Is it good that a man and his wife stay in separate bedrooms in the same apartments?
What are the pros and cons?

Preciousgirl:
Is it good that a man and his wife stay in separate bedrooms in the same apartments?
What are the pros and cons?

it is good when the man is a chronic abuser and hateful in nature so as to avoid story that touch.

if they dont get along then separate bedrooms is the best way to pretend that they are still happily married.

adontcare:
it is good when the man is a chronic abuser and hateful in nature so as to avoid story that touch.

What happens if the woman is the one that does all you mentioned?
learn to answer questions without sentiments.
Say yes if good and no if not .

adontcare:
it is good when the man is a chronic abuser and hateful in nature so as to avoid story that touch.

So why get married in the first place.. Nigeria girls and let me sha hook him down he will change after like a year or 2 of marriage all my friends are Married till the guy kill am

Preciousgirl:
Is it good that a man and his wife stay in separate bedrooms in the same apartments?
What are the pros and cons?

it's not good, sound sleep comes when you feel someone's presence besides you

Nothing bad about that will not want to distrub my wife with my midnight prayers and alot of things also

aanuoluwami14:


it's not good, sound sleep comes when you feel someone's presence besides you

Sleep never catch you

It will take more time to settle quarrels. Sleeping on the same bed creates opportunity to reconcile since couples will only be an arm's length away. Note that quarrel is part of marital life. It is how it is addressed that shortens or prolongs marriage.

Dunno about others, but...



No matter how wealthy I'll get or the number of rooms I'll have in my house, that woman must sleep by my side.
We might have study rooms etc but the fact remains that i must wake up with her by my side in the morning. Unless otherwise duty demands she stays awake.

You better get it into your head before we marry.

Bluezy13:
Dunno about others, but...



No matter how wealthy I'll get or the number of rooms I'll have in my house, that woman must sleep by my side.
We might have study rooms etc but the fact remains that i must wake up with her by my side in the morning. Unless otherwise duty demands she stays awake.

You better get it into your head before we marry.

Your reasons?

Why would anyone want to do that? where is the fun then in the marriage?

sexy74:

What happens if the woman is the one that does all you mentioned?
learn to answer questions without sentiments.
Say yes if good and no if not .

same goes to the woman. Mr sentiment

Here to learn.....cos I like sleeping alone.

Can only sleep in another room when she on her period

aanuoluwami14:
it's not good, sound sleep comes when you feel someone's presence besides you

... even if that other person snores like a train wreck?!

adontcare:
same goes to the woman. Mr sentiment

Ok Miss know all

adontcare:
same goes to the woman. Mr sentiment

Ok Miss know all

Preciousgirl:



Your reasons?

Many.
It gives room for discussions and problem solving.

It creates an euphoria of closeness, an atmosphere of sense of belonging and commitment.

It generates the mentality of oneness, of togetherness, of two halves making up a whole.

It allows rooms for missing someone when one's partner is not around.

It allows easy access to sexual satisfaction and romance. I wouldn't want to stress myself going to my woman's room for pleasure. I can swing and kiss her anytime in the room.

It commands respect from family members, most especially when there are empty room(s) available.

It sends strong message of marital values to people.
I always respect husband and wife sharing one room ,than separate rooms.
Because there is always this atmosphere of "they are too formal to be together that's why they are separated.

MrBrownJay1:

... even if that other person snores like a train wreck?!

Should have known that before you married the person.

Bluezy13:
Should have known that before you married the person.

as much as there are many things you can know before marriage, snoring certainly aint one of them. to do so you would have to spend the night with that person and many (even though they have sex together) dont sleep the whole night together.

MrBrownJay1:


as much as there are many things you can know before marriage, snoring certainly aint one of them. to do so you would have to spend the night with that person and many (even though they have sex together) dont sleep the whole night together.

Then put the blame on no one.


If your partner snores and you can't take it, mutually seek a remedy, of which sleeping in separate rooms is not one of them.

Bluezy13:


Then put the blame on no one.

If your partner snores and you can't take it, mutually seek a remedy, of which sleeping in separate rooms is not one of them.

in the contrary, snoring would be one reason why i would understand a couple loving one another but sleeping in separate rooms.

MrBrownJay1:

... even if that other person snores like a train wreck?!

manage it

joceey:

Sleep never catch you

She has her room ..but we sleep together.. Most time..

I like my privacy.. spreading on the bed like sheet.. .. give me time for midnight reflection..walking from room to room to see how everyone doing while they're asleep.

We don't share room..don't really like the idea of seeing women stuffs in my room..either wify or kids...

Think is not cool sleeping with your wife same room all-time..

Might not be that separate. But lemme have a room to myself where i can talk to myself.
As an introverted being, my space is my sanity.

aanuoluwami14:


it's not good, sound sleep comes when you feel someone's presence besides you

And when you can put your leg on the someone's body and sleep

Divay22:
Might not be that separate. But lemme have a room to myself where i can talk to myself.
As an introverted being, my space is my sanity.

When you get married, you give up "my", "myself" "me", for "we" "ourselves" "our".

ImaIma1:


When you get married, you give up "my", "myself" "me", for "we" "ourselves" "our".

Marriage is for oneness, but that does not mean each spouse has same likes, profession etc. Staying in same or separate rooms is just for convenience and choice. Nothing more. You can as well say, husband and wife should always, work in same office, wear the same clothes, bath together etc.. If I have a duplex , then my wife can stay in any room, but if na two bedroom flat and you get 5children then wifey has no choice but stay with husband in one room..

drharry:


Marriage is for oneness, but that does not mean each spouse has same likes, profession etc. Staying in same or separate rooms is just for convenience and choice. Nothing more. You can as well say, husband and wife should always, work in same office, wear the same clothes, bath together etc.. If I have a duplex , then my wife can stay in any room, but if na two bedroom flat and you get 5children then wifey has no choice but stay with husband in one room..

We don't lose our identity in marriage. Off course we have our different likes and activities. What i mean is that when you get married, it is no longer all about you. You have to put the other person into consideration before making decisions or major moves.

As long as both parties agree... I wouldn't mind either way

It's very bad for couples to live in separate rooms.
They grow apart