 years birthday shouldn't have cause this if she really respect, love and have accepted her husband situation........ Instead of her getting in debt just for a birthday the kid will only remember by pictures........why not get in debt to help her husband be better.......... 1 Like |
Re: Was My Mother Justified To Slap My Wife? by ImaIma1(f): 12:55am On Feb 11, 2019 |
kazyhm: The truth is that the issue wasn't something that big, and it was blown out of proportion. The MIL actually caused all this problem. If only she minded her business and told them bye bye and left them to sort their issues, all this would not be going on. The man didn't marry his wife for his family to be slapping her at will. She didn't leave her father's house where her parents most likely don't beat her as an adult to come and start collecting slaps in her matrimonial home. When in-laws have a say in a marriage, that is the beginning of problems. 1 Like |
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