MariaLavina:
Forget all the wash you will read here. It isn't easy to continue with a victim of rape! especially an exposed/ publicized one at that. It takes lots of courage, commitment and love to overlook the fact that someone has molested/bastardized something you treasure. It is like a poo at the tip of a plate especially for men.

I think your guy loves the Lady but he lacks the commitment and courage to look past the unfortunate incident and move on. Not that I fault him though, most relationships these days are scams and they can't stand the test of time. We think love is enough. Little do we know that it is one thing to love, but another thing to be committed.

The lady should give the guy some space, both of them were raped just in different ways. The guy should be the one seeking her to comfort and not the other way round. That's neediness!
Lady should learn to heal herself so she won't fall back into trauma if the guy misbehave.

nairamaniac:


Bad boyfriend, he doesn't deserve her. This is when she needs him the most. This rape was a test of his love and maturity.

She shd be happy its her boyfriend doing this to her than her future husband.

As far as I'm concerned, he is even worse than the rapist, cos he's raping her mentally and emotionally.

Ejusni:

Do you what rape is ....please abeg if you know you don't have anything reasonable to say shut up your fake online maturity speech....do you know the psychological effect one the boyfriend.....and all the people condemning the boy I hope your girlfriends get raped and then you can show us some of this famous online maturity you all love faking!

OPTIMUSPRIME08:
Nothing is hard there
The only issue i would agree to finding difficult is if the lady in question had encouraged the rape in one way or the other, like friend zoning the said rapist who she had given several false hope and fantasies during the course of ripping him off his earning and some of you ladies do that alot, and because we all don't reason alike i don't expect you to understand that until the guy opens up to what is eating him up i can't judge his actions

nairamaniac:


I'm sorry, please forgive me. How can I be so stupid to feel I know bout rape more than you do, when u were a firsthand product of rape.

Intact u should be the one teaching us all on this forum what rape truly is.



I hail you Sir!!!

Nimimi:
"encourage rape" my mind can't get around how you wrote that statement without regard to the tramautizing experience that woman went through.Friendzoning is no ground for rape. Stating she encouraged it means you find it acceptable for a woman to be sexually assaulted for not accepting the man to be her lover. I hope that you re read your statement carefully and if you have any sisters, female cousins, aunts etc consider the impact of the message you just wrote if a potential rapist was near any of them

Nimimi:
"encourage rape" my mind can't get around how you wrote that statement without regard to the tramautizing experience that woman went through.Friendzoning is no ground for rape. Stating she encouraged it means you find it acceptable for a woman to be sexually assaulted for not accepting the man to be her lover. I hope that you re read your statement carefully and if you have any sisters, female cousins, aunts etc consider the impact of the message you just wrote if a potential rapist was near any of them

OPTIMUSPRIME08:
am glad you have read it but translated it to suit your kind, the fact still remains that you ladies never sees any thing wrong with your bad manners and actions, why would it be so when your the weaker sex and easily tries to be seen as a victim in any circumstances..
You can't put your hands in a flam and expect it not to burn you, stay out of anything you wouldn't like to hurt you, stop playing peoples emotion's when you don't have any interest for them

MariaLavina:
Please if you have a guy who's showing interest in you and you don't feel the same. Let him go, tell him your stance and don't keep him around as a burden lifter or money machine. He will be very justified if he collects his investment in any way he can. Forget the "No man should rape a lady no matter what" . That's in fairy land not in Nigeria. Having the mindset that you can possibly chop a guy's money without paying back is fraud, when you pay for it in any way, don't come here to cry.

Oyenike01:
Hmmmm.

MariaLavina:
Well for someone who shut out people when hurt and comes back when healed. Its easy. You know why? I love them enough not to burden them with my issues.

Lets analyze this.... A lady was raped last night, the following day the rapists were arrested and the next place she could think of was her boyfriend's place? Not even her room to cry? Really? Like she lost nothing? Not even her female friend(s) who will understand her better as ladies.? C'mmon! The first person a lady in that condition would be shy/ashamed to face is Her boyfriend or whoever she has romantic relationship with. I see neediness. She expected him to take her into his arms and shower her with kisses, What about his feelings? That is selfishness!

Don't want to drag this longer before some sentimental ones start bashing me. May God heal the lady. .