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Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 9:48pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
crackhaus: It is your sin It did not require registration from me for that article. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by crackhaus: 9:49pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
ibkayee:Are we talking about rape or marital rape here? If you're going to try your hand at sarcasm, at least start off on the right footing. And yes, marital rape is still a deeply polarizing subject regardless of being made illegal in most countries. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 9:50pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
cococandy: This is only a part. These same women are very sexually expressive before marriage and suddenly feel suppressed in marriage. I agree that some men also feel their wives shouldn't be expressive, some are selfish, etc. And a man ejaculating is not same as orgasm. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by crackhaus: 9:50pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
bukatyne:You're not serious, wait let me try again. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 9:51pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
babyfaceafrica: Hahahahahahaha 1 Like |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 9:53pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
Omoluabi16: I very well agree that sex is a 2 people something, not 1. So no 1 person has the right to hold the other to ransom. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by crackhaus: 9:53pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
bukatyne:Okay I got into it now after switching browsers, was making use of Microsoft's Edge earlier. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 9:54pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
Ranchhoddas: I wouldn't believe it is that deep. The topic is very sensitive. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by cococandy(f): 9:55pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
bukatyne:Yes that’s only a part not all of it maybe some. And even expressive women will have their off days. I agree that some men also feel their wives shouldn't be expressive, some are selfish, etc. Bukatyne can we take a poll and ask how many men ejaculate without orgasm? (Except in cases of sexual dysfunction). Male ejaculation is male orgasm. 7 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 10:38pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
bukatyne:Right is something you have or own, constitutionally it is inalienable and fundamental. Consent is what you allow or permit. 7 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 10:42pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
bukatyne:I didn’t say anything about places it couldn’t or couldn’t be discussed. My point was that the premise of the thread was not framed around talking about how messed up the ‘laws’ were. I didn’t mention anything about physical abuse either. Whatever the marital rape you were talking about in the thread constitutes is what I’m talking about. 2 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 10:44pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
crackhaus:Your comment about ‘offensive being the word of the day’ would’ve been distasteful no matter what ‘class’ of rape I was referring to though. I’m talking about someone forcing themselves on another person sexually in any capacity. Whatever sub group you want to put it in lol. 2 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by crackhaus: 11:06pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
ibkayee:It's obvious you didn't see my comments on the deleted thread. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by ibkayee(f): 11:09pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
crackhaus:I didn’t, I was focused on the one you made in this one 1 Like |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Nobody: 11:29pm On Jun 03, 2019 |
Marital rape isn't rape. A man ejaculating is not same as orgasm. This is a classic case of mental retardation. Seek professional help OP. 10 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Richy4(m): 5:14am On Jun 04, 2019 |
I like this OP too much... Though I did not read your thread.. and based on the on going discussion here, I know that I wouldn't have been on the same page with u because I'm not a fan of forcing something on someone even if I have that right.. But the reason why I am writing this is to commend on the manners in which you were handling yourself and your argument without insulting anyone.. that's really classy.... Your manners is uncommon in any Nigerian forum. .. . what I have seen from the first to the third page is enough for a pretentious person to loose it...But no, u were still holding it together.. Pls keep that up dear...Good manners can take one to where money and qualifications can't... it will take u far.. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Gloriagee(f): 7:47am On Jun 04, 2019 |
A man can be sensitive, selfless, loving and Hor.ny. No good quality a husband exhibits exempts him from listening to his wife's NO and abiding by it and vice versa. bukatyne: 3 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Gloriagee(f): 7:50am On Jun 04, 2019 |
This literally cracked me up Richy4: 1 Like |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 7:51am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Xaos: I would advise you to learn. When I made that statement, I would have expected you to read up on the subject. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 7:54am On Jun 04, 2019 |
@Cococandy Please read up these links: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4896089/ https://thoughtcatalog.com/shakti-amarantha/2014/09/ejaculation-vs-orgasm-whats-the-difference/ Cc: Xaos |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 7:56am On Jun 04, 2019 |
eyinjuege: A woman who was injured in the act by his husband should seek redress as she deems fit. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Gloriagee(f): 8:05am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Yeah, it is assumed and if I was asked, I will have said yes, my consent is required. If after giving birth, a husband Is asked to chill at least 6 weeks before sex and he doesn't die, cant fathom what's so difficult about holding body cos a spouse said no. bukatyne: 1 Like |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 8:11am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Creamcustard: I wish I was able to answer your questions on the other thread. There is sexual abuse when someone wants to do something you find demeaning or unnatural e.g. Anal sex. I have to keep repeating this: any partner injured should seek redress. A wife who was beaten, kicked, choked etc. (outside BDSM) in the act should seek redress through whatever means they deem fit: legal with evidence, family meeting, pastoral, counseling etc. If there are issues in the marriage, they need to be addressed. If a partner is physically abusive for instance and you still comfortable enough to stay with them, you must be willing to carry out your duties. It is like saying I hate my boss, you did not report the person or resign yet the said boss gives you a task and you refuse to do it. Or you hate your parents, don't seek redress, don't call their attention to it, keep bearing their surname, keep eating their food and when they send you to the market at 9pm start complaining or refuse to go. Rape has physiological impact, yes. So does battery, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, financial abuse etc. This is not about eroding human rights in marriage: this is about each party knowing their responsibilities the moment they decided to get married. For instance, I have a right to my husband's surname and to live together after marriage. He has the right to decide his co-habitants however the right I have to live with him is greater. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 8:12am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Gloriagee: What has a husband chilling after birth got to do with the topic? |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 8:14am On Jun 04, 2019 |
crackhaus: Good for you. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 8:16am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Ladyhippolyta88: Fron your definition, A husband has the right to his wife's body yet the wife has to allow him to touch it. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 8:17am On Jun 04, 2019 |
ibkayee: If you read the thread, you would understand the link between what you call marital rape and physical abuse. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 8:19am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Richy4: Thanks for the accolades, it was learnt over time. I am not a fan of forced sex myself. Why force it when with the right frame of mind we would both enjoy ourselves? 2 Likes |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by bukatyne(f): 8:20am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Gloriagee: I don't get you. |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Gloriagee(f): 8:20am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Not really interested in going back and forth with you as you are entitled to your opinion. However, my point remains a reasonable husband typically will wait a minimum of 6 weeks cos in the interest of his wife's health and wellbeing. What then is the big deal in chilling for a bit to ensure your spouse enjoys sex to avoid messing with your spouse's mental health and wellbeing? Or doesn't the hubby get hor.ny during the 6 weeks wait? bukatyne: |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Gloriagee(f): 8:21am On Jun 04, 2019 |
Not really interested in going back and forth with you as you are entitled to your opinion. However, my point remains a reasonable husband typically will wait a minimum of 6 weeks cos its in the interest of his wife's health and wellbeing. What then is the big deal in chilling for a bit to ensure your spouse enjoys sex to avoid messing with your spouse's mental health and wellbeing? Or doesn't the hubby get hor.ny during the 6 weeks wait? bukatyne: |
Re: Any Reason Why My Thread On Marital Rape Was Deleted? by Gloriagee(f): 8:22am On Jun 04, 2019 |
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