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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Nobody: 4:40pm On Jun 20
You didn't need advice before you started sleeping with her. undecided

hesilo:
Nice suggestions, but I want to be clear, is it still adultery now that she ain't into any marriage?
Is she still legally married to her husband?

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Fountainofyouth(f): 4:41pm On Jun 20
All i know, take care of that child, if you don't marry her, that's your cup of whatever.

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by izaray(f): 4:42pm On Jun 20
[quote author=hesilo post=79515554]Nice suggestions, but I want to be clear, [b]is it still adultery now that she ain't into any marriageb]?/[/b]quote]It's not! But she is smart sha

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Naijabigboi(m): 4:49pm On Jun 20
Although you shldnt have gone back to your shit but Okafor's law remains constant. Wait, are you a piece of rubbish that can be dumped and picked at will?

My broda, you are a lucky man; you have a lady pregnant for you without you paying dowry.

No need to propose or marry her.... Just go with the flow. Support her to born the baby. Take care of your child and live your life.

What if the table turns and you lose your job, wld she be there for you? Can she provide for you and your kids? Can her ex-husband Bleep and re Bleep her over and over again?

Ladies play the victim card even when you are the victim. Try to explain to her that you can't officially marry her because you don't want to spoil your chances incase you relocate to Canada but you wld support her and your child in the little way you can.

My broda, japa. You don't have to be a blocking 4 when you can play 10,8 or 9.

When Life is teaching a person lessons and you try to help, don't be surprised when you get burnt too.

Let her born the baby, take good care of her and your child but don't marry her.

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Gaggi: 4:50pm On Jun 20
I laugh at rebound relationships. People only fall back when their adventure has failed. If things had moved well, you wouldn't mean shiiit. When people start saying I realized that it's only you I love, the question is why didn't you realize it since? it's when the other option failed you now realized I was actually good and you love me abi? Get the fork out of here.

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by hesilo(m): 4:50pm On Jun 20
Zielle:
You didn't need advice before you started sleeping with her. undecided

Is she still legally married to her husband?
Nope
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by nuelsam(m): 4:57pm On Jun 20
hesilo:

She leaving me then wasn't a matter of concern for me, cos i needed a lil more focus with studies, when she left, it actually made me buckle up(Like doubled my reading habbit), like it was a spur to move up and succeed. I felt she at a point felt she was falling her hands then and wanted to "act up" a little to test my reliance...which didn't come so she sustained her move. She's not a poor girl/lady, she's employed and from a well to do family.
leave story........ Its obvious uve made up ur mind already........ So why seeking E-validation ?........ U fell right into her trap bruv, thatž the bitter truth no matter what....... Uve impregnated her........ I don't support abortion nor single parenthood........ So,carry ur cross!
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by ecstasy357(m): 5:05pm On Jun 20
hesilo:
Nice suggestions, but I want to be clear, is it still adultery now that she ain't into any marriage?

I'm a Christian, divorce isn't in my Bible. Yes, it is adultery.

If she did it to u, then her husband (ex), she can still do it to u again.
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by ecstasy357(m): 5:07pm On Jun 20
[quote author=izaray post=79515682][/quote]

"Izaray" this must be a Muslim name, right?

A Christian ought to know what adultery is, that's y I'm asking
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by AmazonTopaz: 5:10pm On Jun 20
ecstasy357:


"Izaray" this must be a Muslim name, right?

A Christian ought to know what adultery is, that's y I'm asking
The woman is divorced so they did not commit adultery lipsrsealed

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by abayomilaws(m): 5:11pm On Jun 20
The reason you are seeking advice now is because you did not love her in the first place and what you felt invariably for her is lust or infatuation. The end product of which you want to shirk the responsibility. I am pretty sure the sex and the present relationship was not borne out of love but vengeance . She left you and you felt betrayed and you now came back to get your pound of pussies. I am very sure if your parents are liberal ,they will never criticise you about your choice of marrying a mother of two so far she is your love and choice. The problem I see here is that you don't want to be responsible ...

