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Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by Ugosample(m): 2:30pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Omoluabi16: your choice is also good as well A married woman is not less of a married woman for keeping her last name 3 Likes |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by Nobody: 2:36pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Hmmmm |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by Emary(f): 2:46pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Only insecure men would be bothered by name changes. If you marry a young girl who has just left school and has not built a career, yes, you can ask her to change her name and she can choose to submit to you and do so but you cannot force a woman who is established and known to change it immediately. The most important factor is that you love and support each other to grow. 1 Like |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by Ugosample(m): 2:52pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Tedpgrass: true that |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by 2bitrus: 3:05pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
OCEANMORGAN:There after Esau look for blessing but was deny of it.what ever she become something is her father name that will be had |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by Unconquerable: 3:07pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
There is more to a woman retaining her maiden name than meets the eye. Most of such women possess feministic tendencies. |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by janettee(f): 3:11pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
omooba969: Oh please!. I read it and it's a load of crap, next!. 2 Likes |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by bb6xt(m): 3:11pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 NKJV https://bible.com/bible/114/gen.2.24.NKJV The Bible says the man leaves his father and mother but says nothing about the woman leaving anywhere. How come it is the man that must hang unto what he has left while the woman gives up what she hasn't left? Those who insist that their spouse change her name are the ones who have the need to feel like they're "the man of the house". I don't require any validation to know I am. 2 Likes |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by rossyc(f): 3:12pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
careytommy37:Please help me ask them 1 Like |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by Cindy95(f): 3:13pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
meobizy:my dear no mind am... the thing tire meoooooooo.... someone will just wake up from one shitty hole and decide to vent his frustration on an entire state... *is that one human being*? |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by PeacenLove2: 3:33pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
I hear femaphobia is very curable |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by PeacenLove2: 3:39pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Daeylar: Well, it's a matter of choice. Give in or give out. People do things for different reasons. Some go with what they deem the lesser evil. What will make a difference is raising both our sons and daughters to have regards for other people regardless of what lies between their thighs. 2 Likes |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by PeacenLove2: 3:41pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Besides the fact that having one single family name simplifies the whole thing, it serves no other meaningful purpose. |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by ElsonMorali: 3:57pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Why would a lady want to keep her father's name after marrying? Doesn't she love the husband enough to want to share his family name with him? Where is the unity in the family when the husband and the kids bear a different surname than the woman of the house? I'm not sure I'll want that for my family. If you don't love me enough to take on my name then move along. There are probably others who would love to. 2 Likes |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by bigtt76(f): 4:33pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
They would come for you Awon feminists |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by Nobody: 4:40pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Just look at what Nigerian lawyers are arguing about. Taking us back to the stone age. I blame those silly blonde wigs they wear on their coconut head It is not allowing them to reason properly. Where is change of name written in the bible? Its a woman's decision to decide either to retain or drop her maiden name. |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by hartson(m): 4:59pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
may320:so tell us what happened that made you think otherwise |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 5:10pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
midnighter:. My case is even funny. I didn't just drop my surname. I also dropped my middle name and answer his first name as my middle name...lol. 1 Like |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by megareal: 5:11pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
bb6xt:Thank you. The onus is on the man, to leave all attachments to his father's house and cleave to his wife, but in practicing Christianity, men turn it upside down. The woman does the leaving, she does the cleaving, she is expected to submit without love, to bear all and to sacrifice all. Truth is tradition and Christianity as practised by men have really robbed women of their identities and rights. Any woman who is enlightened and understands that these shouldn't be, is labelled feminist and none submissive. It's a cold world out there for the woman, most especially the African woman. |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by ONNYX: 5:26pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Always looking for something to argue about. What manner of contemporary sophistication are you exhibiting? And some men are even supporting it simply to appear socially correct. Margaret Thatcher was an iron lady ruling UK for many years with her husband Dennis Thatcher in the background and it didn't make her ineffective or unsung. Winnie Mandela thrived on the Mandela brand and and refused to drop the name even after the divorce. And who says accomplished women do not change their names after marrying. At the peak of their careers the under-listed women married and adjusted their names to reflect their new status without any qualms; 1. Ifueko Omogui (FIIRS) 2. Abike Dabiri (HOR) 3. Hilary Clinton. It is only a deep seated emptiness that manifests in the pushing for some of these unrealistic positions. You need to wake up and realize that certain standards have been developed over the years and arguing about it doesn't just make for progress. One day we may be advocating that beyond retaining their maiden names all the female children should bear their mothers maiden name. Such baseless and avoidable confusion. Do you really understand what a name represents? If you love somebody enough and TRUST his love for you and see him as your PROVIDER (and here does not only connote a material sense) and PROTECTOR then you will consider yourself priviledged to be immersed in his life warts and all. 2 Likes |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by ONNYX: 5:32pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
ImaIma1: Not funny at all. Indeed that is how it should be. But then, I am not surprised, your moniker did you in. It exposed you completely. You come from the part of the country that truly understands the concept of marriage. And you are likely to remain married till death and you almost always get your way in all things but without as much as a confrontation. Indeed you have been taught well and some of you graduated 'magna cum laud'. Bravo! 2 Likes |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by Nobody: 5:32pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Nigerian men, always whining. "Submit this, change this, wear that... remain in your father's house, return to your father's house" I wonder what would have happened if God didn't create women for some of these men to feel superior over them. They would have committed suicide a long time ago. I don't even want to imagine what will happen if these set of men do not own dicks, the only thing that makes them feel like god... na war be that one. If you wanna see the insecurity of a black man, place him at the receiving end of a white man. He would whine more than the black woman. Tufiakwa! 1 Like |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by midnighter(f): 5:56pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
ImaIma1: Lol. you try o Hope he appreciates it |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by bionixs: 6:09pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Omoluabi16:GOD bless you, my wife didnt even think of it and my daughters will never have my back trying it 1 Like |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by bionixs: 6:14pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Lucin:mind them 1 Like |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 6:18pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
ONNYX: Actually, in my place, we bear our father's first name as our middle name...as per me and all my siblings had the same middle name(including my mum). When we get married and drop the surname, it makes little sense to hold on to the middle name. My sisters also bear their husband's first names as their middle name. |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 6:19pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by mignone(f): 6:20pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
careytommy37:It doesn't feel cool for members of a nuclear family to bear different surnames. Once an aunt with a issue similar to this (though caused by her husband who wanted their children to bear his first name as surname) went to her kid's school and quoted their names as the family name. She so felt embarrassed when d VP didn't understand before she recalled dt she bore a Mrs different frm d children. That was one of d reasons d family decided dt d kids compounded d two names,which led to d children having to shorten either their first/middle names to accommodate standard exams forms. 1 Like |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 6:28pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Omoluabi16: That's why I don't buy this feminism thing especially as it seems to have to do with turning against men and making it seem like there is a competition between the two sexes. Adopting husband's surname should not be a debate issue sincerely. Why am I holding on to my father's name? When it's not even my own name 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by Nobody: 6:43pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
midnighter: Nne, iji ya �. My mum's relatives still call by her maiden name |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by romeorailss: 6:49pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
My question is . If you don't keep your husband's name . What will u bear as Mrs ? Mrs ( maiden name ) ? While your husband's name is not in mention with the Mrs ? BUT YOUR father's name us mentioned . Anywhere u see Mrs . It is expected that after your name , your husband's name should follow . Except I'm wrong and I need someone to prove that . |
Re: Lawyers Advise Women To Drop Maiden Name After Marriage by fakuta(f): 6:50pm On Mar 16, 2019 |
Abeg I be my Papa's pikin, I love my man and we are cool with the name issue 1 Like |
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