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Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by debola27(f): 7:19am On Oct 28, 2019 |
mysticwarrior:Mr. Reasonable. Instead of giving advice, you come online to insult people out of ignorance. Is mental health talk such a taboo in your dictionary it sounds 'unreasonable' to you? Lord have mercy |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by debola27(f): 7:31am On Oct 28, 2019 |
mysticwarrior:You just made a statement about what I wrote without calmly digesting it from my perspective. I commented on this Aug 13th, which means my comment was based solely on the information at hand then. The man involved only came out afterwards to add to the story, also saying there is infidelity involved. Nevertheless, even if my opinion is different from yours, you have absolutely no right to insult me because of that. Let's learn to be civil wherever we find ourselves. It goes a long way |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Nobody: 7:28am On Nov 05, 2019 |
bigeric100: Add me on telegram. My link is in my bio. Just take it easy. Everything will always be fine. Believe me on this. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by mysticwarrior(m): 8:14am On Nov 05, 2019 |
debola27:"He may be severely depressed. Or has bipolar personality. If you have a family doctor, discuss with him to assist you in convincing him in seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist" Read this your previous comments over and over and try to demystify how wrong your conclusions are, there were nowhere this woman mentioned that her husband exhibited trace of mental disorder but yet you were quick to pass a final judgment for her to" convince her husband to go see a psychiatrist" this is so annoying, tell me what statistics did you used in drawing such disappointing conclusions? In order for a fair judgment to be given justice requires fair hearing from both sides, if the other party is not available to give his own statement then it is expected to ask the woman questions before making suggestions, But you never bother to cross-exammined the OP to determine if her statements were premeditated in order to defame and discredit her husband, how els do you expect me to describe your statement other than being unreasonable. Tell me something I don't know, are you a qualified and certified psychiatrist? Mrs bipolar personality. 1 Like |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by debola27(f): 8:35am On Nov 05, 2019 |
mysticwarrior:For your information, I am a mental health coach. And I can see you know quite little about the world of mental health, especially since you only know of psychiatrists alone as people in charge of mental health Thank you for your time |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by mysticwarrior(m): 4:03pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
debola27:so as a mental health coach you don't have to place your client under clinical and psychology observations and examinations to ascertain if they are really suffering from bipolar personality? Is that how you were trained as a mental health coach? If you are truly a mental health coach like you said, it is expected that you have an oral conversation with your patient during which questions would be asked, and the answer of the questions would be critically analyzed and it is through these analysis that diagnosis would be made. Arriving at a conclusion without having an oral communications with your patient is against the ethic of clinical psychology. 1 Like |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Nobody: 4:36pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
mysticwarrior: There's no need to attack the lady. She's right in her assumption. The symptoms the op gave there look exactly like someone battling with depression or bipolar disorder. There's nothing to be ashamed of there. The only thing is just that we heard only from party. Obviously the op or her friend who's story she brought here isn't so innocent after all. Otherwise, there's nothing wrong with what the lady you're attacking said at all. Now that we have a Fuller picture, the man has a decision to make. And only him can make that decision. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by mysticwarrior(m): 6:18pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
FrLukas:inasmuch as her assumptions may have sounded right to you, she was very incorrect to me. Am even glad that the man in question has come out to tell his own side of the story, my question to you and that lady is does he sound like someone suffering from any form of psychological illness? Maybe you don't get the error am pointing at, and in a more understandable terms that would be generally acknowledge, it is not right to make ascertion by listening from one side of a story, secondly, there was no reasonable evidence to prove that the man is suffering from Bipolar personality hence she has not right to suggests that the op's husband should see a psychiatrist. In Nigeria when someone ask you to see a psychiatrist there are two things involved, its either he is indirectly insulting you, or he is telling you to get help based on possible multiples signs of disorders you may have displayed during personal interactions, but that was not the case here Am not here to make argumentative observations, I saw an error and I made correction. 1 Like |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Nobody: 7:29pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
goodgirl2409:This is a clear cut sign of emotional abuse, he could be depressed or bipolar. but i would like to hear from his side first Take him to a mental health facilitiy |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by mysticwarrior(m): 7:40pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
funmisticqueen:the man has already spoken his own side of the story, judging from his statements there are indications of infidelity, it is a bitter experience for any man. Breaching the sacred bond of marriage established with God as witness is sacrilege, marriage vows are taken with the promise of everlasting faithfulness, but she defiled the sanctity of their union and its unacceptable. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by ctleurocollege: 8:34pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