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Nobody: 5:29pm On Jun 20
hesilo:
Nope
Ok. Whether u marry her or not is up to u. If you've to ask then u don't love her and was just there for the sex. It wasn't wise to have had unprotected sex with her knowing u don't want to marry a woman who already has two kids. But the deed has been done, now you've a child on the way. Good thing you're not denying the paternity. Happy fathering. undecided

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by united442(m): 5:35pm On Jun 20
abayomilaws:
The reason you are seeking advice now is because you did not love her in the first place and what you felt invariably for her is lust or infatuation. The end product of which you want to shirk the responsibility. I am pretty sure the sex and the present relationship was not borne out of love but vengeance . She left you and you felt betrayed and you now came back to get your pound of pussies. I am very sure if your parents are liberal ,they will never criticise you about your choice of marrying a mother of two so far she is your love and choice. The problem I see here is that you don't want to be responsible ...

deep down the o.p's mind,this is the bitter truth but he wont agreegrin

after d sex,the releasing and the pregnancy,o.p eye don clearrrrrgrin

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Nobody: 5:38pm On Jun 20
LordKO:
It's quite unfortunate that you have mistaken subservient actions and inactions of a disingenuous woman for respect, love and whatnot goodness. Sorry.

Undiscerning people like you have been making disingenuous women (people) to appear smart/clever automatically, since time immemorial. When you allow, intentionally or unintentionally, a disingenuous woman to perpetrate her sly act against you, you automatically give her reason to believe that her slyness is potent, and by extension, consciously or unconsciously, validate her arrogation of supreme smart ass.

This got me thinking about somebody.
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Adonko(m): 5:47pm On Jun 20
hesilo:
Nope
what's Nope did you see the divorce papers or she just told you with her mouth and how sure sure sure that the baby she is carrying is yours ? Yes that can be a possibility. Bro am a man, but I think your emotions is doing the thinking for you making you not to be logical cos I could deduce that from your write up as we reply cos you are already defending her ..shiiiit Jesus Christ.

Here is my lil advice
Don't rush anything now I would have advice you not to spend a single shit on her or the baby till the baby is born but if you must well is up to you . wait until the baby is delivered and if is a carbon copy of you then there will be no need for DNA ( yes you need it cos desperate times demands desperate measures), and if he/she takes the mama resemblance make sure you run a DNA to be sure you are the father is very necessary.

As par weather you will marry her or not ( all this is after the baby have been born) is up to you that is your decision to make and to live with but you must know that her ex will always be in the picture and come around sometimes even if the two kids are with him or the mum ....there is still a feeling that you can never take away no matter what you do for her with respect to her ex, and you know he can still fucccccvk her well ( am sorry am raw). Bro pray hard for divine guidance from God in this journey you are about to embark cos it will change everything about your life even to your own family.


God bless you.

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by hesilo(m): 5:51pm On Jun 20
Zielle:
Ok. Whether u marry her or not is up to u. If you've to ask then u don't love her and was just there for the sex. It wasn't wise to have had unprotected sex with her knowing u don't want to marry a woman who already has two kids. But the deed has been done, now you've a child on the way. Good thing you're not denying the paternity. Happy fathering. undecided



We were protecting, but at some point we stopped angry
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by hesilo(m): 6:05pm On Jun 20
phelonrays:
Here you were a gentleman minding his business......

But here you were overcome with LUST.....cause I won't acknowledge that the sex part was out of LOVE ...........
You might be feeling so complicated now... I know.... but please.... planning otherwise [as men in this situation usually do lipsrsealed ] won't add a pill of tablets to the injury now..... what's her present feeling since the misfortune poops up?? if positive..... then accept to play a fatherly role that await thee [either as a baby daddy or a husband].... Please don't have a second thought about her situation[by adding more to her burden]...accept life the way it's present itself for you....

Welcome to DADDY WORLD....... cheesy

#BestOfLuck
Well as for her, in my opinion o she feels unbothered. To be frank i'm the one who's bothered. As she was doing well in her own space before we started.
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by OKOATA(m): 6:10pm On Jun 20
This is one of the Mr nice guys we are talking about, someone left you years ago and you still go back to that same person. You mean to tell me she's the only woman in the world? Next thing she will put the burden of her other kids on you. Do you even know why she got divorced? I am sure she must have told you lies because all these single mothers can manipulate sissy men like you. God bless you as you train another man's child. Good luck...

