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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by frozen70(f): 12:38pm On Nov 23, 2019
merit1988:
I got married as a young virgin...probably didnt understand what love was all about then....I've never really felt love or being loved in my marriage..coupled with some other marriage issues..I wear the shoes and I know where it hurts...all I need is advices on how to build my love life and not yabs pls...it's very hurtful cry

There are somethings you haven't told us that lead to the struggle for love

We can't give you a blind advice

Sheds some lights let's understand what you are in

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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by ogbuefi677(m): 12:39pm On Nov 23, 2019
totosucker:
If you are a Christian,your duty is to submit to your husband and his duty is to love you. Don't you people buy surprise gifts for yourselves? This is one way you can use to ignite the fire of love in your relationship. Prepare his best meal for him. Be an obedient wife, Take a stroll together, See a movie together, Dress sexually for him at home and make love to him when he wants it and generously too. And in return your husband will shower you with lots of love.
lots of wisdom.
I see a lot of women form Jackie Chan and strong woman for their husband but come round to complain they're not loved.
Ordinary sex that you can even lie like a log(if not in the mood) and let him have his way,then clean up after,they deny the poor man but expect love.

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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by bonnyhope: 12:39pm On Nov 23, 2019
This forum is flooded with marriage/relationship palava
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by TheRedpillguy: 12:40pm On Nov 23, 2019
emirateprince:
let's me pastor Nelson you ,I think u need it
Lol
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by bonnyhope: 12:42pm On Nov 23, 2019
totosucker:
If you are a Christian,your duty is to submit to your husband and his duty is to love you. Don't you people buy surprise gifts for yourselves? This is one way you can use to ignite the fire of love in your relationship. Prepare his best meal for him. Be an obedient wife, Take a stroll together, See a movie together, Dress sexually for him at home and make love to him when he wants it and generously too. And in return your husband will shower you with lots of love.

Guy i advise you change ur username

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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by XDaBOSS(m): 12:43pm On Nov 23, 2019
well I think this is something u alone need to work on.
This should be discussed with you husband, let him know ur current situation and how u feel in the marriage. U and your husband should see a marriage counselor and see how best your love life could be redeemed.
communication is a key in relationship, not all things u can handle alone, there are ways you husband could make you feel loved and appreciated but only when you communicate with him.
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by FRANK6070: 12:43pm On Nov 23, 2019
chigoizie7:


Brother please add experiences too. I mean women that have dated more than two or three men.

So that when I come into her life, she would always appreciate what she has


Very true
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by TheRedpillguy: 12:47pm On Nov 23, 2019
merit1988:
I got married as a young virgin...probably didnt understand what love was all about then....I've never really felt love or being loved in my marriage..coupled with some other marriage issues..I wear the shoes and I know where it hurts...all I need is advices on how to build my love life and not yabs pls...it's very hurtful cry
Some how I feel like this is a set up question from a feminist. You know? Doing their devilish work trying to tell women to be promiscuous.

Anyways before I can give my take I have to know the following.
. did you have a job when you married him?
. are you fat now? Cus u eat everything u see, drive or take okada to everywea u go
. Have you had feminist frnds lately, since you are on nairaland, I think this is likely
. have you installed Instagram on your phone?
. Have you been watching porn!
. dose the guy have a port belly now? Yep these ppl just eat n drink anything, they end up look like pregnant women with a very low I. Q
Well tell me more and I can provide a full analysis of what's going on. As for love thou. Don't botter, its a myth and "the not yabs" thing makes me question your character. Maybe but not insults will be better but hey. I might be wrong
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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by nijabazaar: 12:47pm On Nov 23, 2019
totosucker:
If you are a Christian,your duty is to submit to your husband and his duty is to love you. Don't you people buy surprise gifts for yourselves? This is one way you can use to ignite the fire of love in your relationship. Prepare his best meal for him. Be an obedient wife, Take a stroll together, See a movie together, Dress sexually for him at home and make love to him when he wants it and generously too. And in return your husband will shower you with lots of love.

So love should be bribed!

She can do all this and the Man would still not love her. Sex does not give love, you know.

