eni4real:
That is a resourceful wife.. with good visions..

A feminist will use the whole money to buy phones, designer clothes and still accuse the man of being useless!!!

A Feminist is selfish and not homely like this young lady!!!

LMAO. This is the funniest definition of a feminist I have ever seen. You people are just making sh.t up at the point.

elektra:


LMAO. This is the funniest definition of a feminist I have ever seen.

As seen among Naija ladies!!!

No be textbook definition

Women are ungrateful. Please show your hubby this thread so he can defend himself. What you are doing is just bashing a good man, your likes probably deserve a drunk, womanizer and a gambler. 20k a week is not enough for a struggling couple with just 2 mouths? I spend 70k a month for a family of 4 but I know how many years I've worked and all the certifications, career progression and hustling I've done over the years to get my feeding allowance to this stage.

baby124:

This woman is the definition of a feminist. She’s independent even though she is not working. She has savings and is working her way to start her business so she can work. She supplements what ever the husband brings in. A feminist will never sit down and wait to use her husband’s money to buy phones. That’s a non feminist. You see that you don’t know what you are saying when you talk about feminists?

She is a textbook feminist
Not Naija feminist!! !

Naija feminist will not even agree to marry him unless he has enough money in his bank account

And if she agree for reason best known to her, she will always remind the husband that he agreed to marry him when he was a nobody... Yes, that is the word a typical Naija feminist use...

A typical Naija feminist will not seek wisdom from NL, she will take the law in to her own hand saying "you have your degree and I have mine too, you can't use our money for masters while I am pregnant"
But this homely woman is looking for a way to settle the matter as a wife without unnecessary rancor while still taking the right decision on how the money should be spent...

Naija feminist, I hail O...

desvi:


will she have peace of mind if she accepts his nonsense?
this 'for peace to reign' is an empty phrase in such a context, which you can use for trivial things but her situation is more serious and she should not be asked to swallow everything in the name of peace
she deserves better

So she should say no and fight him? Or carry the money that is not her own and run away?

calgaryFriend:


The fact the OP collects 20k a month for feeding and she still claims is not enough for 2 people to eat in 1 month shows the kind of mentality she has.

I dont blame her though, she doesn't earn yet and has no burden of responsibility so she doesn't understand what men go through.

The husband apparently knows the current income is not sustainable for a family and is using his foresight to give himself a better chance by getting another degree to enhance his chance but madamme wants to ride a car by all means.

OP you too work hard and nobody will tell you not to buy your own car, abi ?

Most are shallow. Shout out to all the women out there that understand the struggle. The cars and the houses will come, it's just time. People should learn not to eat the future today.

ireneidiva:

So she should say no and fight him? Or carry the money that is not her own and run away?

sensible advice has already been given here

desvi:


sensible advice has already been given here

Everybody is entitled to thier own opinion.

ireneidiva:

Everybody is entitled to thier own opinion.

agreed

Excesslove222:


Its not about the car...I have been fine without it for more than 2 years and I did not die.
A baby is on the way, that is why I'm bothered...it was "our plan" maybe you aren't married so you won't understand.

FYI, he bring 5k per week and I add and extra 3k to it weekly because I sew and I have lots of clients "even at home where I sew" that's why I could afford an industrial sewing machine of over 100k.
Now I have stopped adding to it, he is really feeling the brunt.

A car would have made life and my business easier for me cause I do home delivery (don't ask me to use uber cause most of my clients won't pay the extra charges), I pick up from clients houses and I also source for fabrics for my clients.

I know you still won't get the point tho.

Please in what discipline does your hubby has his BSc, what area does he want to do in his MSc program. Has he worked with his BSc and gather experience. Is he into Business?

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nuelyoyo:
Please in what discipline does your hubby has his BSc, what area does he want to do in his MSc program. Has he worked with his BSc and gather experience. Is he into Business?

He has a BSC in electrical engineering and running an MIT program right now.
He has also done several jobs with the BSC certificate in the past.
He is self employed right now.

Excesslove222:



He has a BSC in electrical engineering and running an MIT program right now.
He has also done several jobs with the BSC certificate in the past.
He is self employed right now.

Ok, I asked because I needed to understand why he may want to go for his Masters. I also asked a man who is currently running his MSc in engineering, he said the industry doesn't really need an MSc in engineering, that what is needed is a BSc, certification, and practical knowledge of what you are into. He said those who go for masters maybe considering going into lecturing, or considering holding a public position. He concluded by saying MSc in engineering only gives an added advantage in the industry. I wish your hubby good luck.