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by hesilo(m): 6:12pm On Jun 20
AmazonTopaz:

Why didn't you think about the children before you agreed to shag her.
Since you love her marry her.

Marrying her wouldn't have been an issue cos i liked her to that point. The lady in question is brilliant and that's my kinda woman(but not without fault). The major issue I'm having now is that my Dad was actually planning to get me to marry one of his colleague's(tite friend)daughter. He called me like two weeks ago to remind me that it's gonna be latest year end that i should save up and do the needful. I just don't know how to break the news to him in this situation.
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by AmazonTopaz: 6:49pm On Jun 20
hesilo:

Marrying her wouldn't have been an issue cos i liked her to that point. The lady in question is brilliant and that's my kinda woman(but not without fault). The major issue I'm having now is that my Dad was actually planning to get me to marry one of his colleague's(tite friend)daughter. He called me like two weeks ago to remind me that it's gonna be latest year end that i should save up and do the needful. I just don't know how to break the news to him in this situation.
Your father should not choose a spouse for you, you are not a child.
Tell him what has happened and own up to it.

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by xpac01(m): 7:19pm On Jun 20
LordKO:
It's quite unfortunate that you have mistaken subservient actions and inactions of a disingenuous woman for respect, love and whatnot goodness. Sorry.

Undiscerning people like you have been making disingenuous women (people) to appear smart/clever automatically, since time immemorial. When you allow, intentionally or unintentionally, a disingenuous woman to perpetrate her sly act against you, you automatically give her reason to believe that her sly skill is potent, and by extension, consciously or unconsciously, validate her arrogation of supreme smart ass.

She exploited his soft spot.. The guy aint smart. He took back a vomit after many have stepped on and over it.
What a trap from daughter of Eve.
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by daddycee91(m): 7:40pm On Jun 20
LordKO:
It's quite unfortunate that you have mistaken subservient actions and inactions of a disingenuous woman for respect, love and whatnot goodness. Sorry.

Undiscerning people like you have been making disingenuous women (people) to appear smart/clever automatically, since time immemorial. When you allow, intentionally or unintentionally, a disingenuous woman to perpetrate her sly act against you, you automatically give her reason to believe that her sly skill is potent, and by extension, consciously or unconsciously, validate her arrogation of supreme smart ass.
Oga, this your grammar sef fit confuse op wey dey seek advice..lol

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Tosinex(m): 9:30pm On Jun 20
Be a responsible person, embrace your responsibility.
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Mcslize: 9:36pm On Jun 20
Emotionss:
What do you mean by you don't know what to do ?

You need to sit up and be a man. You should have thought of the pros and cons of sleeping with her without condom. Anyway congratulations

I wonder why people make love and feel so bold ejaculating in a girl without a thought of a pregnancy. They don't even care of making use of a condom. They like it raw, yet they can't pull out if the thing is coming out.

The thing feel too sweet for them to pull out.

To the OP, never ejaculate in a girl if you are not ready to father a child. Always pull out if you the type that is comfortable going raw. Pull out immediately you feel the thing coming out. That's the pull out method.

I told myself, no mistake if I am not ready for a child. If I need a child then I will ejaculate in a girl and I should be ready to be a father. Always use condom. But if u are sure of the status of the girl and like it raw, always make sure you pull out.

I never miss that.

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Emotionss(m): 10:40pm On Jun 20
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Mcslize:


I wonder why people make love and feel so bold ejaculating in a girl without a thought of a pregnancy. They don't even care of making use of a condom. They like it raw, yet they can't pull out if the thing is coming out.

The thing feel too sweet for them to pull out.

To the OP, never ejaculate in a girl if you are not ready to father a child. Always pull out if you the type that is comfortable going raw. Pull out immediately you feel the thing coming out. That's the pull out method.

I told myself, no mistake if I am not ready for a child. If I need a child then I will ejaculate in a girl and I should be ready to be a father. Always use condom. But if u are sure of the status of the girl and like it raw, always make sure you pull out.

I never miss that.


Abeg help me tell them
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by J111333(m): 10:58pm On Jun 20
Oga, the only thing you need now is to get yourself acquainted with prices of baby stuffs. That's all I have to say, thank you.