If there is no love.....there is no love!
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by bonnyhope: 12:49pm On Nov 23, 2019
Almaigaa:



This retired Olosho, stop whoring all over Nairaland, opening threads everyday, telling us how boring your marriage is. Do you think marriage is all bed of roses? Your phone numbers are all over dating section. But you are here claiming that your marriage lacks love. Which man will give love and attention to a wife that behaves the way you do?

Go home and love your husband alone. We are tired of seeing your threads.

Do you know the girl?
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Nobody: 12:51pm On Nov 23, 2019
It is not you but your man
Your man married you for something else other than love. If your man loves you, you will FEEL it
And it is difficult to try to make a man love you

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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by LANDLORD72: 12:52pm On Nov 23, 2019
merit1988:
I got married as a young virgin...probably didnt understand what love was all about then....I've never really felt love or being loved in my marriage..coupled with some other marriage issues..I wear the shoes and I know where it hurts...all I need is advices on how to build my love life and not yabs pls...it's very hurtful cry
Lie lie carry your fake story far.
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by bonnyhope: 12:52pm On Nov 23, 2019
merit1988:
I'll learn to love my husband sir....thank you for your sarcasm....but why are you following me around my threads and exhibiting foolishness up and down? I know why alreadygrin...u can continue sir...lol

See man claiming woman
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by WriterX(m): 12:54pm On Nov 23, 2019
Ariza:
I read a thread here sometimes ago where Men were advised to marry and learn to love those who love them and only use and dump those they love.I asked how does one learn to love but my question was left unanswered, the ones who tried to answer only danced around it. No procedure or How to was provided and I laughed. How men bask judiciously in so much ignorance amuse me! They believe women learn to love so they can do it too.But only the wise one would ask how women easily divert this so called love on their children as soon as they are born neglecting the fathers. Was the love ever there?


The truth is you can never learn to love, you can only learn to appreciate.Love is not something you can create but Gratitude, you can. The misconception comes when people mix up love and gratitude. Contrary to what we see movies like a man learning to love the woman he was force to marry, No! he only learned to appreciate and live with the woman after his brain has been reconfigured by a terrible situation that might have caused him to lose the Good woman.

Op, you can't learn to love. You can only learn to appreciate, learn to be with and learn to accept your Man. In this case, look at the positive sides of things, compare his good qualities to what others do not have and accept him. I wish you luck.


finally!!!! wow you must be out of this world I was about to say something like its impossible to learn how to love and then your comment offered me more than I could imagine, thanks for this one you're 100% right on this
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by obowunmi(m): 12:56pm On Nov 23, 2019
merit1988:
I got married as a young virgin...probably didnt understand what love was all about then....I've never really felt love or being loved in my marriage..coupled with some other marriage issues..I wear the shoes and I know where it hurts...all I need is advices on how to build my love life and not yabs pls...it's very hurtful cry


All these women marrying LAZY, POOR men...did anyone force you to marry ?
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by mechanics(m): 12:59pm On Nov 23, 2019
Interact with successful born again married women in your church so as to help you out.
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by bigl: 1:00pm On Nov 23, 2019
merit1988:
I got married as a young virgin...probably didnt understand what love was all about then....I've never really felt love or being loved in my marriage..coupled with some other marriage issues..I wear the shoes and I know where it hurts...all I need is advices on how to build my love life and not yabs pls...it's very hurtful cry

I think you still have not figured out who you trully are and what your purpose in life is.

Try to figure yourself out first.

Meanwhile, love is a decision and not just a feeling.

And as regards marriage issue ... every relationship will go through its own fire in 1st 0 to 10 years. If u can scale through the first 3 years, you can work out the rest.

Learn to love yourself and then you will love your partner.

I used to hate my dentition cos it wasn't as neat as that of some people .... but later, i got to know that even those with perfect dentition have some shortcomings they are battling with so, i learned to love myself just the way i am.

Wake up in the morning and tell yourself in front of the mirror "i love myself" "i love me".

