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Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by sexysage(m): 12:20am On Sep 13, 2019
Hi everyone..
I've been facing some challenges lately and it feels weird here but I'd need help on what I'm facing due to my kinda introverted nature.
I am a Lagos raised chap who schools in a core northern environment and in my first year I tried familiarizing myself with people around me especially my coursemates. I never had problems socializing with the males but I observed the females especially those from the region wanted to exploit the kind of soft nature I had, so it was kinda looking like they were taking me for granted despite the fact that I respected myself before them cos I don't imagine myself having anything amorous with them from the onset as I'm a person of principle and priority.
So in my second year I decided I'd be on my own. Na so I no dey give then face and I didn't give a damn about these female folks based on their crazy attitude.
Now the things is that I've been the subject of their discussion lately, I get to hear them gossip about me right in my presence in their language cos they feel I don't understand but I've got that lingual flair a bit. I really do not know what my offense is despite the fact that I'm minding my own business cos I'm felling odd with the way these people are acting towards me despite the fact that I've been minding my business.
Please how do I handle this?
I'm sorry I had to post this in romance section

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Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Apination(m): 12:28am On Sep 13, 2019
You had to create a thread over this, seriously! undecided

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Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Nobody: 12:47am On Sep 13, 2019
Dear.
dont give a f.uck what the masses gotta say/do, the m's silent. Be yourself, be confident. People will always have screwed mentalities. Dont change for no goddamn person. You seem decent, hoes wont like that. So they'll tag you a snub. You arent.

What i love about myself, i define myself. I dont care whether you like me or not, im me. Deal with it. If not you can slave over my matter. No qualms

besides you wouldnt have people carrying your case about if you aint worth it. Your haters love you. Give them something to talk about. It keeps the busy. Makes their life have meaning.

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Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by DrayZee: 1:25am On Sep 13, 2019
Lol. This brings back some memories.

Well, it's very possible they "hate" your behavior of ignoring them. So they're going to discuss your matter. But the actual underlying truth is that at least one of them has a crush on you, thus leading them to discuss about you. (This is more likely if you're fine, quiet and intelligent to some extent)
You can decide getting a bit more friendly with them and they'll eventually be extremely friendly with you. But if you feel their character is a problem, then just stay away from them.

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Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Nobody: 1:49am On Sep 13, 2019
The good thing is that they don't know you understand their gossip /the language, but you do. So keep playing it cool, using that to your advantage to hear what they're saying about you. Don't be bothered about their gossip, unless it's something that requires you to act or take caution.

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Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Magnoliaa(f): 2:01am On Sep 13, 2019
Apination:
You had to create a thread over this, seriously! undecided

Yes, he did, and so what?

You don't have to comment if you have nothing to say to him...

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Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Magnoliaa(f): 2:07am On Sep 13, 2019
Ignore them and just be yourself. Don't let their opinions bother you.

You've got some friends, right? And if your introverted nature is not affecting you socially, then you leave them be. What they think doesn't matter.
Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by BarrElChapo(m): 3:12am On Sep 13, 2019
undecided lipsrsealed angry
Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Onyenna(m): 5:26am On Sep 13, 2019
...And why is their opinion[s] bothering you!?.....







....[you sound like a teenager though]......

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Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by drealcivilceno: 6:36am On Sep 13, 2019
OP....

Everything na format oooh! Use your head, you are not taking responsibility for some things that is why they gossip about you.

Well you be "omo eko", u no be herdsman. So you think cows will respect you if you do not take authority?

Hold that "long stick" out to flog the cows in them, see maza maza changes in no time.

Thank me lerra..

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Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Powersurge: 6:54am On Sep 13, 2019
Bro nobody is useless. Even your foes. You are certainly not an island. Hence keeping everybody off may not be all wise. Yes, niggas always come through but ladies can be of help to you 3x than guys. you may not understand that now.


if you are as principled as you claimed, keeping them at bay shouldn't be a problem.

The first attempt anyone will make on a quiet fellow is to see if he/she can be exploited. cos by nature he looks exploitable. But when they know that you are stronger than a pillar that holds capitol building in USA, they will come through.
Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Apination(m): 7:46am On Sep 13, 2019
Magnoliaa:


Yes, he did, and so what?

You don't have to comment if you have nothing to say to him...
If I had said nothing, you wouldn't have quoted me dumb ass!

Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Magnoliaa(f): 2:06am On Sep 14, 2019
Apination:

If I had said nothing, you wouldn't have quoted me dumb ass!


Yeah, and everything would have been OK without you commenting to make his posting here seem silly.
Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by drezzyx(m): 4:07am On Sep 14, 2019
I have been in this situation before ,to d extent they will hiss at me anytime they see me coming
But what I did was like pick 1 or 2 I could relate with
But I never gave a fvck
concerning d rest
In my mind I was like go fvck Urself...
Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Easybela(f): 4:25am On Sep 14, 2019
undecided Op stop nagging like a woman, this thread is unnecessary, Face your books and forget the gossips.
Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by reubenobi(m): 7:56am On Sep 14, 2019
Easybela:
undecided Op stop nagging like a woman, this thread is unnecessary, Face your books and forget the gossips.
I want to face you Easybela.
Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Easybela(f): 8:22am On Sep 14, 2019
reubenobi:
I want to face you Easybela.

Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by reubenobi(m): 8:30am On Sep 14, 2019
[quote author=Easybela post=82218626][/quote]I'm serious dear. Check your mail
Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by FantasticJ: 8:43am On Sep 14, 2019
[quote author=Easybela post=82218626][/quote]

You are cute girl.
Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by cooluzi: 9:05am On Sep 14, 2019
bro those hoes like you
Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by luvyaself95(m): 9:50am On Sep 14, 2019
what the problem in this man ? just be yourself don't give a fvck about anybody either girl or guy.
Re: Please How Do I Handle This Matter? by Apination(m): 11:42am On Sep 15, 2019
Magnoliaa:



Yeah, and everything would have been OK without you commenting to make his posting here seem silly.
LOL.... What he posted was outright and beyond stvpid undecided

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