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by ModelX(m): 11:01pm On Jun 20
Op.
First stop writing like a bloody halfwit.
Second, get the f out of here and go and feed your babymama to be and her kids from another dude.
You deserve every misery coming to you from your imbecilic stupidity/gullibility.
Oh, and don't tell your parents. They will try to save you.
Foöl.
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by tommyken(m): 1:00am On Jun 21
hesilo:

You know this babe was the kinda girl everyman would want as theirs, i felt lucky back then school days cos she accepted me while the rush on her was way beyond her. I was like a king back then too cos every nigga den saw me like i was Leonardo Dicaprio with Kate Winslet. It brought me so much reps then. She loved too well then too. I got some genuine love for her. She was stubborn then sha, but her sturbborness wasn't when i was with her, she summits all to me. We had minor issues and the sturv we had got sour and she moved. Even after she left, i knew she wouldn't be an easy person to handle by anybody she ended up with cos i knw how i managed to control her(She needs High level of intelligence to control). When we "re-engaged", she actually told me, i have been the only person she loved genuinely all her life. I kinda loved her too cos she got all a woman should have(Brilliant, shapely, and smart). I would have loved to marry her, but the issue is just the Kids.
She use that same smartness to trap you....

YOU ARE NOT WISE is all I can say.

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Modphase: 4:25am On Jun 21
You are being fooled, if anyone love or loved you genuinely he or she will never leave you to try another. Women de always gentle after them turn single mother I have tonnes of such as friend. They’d be more submissive than the average girl due to experience so you need decide what u want it is not necessarily bad thing but you are definitely not her most loved or most desired. That fact I can bet on.


hesilo:

You know this babe was the kinda girl everyman would want as theirs, i felt lucky back then school days cos she accepted me while the rush on her was way beyond her. I was like a king back then too cos every nigga den saw me like i was Leonardo Dicaprio with Kate Winslet. It brought me so much reps then. She loved too well then too. I got some genuine love for her. She was stubborn then sha, but her sturbborness wasn't when i was with her, she summits all to me. We had minor issues and the sturv we had got sour and she moved. Even after she left, i knew she wouldn't be an easy person to handle by anybody she ended up with cos i knw how i managed to control her(She needs High level of intelligence to control). When we "re-engaged", she actually told me, i have been the only person she loved genuinely all her life. I kinda loved her too cos she got all a woman should have(Brilliant, shapely, and smart). I would have loved to marry her, but the issue is just the Kids.

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by enuk80(m): 7:00am On Jun 21
Mcslize:


I wonder why people make love and feel so bold ejaculating in a girl without a thought of a pregnancy. They don't even care of making use of a condom. They like it raw, yet they can't pull out if the thing is coming out.

The thing feel too sweet for them to pull out.

To the OP, never ejaculate in a girl if you are not ready to father a child. Always pull out if you the type that is comfortable going raw. Pull out immediately you feel the thing coming out. That's the pull out method.

I told myself, no mistake if I am not ready for a child. If I need a child then I will ejaculate in a girl and I should be ready to be a father. Always use condom. But if u are sure of the status of the girl and like it raw, always make sure you pull out.

I never miss that.


The pull out /withdrawal method work fine.. I advise guys to adopt the method.. Though, you won't feel the sensation as compared to when you ejaculate inside. The sensation of the pull out method is just like when you are masturbating and the sensation is totally different when you ejaculate inside
Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by Mcslize: 7:41am On Jun 21
enuk80:


The pull out /withdrawal method work fine.. I advise guys to adopt the method.. Though, you won't feel the sensation as compared to when you ejaculate inside. The sensation of the pull out method is just like when you are masturbating and the sensation is totally different when you ejaculate inside

You are right. Why it works for me very well is that it's not every time a man should ejaculate, and I can condition myself not to. Some persons say ejaculation is the real thing. But for me, even if I don't ejaculate I still feel OK at the end.

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Re: I Need Your Advice Nairalanders by enuk80(m): 9:01am On Jun 21
Mcslize:


You are right. Why it works for me very well is that it's not every time a man should ejaculate, and I can condition myself not to. Some persons say ejaculation is the real thing. But for me, even if I don't ejaculate I still feel OK at the end.


Yeah you are right.. The most important thing is to satisfy your woman before you think of ejaculating

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