biacan:
Awwww girl I know this can be so painful......so sorry

pocohantas:
I don't think she is a bitter feminist, neither do I even think it has anything to do with the Nigerian/Nairaland definition of feminism.

She was just stuck between doing what society wants and what she loves.

There are so many married women in her shoes. If you want more and for some reason, marriage, kids, location (which was induced by marriage) or ANYTHING at all is stopping it, you will be angry.

I had a conversation of this nature with my friend recently. He said, "smart people want to learn. Otherwise they feel frustrated and unfulfilled. You need to seek out people like yourself...go to where you will be stimulated."

Men do not have much of these problems. They don't carry pregnancies, they don't breastfeed, they don't have to bother about living away from home.

Anywhere they transfer them, they carry their bags and go, while the wife has to work out how to come meet him there or live away from him (with the kids). Flip the table and people will ask her how much is that job that is worth her family.

If you have to marry, marry a man who recognises your passion and how much you want it achieved. Anything less and you will end up a bitter feminist, with an innocent child paying the price.

bukatyne:
If she didn't want marriage, why did she marry?

According to the OP, she knew marriage wasn't for her before meeting le boo.

The irony is that she doesn't know what she has until she loses it.

She is actually having the best of both worlds.

laiza:
May the lord God guide you and grant you your heart desires. I see it as cheap journalism. How is that feminism? Someone is only torn between marriage and career. You can have it both if you play it well and extremely lucky. Buf it is very rare to have both, you end up losing one while chasing the other. But I'm glad she learnt her lesson before she filed for divorce.

pocohantas:
I don't think she is a bitter feminist, neither do I even think it has anything to do with the Nigerian/Nairaland definition of feminism.

She was just stuck between doing what society wants and what she loves.

There are so many married women in her shoes. If you want more and for some reason, marriage, kids, location (which was induced by marriage) or ANYTHING at all is stopping it, you will be angry.

I had a conversation of this nature with my friend recently. He said, "smart people want to learn. Otherwise they feel frustrated and unfulfilled. You need to seek out people like yourself...go to where you will be stimulated."

Men do not have much of these problems. They don't carry pregnancies, they don't breastfeed, they don't have to bother about living away from home.

Anywhere they transfer them, they carry their bags and go, while the wife has to work out how to come meet him there or live away from him (with the kids). Flip the table and people will ask her how much is that job that is worth her family.

If you have to marry, marry a man who recognises your passion and how much you want it achieved. Anything less and you will end up a bitter feminist, with an innocent child paying the price.

Suspect33:
This one doesn't want the responsibility that comes with marriage, she wants to be married and at the same time hoeing around, jumping from one guy to another and living an irresponsible life, all of which was jeopardized the moment she had a kid,just another lazy Nigerian girl who's blaming others for her own selfishness

KevinDein:

The emboldened is what genuinely annoys me. These ladies are incapable of accepting responsibility for their actions. It just has to be someone else's fault. Apparently, according to some on here, the "society" is to blame for this lady's confusions.

LordKO:
She has spoken the mind of emancipated egoists - the unchecked ones. It doesn't matter whether or not she identified with feminism and/or psychological liberalism.

liberalchick:

Beautiful! Well said. I love the part about the inner battle between what you love and what society wants you to love. In a society like ours, that’s one very strong battle.

Goodnewsbearer:


very true

genq:
This is why every man needs to MGTOW!

Another indecisive, selfish lady ruins the life of yet another SIMP who foolishly got down on one knee to marry this irrational being. After milking him dry, she decides he is no longer what she wants in her life now seeks her "independence" to wh0re around and be single again.

Woman, never forget that the wall is undefeated. You WILL age. You WILL end up lonely and you WILL regret every stupid action you have taken in your youth.

LilMissFavvy:
Beauty with brains! Yes, Career comes first, every other thing comes later. Tho I feel bad you regret having your child. You can regret marrying a man, but should never regret birthing a child you carried for 9months.

bukatyne:


Career comes first?

Hahahahahahaha