And also, pray along!
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by seunmohmoh(f): 1:00pm On Nov 23, 2019
This post was on front-page last month and here it is again. Wawu

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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by olahpet777(m): 1:01pm On Nov 23, 2019
Tell us how y'all met and what made you say Yes to him in the first place.... undecided

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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Caseless: 1:06pm On Nov 23, 2019
merit1988:
I hv been trying to play my role as a wife anyway.... thanks for u warm advices....I'm grateful..ur name though undecided
his name? Lol
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by onlyme07(m): 1:07pm On Nov 23, 2019
merit1988:
I got married as a young virgin...probably didnt understand what love was all about then....I've never really felt love or being loved in my marriage..coupled with some other marriage issues..I wear the shoes and I know where it hurts...all I need is advices on how to build my love life and not yabs pls...it's very hurtful cry

Let's see if I can assist,.

What is your age range and that of your hobby? 20-25? 26-30? et al

How long have you been married?

Was it matchmaking or religion brought you together?

Do you work or a full time housewife?

Be sincere, something enticed you to him at the first instance. Money, looks, family background, religiosity, age, maturity or peer/family pressure.

It would go along way in assisting.

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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by lovethchioma(f): 1:09pm On Nov 23, 2019
merit1988:
oh well,it's not just abt sex....is marriage all ABT sex? Plssssss
Ignore the dumb guy. Most of them are deluded. They think having a happy marriage has anything to do with one's virginity status. They still don't understand marriage is not all about sex
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by Nobody: 1:11pm On Nov 23, 2019
mechanics:
Interact with successful born again married women in your church so as to help you out.
Those ones naim bad pass.. They don't even bother what their husband does anymore all they want is outside dicking. Even as i type this, one is confessing lust love to me on WhatsApp every minute of the day. I don't know how i got myself in this mess. Getting out is a problem
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by TheMan3: 1:14pm On Nov 23, 2019
merit1988:
I got married as a young virgin...probably didnt understand what love was all about then....I've never really felt love or being loved in my marriage..coupled with some other marriage issues..I wear the shoes and I know where it hurts...all I need is advices on how to build my love life and not yabs pls...it's very hurtful cry
my dear the mistake akot of peopek make is looking at love from a worldly perspective or from a feeling perspective.

I am a Christian and I will advise you fro the word of God.

The word of God never refered to love as a feeling (even though it has feeling sometimes not all the tine). Love Is a decision you love your husband when you feel like I or you don't feel like it.

No one "feels" love for their pathner 27 hours, 7days a week and 52 weeks a year. There are times you want to just break their head.

Love your husband ad stay there
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by ufotty2001: 1:14pm On Nov 23, 2019
You are just like my girlfriend. We have dated for the past 6years I have never in my entire life heard her telling me " I love you" .. she is still a virgin!!! Am the one doing all the talking and initiating... She is a committed Christian!!! Why me am still a street boy
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by enewspapers(m): 1:17pm On Nov 23, 2019
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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by safarigirl(f): 1:17pm On Nov 23, 2019
Hian....this topic was on FP a few weeks ago now, why is it here again?

If OP created two threads, couldn't the mods close the other one, rather than bring back an old topic for deliberation? undecided

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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by mechanics(m): 1:19pm On Nov 23, 2019
killmods:

Those ones naim bad pass.. They don't even bother what their husband does anymore all they want is outside dicking. Even as i type this, one is confessing lust love to me on WhatsApp every minute of the day. I don't know how i got myself in this mess. Getting out is a problem
It's well o, please don't get out o, you are in, if you get out God won't be happy with you, just pray then and you can talk to your pastor.
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by safarigirl(f): 1:19pm On Nov 23, 2019
seunmohmoh:
This post was on front-page last month and here it is again. Wawu
azzin, the matter tire me

NL is running out of topics, I will soon start writing relationship woes for them to move to FP.

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Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by dawud723: 1:19pm On Nov 23, 2019
Virgins are the one enjoying their marriage most[b][/b]
Re: I'm Struggling With Love In My Marriage by merit1988(f): 1:22pm On Nov 23, 2019
safarigirl:
azzin, the matter tire me

NL is running out of topics, I will soon start writing relationship woes for them to move to FP.
I'm suprised too

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