goodgirl2409: Bipolar |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Nobody: 9:08pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
mysticwarrior:i didn't read that part, what page is it? |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by grandstar(m): 9:14pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
goodgirl2409: He might suffer from mood swings. Read up anything you can about mood swings. Also, read up about manic/chronic depression and Bipolar disorder. You can also discreetly monitor his movements. He may have a lady on the side 1 Like |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by mysticwarrior(m): 9:19pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
funmisticqueen:page 16, his moniker is bigeric 100 pls read all his post carefully. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Nobody: 9:32pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
mysticwarrior:well he didn't explain too much, but unless I see evidence, will keep fingers crossed |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by mysticwarrior(m): 9:45pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
funmisticqueen:wow just listen to yourself, did you see any evidence before your said the situation was "a clear cut sign of emotional abuse"? Did you have any evidence before you jumped into conclusion that he is suffering from Bipolar and should be taken to "a mental health facility"? Hear your self talk. 1 Like |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by mysticwarrior(m): 9:58pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
funmisticqueen:he doesn't need to say much for us to understand what is on ground here, the man said " infidelity was involved" meaning she spread her legs wide open outside her matrimony, and the op has not come out to deny this allegations, most men would never sleep with their wife again if they found out she has disrespected their marriage. The op said the husband doesn't eat her food or even make love to her like before, In Delta and Edo state once a man finds out his wife has violated the sacred union of their marriage, he would stop making love to her or eat any food prepared by her. The story of the woman and the reaction of the man points out to one particular direction, there is never a smoke without fire. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Nobody: 10:00pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
mysticwarrior:he left a lot of allowance for lexical ambiguity. That is why he needs to explain further |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by baby124: 10:04pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
Na wa oooo! How did I miss this? |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by mysticwarrior(m): 10:17pm On Nov 05, 2019 |
funmisticqueen:for further explanation contact the man and verify from him then come back and give us feed back as an eye witness reporter. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Nobody: 2:16am On Nov 06, 2019 |
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Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by amordi: 7:42am On Nov 06, 2019 |
bigeric100:According to my tradition, when a man finds out that his woman cheated, he must not sleep with the woman again nor eat any food that was prepared by her otherwise he will fall sick and may lead to death. (It doesn't matter your religion). If the woman eventually steps her feet on the husband's hamlet, she will definitely run crazy unless she confesses and some traditional rites initiated to avert what would have happened. Definitely some ppl will argue it but I think is better to desist than to try the god's. We have witnessed it and may have better stories to tell. If your case is applicable to the aforementioned, then you need to make her to confess and follow up with your elders for advise even when you must have forgiven her. Above all, table it to your God for guidance. 1 Like |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by Nobody: 8:55am On Nov 06, 2019 |
mysticwarrior: You are the one who is arguing bro. No one is making any ascertions or handing down any commands or declarations here really. It was a suggestion which the op was free to take or leave. No one knew the husband was coming with his own side of the story. Now that you have the benefit of hindsight you can call out her error which you couldn't do before the man told his own side. When you tell your own story here, we take it at face value that you've presented all the facts. If you haven't, then don't blame the people giving advice because you deceived them. |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by kelcy1: 10:26am On Nov 06, 2019 |
Create your own happiness, get busy and do what is right..... cook good food and keep for and let him whatsoever with it...stop looking at his face , don't let his mood pull you down......be happy!!!!! |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by PAO429: 1:02pm On Nov 06, 2019 |
goodgirl2409: I am surprise to see people relate this matter to sex issues I don’t think so What I know is that the man still loves the op He is a gentleman He Just want to see her change Change what ? Character I guess Some women while arguing with thier spouse they become so rude, throwing shades , vulgar speeches Arguing does not necessarily mean you have to curse and insult your spouse If you trying to proof your point , do it with love Another thing is Maybe you not taking his advise A gentleman like this will not force his wife so hard against her will He can only advise and when not adhere to several times ,then it could lead to issues like this Solution : Try as much as possible to calm him down and find out what went wrong and act on it Wish you good luck |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by amordi: 2:39pm On Nov 06, 2019 |
PAO429:You guys are not getting it right. The major reason for his attitudinal change is a suspected INFIDELITY from the OP's. It has to be tackled and resolved before any other thing follows. From all indications, the woman is yet to admit that she cheated. So don't pray/expect the man to change. 1 Like |
Re: 1 Year After Marriage, I Am Already Tired by mysticwarrior(m): 3:16pm On Nov 06, 2019 |
amordi:thank you very much, i was about to say the same thing, the man even said he has evidence of the woman's infidelity on his email for about a year, that man must really be disturbed. 1 Like |
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