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Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by khalids: 12:07pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Oga obviously she is not your type..........if you cannot accept her for who she is....move on. Rather than subjecting her to a life of drama and emotional torture... Never try to change anyone to suit you, it does not work......love them as they are or leave them alone... 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by lizdammy: 12:08pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
ginaolo:If you think that will affect your LOVE for her, then call it quits now, my honest advice to you. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Truckpusher(m): 12:08pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
ginaolo:I don't really you. Why can't you guys just respect boundaries and still coexist peacefully. I personally hate going to church I dislike attending weddings, birthday parties in fact anything that will force me out of my comfort zone to socialize with people in large group turns me off and my wife knew how to let me be and not after we had our fights when she noticed initially. She can't change her life entirely simply because she's getting married to you nau. 13 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by WriterX(m): 12:08pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
ginaolo: currently dealing with the same thing with an in-law of ours, she is indeed what you call a good wife and a daughter in-law, she just happens to be not the associating type, doesn't visit much, talks less, and prefers to rather be at home alone, I mean her husband travelled for a business trip for like 5months and she was home alone . I don't have any problem with her because inside that quiet personality, she is a rare gem and a great home maker and for us that's very rare to find. any way you have to sit her down and talk with her, ours is becoming a lot better lol purposely her husy just likes dragging her out to the family and with her kid and escapes with the guys lol, it seems you really love her and that is a a big deal you should consider first. anxiety ,low self esteem has gotten the best of some of us at some point some can wave it off and others can't easily, maybe you can help her out. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Ikem11(m): 12:09pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
ginaolo: Listen young man, the problem with we humans is when we think we better off than others and try thinking they should change. Don't try changing humans cos u didn't create them... All u can do is learn to cope with them and if you feel is something you can adopt to quit and life goes on. That girl got a good heart I can imagine from you write up... But never try changing her and thinking your marriage will be healthy. How your family of friends thinks or see your partner shouldn't concern you as long as she suites you close doors... The worse marriage is the close door fight marriage don't ever get your self involve in it. Best of luck. 9 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Divay22(f): 12:10pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
lilmax:Lol 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by WriterX(m): 12:11pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Truckpusher: you have a point there, marriage is all about adaptation and just like sculpting the more you try to carve that perfect piece out of her the more you ruin the sculpture. respect is everything too. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Nobody: 12:11pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
It seems you just described me 101%. I'm so reserved that random persons in my lodge have asked me severally why I don't talk to people..lol. I'm not that shy though, I speak well in public and have handled few leadership positions in school but I'm not just outgoing, meeting people is a hard task but I get overly expressive if I like you. OP, she's a lovely lady, she'd improve with time. If she's the churchy type, let her join functionaries that'd that'd expose her to meeting people e.g. ushering, choir etc. I wish you both the very best. 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Ramos16(m): 12:11pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
laurenwhite: You even try dey give advice, how did they get to the stage of fiancee when she obviously has a trait he doesn't like 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by ibiruk38: 12:14pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
ginaolo: Honestly op, it seems you are talking about me. My husband is also from a large family and I have social anxiety. I hate going out and meeting people, I also hate people visiting. My husband understands this and usually tells his family that I'm very shy, sometimes it's frustrating but he insists I call them which may take me a week. If you truly love her, just be patient try to force her to move outside her comfort zone but not too much. Also appreciate her when she does something as little as calling(trust me it isn't easy). Finally, bribe her; you can promise to have movie night if she does what you want or give her something she loves in exchange. 8 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by jericco1(m): 12:14pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
ginaolo:I don't know when being shy has become an issue. Dude if you're looking for someone that's gonna support your asinine reason for dumping her; that's not me. This is the period she needs you if you truly love her. I'm sure you'd prefer a lady that is surreptitious in nature. Anyway better go back to the drawing board as a bird in hand worths two in the bush. Be wise. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Nobody: 12:14pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
ginaolo: You be mumu aswear 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by WriterX(m): 12:14pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Ikem11: I could have used this advice some years ago for real but I learnt my lesson and it has made me a better person in the making, we get this false ideal of perfection in those we love that we constantly want to see it in them. thankfully after my worst and only break up I learnt a lesson I intend to teach my kids some day too. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by BlueAir: 12:15pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
The guy matter tire me. Maybe he should dash me ValCon888: 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by thesmallgod(m): 12:15pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
You better leave her if you don't seem to be comfortable with her nature. Introverts most time have melancholic trait. This trait cannot be change but can be worked on. If you really think you can change her, you are only deceiving yourself because she won't change. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Bryan88(m): 12:15pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
theButterfly:Butterfly dey stay 1 place? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by bluebay(m): 12:16pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
What ever you do, remember Family comes first. If she finds it difficult to mingle with your family, I’ll advice let go the relationship for this will definitely drive your family, friends and business colleagues away from you and you may end up being like her ... Here’s my advice, LET GO!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by jamesfadairo(m): 12:16pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
nairalandposter: yes i rememberthe thread, we are just insatiable |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Nobody: 12:16pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
There is a man for every woman and a woman for every man.
If you can't take it look for the one you can take.
Good luck. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Nobody: 12:17pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
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Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by safarigirl(f): 12:18pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
doitforyou:as in. What os with people constantly comparing themselves to others? Social anxiety is a thing. My own is terrible, because even to go to church is a task. I sit and complain about how I don't go out all day, but when the opportunity arises, I start coming up with all the excuses not to go. I can't even meet anyone walking down the street, because I like to block out the world with my earpiece or headset when I go out, I only recently started trying to go out without them. The idea of even meeting anyone's family at any point doesn't come to me. So, for someone to come with her insensitive self, and start saying "she will isolate you...." "i don't joke with family...." is disrespectful and inconsiderate. Say two people get headache, no mean say na malaria dey worry them, I always say this. 13 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by thesmallgod(m): 12:18pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
BlueAir:You are only viewing things from the advantages that suit what you are looking for. If you are the kind of person that like cheating, you may be planning your early grave. |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Toseenlove: 12:18pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
olabrinks: She Is truly a baby1.24 as her monicker Implies. You really understand life very well unlike "baby1.24 kid ranting all over the thread" I give It to u. 6 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 12:18pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Op just marry her first, go ahead. I can this same woman that is like ice water will turn to tiger in a jiffy |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Blinkers: 12:18pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
MissOffpoint: No wonder you are always off point! GTFOH! |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by philip0906(m): 12:18pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
baby124:Solid point...Very solid point! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Christmasdon(m): 12:19pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Tell ua parents 2 come meet her at home now. since Mohammed hv refused to go to d mountain. One more thing is have you talked about this with her. Try find out what's her problem. Sit her down. Dialogue can be the answer here. |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Nobody: 12:20pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:Honestly, I feel they should complement each other. Being a reserved lady, I can't be with a man that's reserved/soft too for the sake of the kids. Calmness is no longer a virtue in the 21st century, craziness is the new cool and my kids should possess both. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Goahead(m): 12:20pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
Ginaolo, have you ever been randomly picked up unaware to speak to a large unfamiliar faces? Unprepared and the mic was given to you? You'd stammer for a moment and may probably be incoherent. That's a simple way to experience what she's passing through in a congenital scale. Please, quickly decide to either love and cherish her or break up with her. As for me, we're sealed together! 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Truthbites: 12:20pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
At 24, what does she know?. She be baby na..are u 25? |
Re: My Wife To Be Is Too Reserved by Fragility6: 12:21pm On Oct 14, 2019 |
theButterfly:Who are you? |
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