zed7:


I've seen it all. I've been married for more than half a decade. I married a woman who did all I listed above and that was why I married her even though she wasn't the finest of the lot.
As for exes, it was all about self and instant gratification. Trust me, I move in the right circle and this were not street girls. All in all, most of them had nothing to offer so it was always easy moving on. Unfortunately they always saw it as using and dumping not taking into consideration that the sex was mutual, some got jobs and start up capital, all got great gifts and had memorable fun moments. When you move on because they ain't adding value to your life, they blame you instead of working on themselves.

kennygee:


Which is why I'm against premarital sex.

No hard feelings at the end of the day.

zed7:

No hard feelings. Premarital sex is mutual by the way. Women should stop seeing it as some form of favour or something spectacular. Men put in all the work. If the world was sane, females should pay us for providing endless pleasure. Our own pleasure is very brief...

pansophist:


I'm an hermaphrodite

zed7:


You haven't said anything. Money management is good though, kudos. The rest is just your own personal attributes.
What men want women to bring to the table is:
1. Helping manage his finances.
2. Bringing up great business ideas or letting him know of good job opportunities that can increase his resources.
3. Giving him sensible advice, for example, letting him know the dangers of certain dangerous habits.
4. Being there when he is Ill or vulnerable.
5. Loving his family and friends like your own.

We want tangible things.

Fountainofyouth:



There is nothing "wow" in what she said, and again, the earlier y"all remove whatever is blinding y'all from seeing that not all girls are "money hungry or money collecting from guys" types of ladies, the better for y'all, things are changing, we are breeding more of independent type of ladies these days compared to before, y'all should get down from your freeking low horse.

AmazonTopaz:
I am not easily swayed be money. No need for these stereotype that every lady is attracted to money.

AmazonTopaz:
I am not easily swayed be money. No need for these stereotype that every lady is attracted to money.

Winnairaking100:
Sex.do u think it easy to open our legs

DominusPrime:


aunt chill out nah...it's not like we fighting...I'm not blinded by anything. it's the bulk of what we see in the society. most girls are controlled by money so don't blame guys who have this mindset...I appreciate ladies who are not swayed by money of course...at the back of my mind I know not all ladies are like that bit it's safer to assume by default that most are and be pleasantly surprised than to assume not all are money conscious only to be disappointed time and time again...

franchasng:
if we are to quantify your benefit pack, guess what = ZERO benefit

If the guy needs a counselor, he could visit professional counselors or buy motivational books and read.

Will u be okay too if that's all u get from your boyfriend, no money, no gifts, no business connections, no helping u to get a job or contract, no nothing, just motivational talks and sex

peace0813:

What if the guy doesn't have enough money to pay a counselor or doesn't like to read books?

intoodeep:
you cant give what you don't have ......... Nigerian girls have nothing to offer ..... they are just like balloons, full outside but empty on the inside..... bunch of misfits

khiaa:
I guess since I'm not Nigerian I can't answer this question.

Biglittlelois:




This is what I can bring in a relationship;


1) Compassion and Emphaty
2) Gut feelings (positive of course)
3) Nurturing
4) Support
5) Humility
6) Help in becoming the person he wants to be


When in a relationship, I always have a sense that I am part of something bigger than myself, like there is a purpose of something higher and greater that both will achieve together, I do not go for rich, already made men ( some people here know this about me) because I feel they have no motivation to have more or they make the woman feel less of herself, ambitious is more like it for me, hope I answered your question op?

AstroG:
If not Sex,What Else??


Bunch of Unadulterated Buffalos

khiaa:
I guess since I'm not Nigerian I can't answer this question.

Biglittlelois:




This is what I can bring in a relationship;


1) Compassion and Emphaty
2) Gut feelings (positive of course)
3) Nurturing
4) Support
5) Humility
6) Help in becoming the person he wants to be


When in a relationship, I always have a sense that I am part of something bigger than myself, like there is a purpose of something higher and greater that both will achieve together, I do not go for rich, already made men ( some people here know this about me) because I feel they have no motivation to have more or they make the woman feel less of herself, ambitious is more like it for me, hope I answered your question op?

Fountainofyouth:



Uncle, I won't chill, I'm fighting with all y'all who have these mindset, let's put it this way, why not assume that not all women are swayed by money by default instead of the opposite, and some of you may have only met the cool headed, unswayed by money women but you just want to follow multitude here in bashing just to be seen as woke, yeye.

DominusPrime:


ok ma'am. oya no vex...I'll see women in this light now...don't take it so personal...it's just an opinion and words typed here do little or nothing to change people's mindset ok...I've seen so many fighters like u on nl. with time you'll burn out and get tired of all these verbal fights...

Fountainofyouth:



Words here doesn't change mindset? Some people apply what they see her in real life, some judge people based on what they type here, that is how social media works,

Oh so now I'm a fighter for typing valid words? Where, pray tell did I fight? Smh, I've marked this moniker.

DominusPrime:


I don't think I can say anything right to u tonight cos you seem quite aggressive about this whole thing whereas it's all fun to me. you said u were gonna attack every guy who has this mentality of girls liking money hence my referring to u as a fighter...albeit verbally...anyways relax...life isn't so hard...and people do not live their lives dictated by what they see here save for some really important issues and not views on women and money...

Fountainofyouth:



You know, you strike me as someone who would, can or have lost a good woman or women because of a silly thing or word you said, life isn't that hard yes, but we only can program our mindset, thinking and spoken words by what we see around us, its good to dwell on the positive ones, Goodnight.

Winnairaking100:
Sex.do u think it easy to open our legs

kennygee:
Money management. I can manage money for Africa.

I once helped an ex save 40k he spent on beer ever month, he doesn't drink anymore now self, last I heard.

Packaging: I might not be rich but there is no environment I find myself that I won't flow. I can be down to earth to the unschooled and still rub minds with professors.

Communication: there is no topic I am totally ignorant on. I know about sports, politics, local and international, tourism, agriculture, science, literature, entertainment, etc.

Better prayer life: we have to be praying partners. If we can't pray together, why are we in a relationship?

Support system: I might not have the solution to your problems but I can make you feel better after encouraging you and there are times, together, we can brainstorm for possible solutions.

Not all of us are your definition of slay queens.

kennygee:


You won't understand.

Let's just leave it at that.

All I'm saying is, not all women are empty headed. Some of you guys don't even create the chance to make your gfs your best friend. You prefer to take the serious issue to your friends.

At least, try to engage the girl in an intellectual discussion. Try to see what's in her head before you ho into a relationship with her.

Unless y'all are just about casual dating sha.

DominusPrime:


yes I have lost good women in the past, true. what's important is that I learnt from my mistakes...

and from our little chat you strike me as one who's scared of opening her heart so you form this wall by challenging as many men as you can as a way of venting your anger on the make folk...
goodnight? I was already enjoying your company...anyway take care of u...hope we can talk some other time...

Fountainofyouth:



I open my heart to people who are worth it, I only challenge men that have negative orientation about ladies, that is why I type all I type here, not really venting anger lol, I enjoy yours too

Fountainofyouth:



There is nothing "wow" in what she said, and again, the earlier y"all remove whatever is blinding y'all from seeing that not all girls are "money hungry or money collecting from guys" types of ladies, the better for y'all, things are changing, we are breeding more of independent type of ladies these days compared to before, y'all should get down from your freeking low horse.