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Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Josh44s(m): 3:55pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Fvck the damn bitxh
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Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by molybdenum0012: 3:56pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Dear Op, You have done the right thing by turning her down, politely. You just have to tell her you are not ready for anything serious for now, that you only can be her friend. Do not be apologetic about it. After some time, her eyes will clear and the feeling she has for you will go down. This is exactly what I did when a lady I did not have feeling for asked me out. We are still friends till today though. Meanwhile Is your child struggling with school work? Do you need a personalized tutor to help improve your grade in school? Check my signature below and book a tutor anywhere in Nigeria 1 Like |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Nobody: 3:58pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Pipswick: And this poo made front page? |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Nobody: 3:58pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Please, don't include yourself in her prayer list. Just be cool, drop your communication level with her and at any possible time verbally tell her "a good man will come for you". She will indirectly know you are not into her. |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by advocate666: 4:00pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Chai, see people rejecting free pussy. I see the human race going extinct soon the way people are going nowadays.: #metoo, gays everywhere, etc. 1 Like |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by bamasite(m): 4:00pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Say the truth in a nice way! It is not always easy, when like me, you don't want the person to feel hurt. But in the final analysis, it is the best. |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by yanabasee(m): 4:00pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Offpoint1: Op said he's matured but couldn't state out his mind in a matured way to her... |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by ElsonMorali: 4:02pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
As tough as it sounds you should have told her point blank, straight up albeit nicely that you don't feel the same way. Leading her on all in the name of not wanting to hurt her will eventually hurt her even more deeply than if you'd been blunt the first time. Now, you're going to turn into a jerk with her cos she's going to wonder why you led her on. Don't get into a relationship out of pity. If you're going to let her down, do so gently. You could tell her anything to make it sting less. You could tell her that you just broke off an engagement with your fiancée and you're trying to get over that and you're not exactly ready to jump into a relationship yet. Or you could let her know that long distance relationship is hard and you don't have any plans to go back to Nigeria for a while. If you phrase your excuse in a realistic manner and you make it sound like it's your issue and not her, them she won't feel undesirable. She will respect you as an honourable man. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Nobody: 4:02pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Tell her outrightly that you do not want her Very simple!!! |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Lexusgs430: 4:02pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Pipswick: A snail garnished is presented nicely to you..... Why comot your fork?....... Chop the snail, with your fried cassava and enjoy the meal......... 2 Likes |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Iziquiel(m): 4:04pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
badadvice:Your moniker says it all. Lol 3 Likes |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by RedboneSmith(m): 4:07pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
I can relate. It's hard telling a girl who is into you that you aren't into her too. What I do in this situation is to become elusive. Seldom call, seldom pick her calls, and when I do pick, come up with excuses of 'I've been busy'. It's even easier in your case, you being out of the country. People want attention; they want people who are there for them and make the attempt to connect. If she sees you're not offering any of these, she'll eventually let go. This all sounds cowardly, but for me na the way to go. It's not me that will smack down a girl that mustered the courage to tell me how she feels. PS: You said she just broke up with a guy, which means she could just be feeling emotionally vulnerable now. Her feelings for you may only be her vulnerability acting out. She'll be fine. 3 Likes |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Nobody: 4:10pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1:Well written. I once turned down a colleague at work, well since then I became her enemy. |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by daben1(m): 4:11pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
badadvice: |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by FortuneDeGreat(m): 4:11pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
badadvice:as bad as your moniker, may you always meet your moniker. Isee |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Nobody: 4:13pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
OkaNaUbe:I did this before my above comment. Hence the hatred. Lol. |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Nobody: 4:15pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
The worst thing that you can do to someone is to date them out of pity. The lack of love will always show because you will never commit to them the way they expect you to and that’s painful. Even affects their self esteem. It’s best to tell her how you feel, it will hurt her but it’s way better than leading her on. Hopefully, she will understand someday that the truth though painful was a decent decision. 2 Likes |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by WeighWordSon(m): 4:24pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
I just got off something similar, didn't want to hurt her feelings and all that. Each day was a tug of war, as I had to struggle with pain, regret, hurt and wasted time, acting and supposedly loving up. Bro, if you no go do, abeg no do. No cage yourself, biko. My token... 1 Like |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Mydazz(m): 4:26pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Your side of the story is incomplete withouthe mentioning these facts Is she your type in terms of physical features? Do you have a serious relationship, something close to serious? What is the problem with her that makes her a No No for you? Is distance a major problem for you? I can know how to advice after all these, thanks |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Nobody: 4:26pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
be honest |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by femi4: 4:28pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
victorian:Op, follow this oyinbo pepper's advice. She spoke my mind |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by LordAdam16: 4:29pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Is there something I'm missing or why does it seem like some are giving the OP flak for wanting to be a decent human being. Regardless of gender, if someone propositions you, let the person off nicely. No one likes to hear the word "no," but how you say it matters. Not everyone would react in the same way, so have contingency plans. @OP, I'm not going to act like a know-it-all and give you a firm rundown of the exact words to say. But letting her off while ensuring you do not shatter her emotions requires you to be careful of your word choice and mindful of your actions. Tell her how much you respect her ability and choice of coming forward, how much you want to maintain a positive friendship with her, but how you know it'd be unfair to lead her on when you are not on the same page as she is. Reiterate that it's not her fault, that any guy would be lucky to be with her, but that at the moment, for aforementioned reasons, it'd be in both your best interest to tone down communication so her developing feelings for you can dissipate. This is not just chivalry, it is in keeping with the Golden Rule--treat others as you'd want to be treated. Most girls will get the memo and over the coming days and weeks lose any sort of romantic attraction they had. Some would double down because you acted thoughtfully. That's when you hunker down and start drawing boundaries and becoming a lot more firm (but never to the extent of chipping away at her self-esteem). -Lord 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Nanatrendy(f): 4:32pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
badadvice:your name says it all bad advice, if a guy doesn't like a girl nothing is gonna change, he cant force himself to accept her. |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Stanley126: 4:36pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Pipswick: Matured folks abi? You reciprocated the calls abi? you like here abi? Like this like this one thing go lead to another , you seems confused on ur stand Sir, make up ur mind and stick by it regardless of who shoot the shot |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Nobody: 4:37pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Pipswick: Man up & tell her the truth, say you love her too, AS A SISTER, make sure you say it as nicely as possible |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Stanley126: 4:38pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
[quote author=daben1 post=76375852][/quote] Shooting the shots CEO!!!! Tuale ma |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by victorian(f): 4:52pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Shugargal(f): 4:57pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
victorian:Sis take it easy na, pesin fit kpeme with this attitude oo, especially ones with fragile heart |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by AreaFada2: 5:03pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
OP, you did well. Don't start anything with her. Be caring but not too much. Make feel ok. If she claims she embarrassed, tell her no need to be. Feign being taken if possible. If you dabble into it, later she will scream "men are scum" not minding she pushed for it. |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Lerumo: 5:11pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Return the call and say your mind in a nice way. Let her know you just like her as a friend and nothing more. |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by DonroxyII: 5:22pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
victorian:Best approach .... Best !! It' ain't fair hurting a girl's ego , it took them a lot coming open to you so if you aint interested, just form extremely and excessively busy..... I even look for what she doesn't like and start doing it ..... @ Pipswick, Make yourself unavailable and don't be emotional nor complimentary ..... She will get message and drop you herself for not being to taste !! Husband is scarce ooo !! 2 Likes |
Re: She Shot Her Shot But I Don't Feel The Same by Nobody: 5:27pm On Mar 05, 2019 |
Sadly, there are fewer men with balls these day. |
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