vixpal:

You can use sliding tackle to wake yours

asuustrike1:
Many fathers are disappointing

BUSHHUNTER:
Na only woman dey get all d praises abi?






wetin do their father?

babyfaceafrica:
lies...how can. you say we have few exceptional father to be appreciated?... where did you get your stats?..we have bad parents simple!!!.. there is no prove that mothers treat their child better than fathers..you are just bias to favour your gender

Xisnin:

Actually they do.
You will hardly find a mother that abandon or reject her children but we
have plenty of fathers who ditch theirs in favor of children made with concubines
or even just to punish a "disobedient" wife.

Olukat:




Fathers are relegated once a child turns adult!
Sometimes I sit and imagine the energy I'm putting in running my home
and wonder where fathers went wrong...It's sad!
Why not show your parents love for taking care of you,
why make it look like your mum was a baby mama

Harrymig1:
A good way to appreciate a mother

Xisnin:

Actually they do.
You will hardly find a mother that abandon or reject her children but we
have plenty of fathers who ditch theirs in favor of children made with concubines
or even just to punish a "disobedient" wife.

Pavore9:


Children are likely to bond with fathers who are emotionally available to them, it is beyond paying the bills. Laugh and play with your children, such are what sticks to the heart even in adulthood.

asuustrike1:

Many fathers are disappointing

Pavore9:


Children are likely to bond with fathers who are emotionally available to them, it is beyond paying the bills. Laugh and play with your children, such are what sticks to the heart even in adulthood.

kurupt1:
very big lie......A lot of fathers are inspiring,just that people don't reason deeply enough to know the impact of fathers in their lives.
All these billionaires and professionals that take care of their families financially, aren't they men?

asuustrike1:

Disappointing because many of them have neglected their responsiblities. Many do not have time for their kids rather they spend so much time in search for money. There is no bond between many fathers and their kids that is why many children are so much attached to their mother. Money is not everything in life. Many of those billionaires rarely have time for their kids rather they just splash money on them.

luluman:
Hmmm, father nko?

delivryboy:

Sir/ma please look for the book titled "The Manipulated Man" written by Ester Villa, you would know why men are always underappreciated in life. Men are created to work for the woman and "HER" children until he dies.

Rosarie:
is not true.kids see right through .book or not.
My mom tried sooo hard for we not to see my dad for whom he was but Las Las we knew.
My daughters love their dad more than me.
Why cos they see even at their tender age.so forget book

delivryboy:

It is a fairy tale dream, more like Cinderella story to have a father who would bond fully with his children, the toils of providing for their development is greater than the need for bonding. Bonding without finance is equal to bombing, fathers are created to work, however form it comes, work takes a lot of time and energy, we live to cater for the children and their mother, sometimes it's easy, most times it's not. Fathers are also responsible for putting their foot on the ground and making some tough decisions that the children may not like so they gravitate towards their mothers who welcome them with her soothing mental breas tmilk making the father look so evil for making an unkind decision that would overall help the family. Mothers are not supposed to usurp their husband's position in the hearts of their children, they systematically occupy the children's mind space, by the time the father retires, the children are all gone both physically and psychologically. As we speak I'm typing from a drilling rig.

Pavore9:


It is no fairy tale, my father did it and that did not stop him from achieving so much financially which we his children are still benefitting from an adults.

Mothers' bonding begins prenatal, no matter how a man is struggling to provide his family, he should make out time for his children. Haven't you seen or heard widows who is single-handedly provided for their children but still had time to emotionally bond with her children?

Don't ignore the fact some men feel emasculated being emotionally available to their children, some prefer spending most of their free time outside the home to "satisfy their personal needs".

delivryboy:

Sir/ma please look for the book titled "The Manipulated Man" written by Ester Villa, you would know why men are always underappreciated in life. Men are created to work for the woman and "HER" children until he dies.

delivryboy:

Women are and will always alienate their husbands from the children, it's the easiest thing they do, I have seen so many cases. And most children are unaware of the alienation or at least they realize when they are too old to change anything, when it's too late.

eyinjuege:


Mothers also toil and provide financially for their children. Even in those days of old, mothers went to the farm and grew crops to sell. In the present world, same thing still continues to happen. While a father will gladly go to the beer parlour with concubines and friends and spend his money there, a mother will ensure her family is fed first before even eating herself.
Many are not blind, and they see women toiling day and night to provide money the manner the house should have been doing. At the same time too, they are actively involved in caring for their children, feeding them, cleaning them up. I give salute to African women. That despite all the challenges faced from a patriarchal society, they have managed against all odds to still have it together.
I hardly ever see housewives anywhere around me. I see hardworking women everywhere in banks, hospitals, markets, even construction sites. These women are not working to slay, but to provide a better life for their children.
We have so many bad mothers in the society. Money squanderers, philanderers and cheating women, some build houses secretly without the man's knowledge so tell me something else and leave out good mothers narrative out of our discussion.
Men need to step up their game and emulate the women who are bringing money to the home, and still looking after their children. No be by mouth to be a parent o..

asuustrike1:

Disappointing because many of them have neglected their responsiblities. Many do not have time for their kids rather they spend so much time in search for money. There is no bond between many fathers and their kids that is why many children are so much attached to their mother. Money is not everything in life. Many of those billionaires rarely have time for their kids rather they just splash money on them.

delivryboy:

It's unfortunate your father abdicated his duties for your mother. So sorry about that.Having said that look around you, for every woman in the bank there are ten men, for every woman in the army in the office, there are 2000 men, for every woman working on the rig, their are 600 men (I work their). When women bring home money which they rarely do, it becomes so obvious and well orchestrated, men bring in billions into homes per day but it doesn't hit the news.
Your description of the father is the Nollywood superficial stereotype. Most fathers don't drink, most hardly have time for drinking as this is considered a luxury. This is what happens, when a man goes out to hustle and work in the most harsh terrains, the wife is at home making food with the money the man drops for food, it he stays late because of work, the wife begins to tell the children "your father is out there, I'm sure he has eaten by now not minding what his children will eat, oya my children take my own plate of rice and eat it, I'll go to bed without food, I'll just drink water" These lines sink into the minds of these children, endearing her to them and alienating the poor man who might not have eaten and may have been going through hell to bring home something no matter how hard it is. I have seen this in so many families. There is nothing in marriage for the man.

eyinjuege:


I have been fortunate to have a decent father. I had an all expense paid education abroad, so he is a man of means. Yet, he was still there for ALL his children. I remember our first child preparing for exams to enter secondary school. Despite lessons by tutors, my dad still taught him ( though he was harsher on his first child than the others following) I remember me going to meet him to help sort out some mathematics problems in primary school. There was one green book for pry 6, that had very hard maths in it while I was just in pry 4, and he would help me with my maths.
My father is a man I wouldn't toy with anything concerning him, and I have been more than blessed having such a man sire me. He is a man who never jokes with his children. In terms of prayers, he's A1. In terms of finances A1, in terms of being emotionally available A1.
I have so many wonderful memories of my childhood with my father. Same with my mum, but I think growing up was made better by my dad.
I have these memories, so how can my mum alienate my dad? It's just not possible.