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My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Thielngr(m): 3:06am On Oct 26, 2019 |
My wife is frustrating my life I don't just know what to do.. I feel like killing myself just to end this marriage, staying with her is like living with Satan... Everyday trouble for 10yrs now..I am tired...she has refused to work or do anything, she doesn't respect or regard me, she goes out and comes back at will without telling me where and why She is always insulting me while looking for a fight with either bottle, hammer or the kitchen knife of which I have endured all these years because of our children, her pastor told me 8yrs ago that she will change but she is becoming more aggressive which has prompted me to cry out. What should I do? I need urgent advice 52 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by johnkey: 3:09am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Thielngr:inside life 115 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Mstick: 3:13am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Instead of crying out online how about going to her family, tell them what you've just written, ask for a separation and if you see no change then you know what's best for you. 185 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Lordwheez(m): 4:10am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Really Remember the children you're staying in the marriage for are also human as you are, it won't be fair to them if those children become orphans due to your "love" for them. File a divorce already, make dem no come carry your dead body Comot for the house one day... 330 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by chukwuibuipob: 4:23am On Oct 26, 2019 |
.seem she see U as a wek man.U dnt need to KILL urself cos of one useless demon u kal wife.A wife dat waka up/down,cun home anytime she like is NOT a wife. U dey sidon on time bomb.Leave her now b4 God leave U.Beta still,the pastor dat see her change can accommodate her. NO TIME, Act FAST. 113 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Tajbol4splend(m): 4:25am On Oct 26, 2019 |
People like her don't change, I wonder what made you decide to make her your wife in the first place, it's not like you wouldn't see the sign of who she might turn out to be as a wife, the essence of marriage is not even primarily about having children, it's about being with someone you both love each other, which should make you happy, the moment your marriage is becoming a threat to your life, quit it, marriage is not agidi if it's going to take away your life, just find a way to take care of your children, koju bayen lo. 88 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by blesskewe(f): 4:28am On Oct 26, 2019 |
What abut walking out if the marriage? 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by LilMissFavvy(f): 4:49am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Hammer, knife and bottles? Pls call for a separation. I believe the period of separation will be enough for her to clear her head. If she changes better, if not run for your life. The above are deadly weapons and your life is at risk. 77 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Sirseedorf(m): 4:56am On Oct 26, 2019 |
But oga what is the cause of are aggressiveness and what do you guys argue about. You said she is a violent person, didn't you see the signs and trait before engaging her in marriage. If. you've tried your possible best and it still didn't work out, you guys should go your separate ways, marriage is not do or die. 20 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by STARGREEN(m): 5:13am On Oct 26, 2019 |
blesskewe:There's an adage that says "he who's only tool is a hammer sees all problem as a NAIL" admittedly he seems to be in an unfortunate pool yet, rather than separating let him try other options by putting himself in her shoe at least to understand her, see things from her own perspective, feel how she think etc, perhaps he will get better scope to tream her to his soul. The fact is that there are people that have passed more than he's encountering and still overcome. @op, you will overcome. Assume that all women are them same and that you got not option [b]b [/b]you will find a way to make it work. Remember time and patience work wonders, watch and see. 11 Likes 1 Share
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Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by risos(m): 5:18am On Oct 26, 2019 |
It's aggressive love, when she carry weapon you to should carry weapon, you will then go outside and be raking (aggressively shouting but don't attack, just b forming anger). Later you will see she what she tell you & give later. You no talk say she bust your head or stab you before 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by jeff1607(m): 5:26am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Even buhari is making life difficult but thank God his own has expiry date should we advise you to divorce her? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Solsix(m): 5:27am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Thielngr:I would have advise to go to God in prayers, but most times we don't wait for God to give us our spouse, we think we can do it all by ourselves, but all hope is not lost, if you can call him he knows how to convert even the most hardened heart 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Katier00(f): 5:28am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Oga your wife is mentally ill, forget pastor matter. There are two things involve, if you still love her, help her seek for help in a hospital. Second be a man for God's sake, don't you have balls between your legs? Set the rules in your house and stand by it, if she breaks any of them, bundle her back to her parents. How can you allow that for this long? A man should represent authority and strength not weakness. Those attitude she is displaying is affecting your children unconsciously, they don't need to grow up in this kind of environment so protect them. Imagine a child thinking is OK to verbally abuse or chase people with knife. Work on your home man 96 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Powersurge: 5:41am On Oct 26, 2019 |
This looks like a made-up story to me. It goes without saying that I have typed some insults before, but I had to consider the feeling of the person that is at the other end of the phone. How can you allow stupidity to linger for 8 years in your home? 20 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Newboss(m): 5:51am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Divorce her ASAP! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by femi4: 5:56am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Thielngr:Violent marriage .....smh 7 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by stonemasonn: 6:08am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Agbero marriage 11 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by deltateam: 6:10am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Thielngr: Where did you meet her? Was it the pastor that begged you to marry her? Was she working when you married her? Did she suddenly change, which I doubt. In essence what signs did she exhibit during courtship that could have developed into this? 9 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by sapoyoro(m): 6:14am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Thielngr:the men we give birth to nowadays are Half men. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by solmusdesigns: 6:29am On Oct 26, 2019 |
only two options, and both are very extreme, i: You either file for a divorce and save your life or ii: beat her up so badly in an humiliating humanly degrading manner that can instill lifetime fear in her heart, the kind of beating that would scare her, that any time she sees you her stress level is triggered and she goes into panic mode.. then make love to her afterwards just to mess her up pschologically Your Marriage is going through power tussle phase, and your wife is already using violence to gain full authority.. however things can change for you in few months or even days.... When the military,police or nysc recruits a stuborn person, they break them with routine punishments and strict iron fist aproach.. no matter how stuborn or difficult a recruit is, the training instills fear of the authority in such recruits.. your wife needs iron fist mind set reprograming through use of apporpraite force and a little bit of loving Thielngr: 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by franchasng: 6:38am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Hmmmm I heard women don't change on their own, that sometimes after marriage, some evil spirit do possess some women....maybe their spirit husband that was enjoying them alone when they were single who got jealous that they finally got married, so it gets them enchanted spiritually to do abnormal things, sometimes that spirit may push them to kill their husband.....though psychologists can call it mental illness 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Nobody: 6:44am On Oct 26, 2019 |
RedCreme21 Pettyprincess i need to see both ur opinions here |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by millionboi2: 7:03am On Oct 26, 2019 |
risos:worst |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Obierika(m): 7:05am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Thielngr: Under no circumstance should you put up with a violent partner 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by 24kmagic: 7:58am On Oct 26, 2019 |
I can't trade anything for my happiness, not even marriage. Do what you feel is right for you 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by totosucker(m): 8:05am On Oct 26, 2019 |
My brother, it is well with your marriage. If you are a Christian, Divorce is not an option. I will advice that you separate from her for sometimes. Life is involved. This is how it starts and before you know it something bad will happen but God forbid. Go and report her to your people who will in turn report her to her people. Stay away from her for now. It is also dangerous, to bring up kids in that kind of environment . The children will grow up and become violent and aggressive. Children learn fast by example . Finally, God is the institutor of marriage, Call unto him to give you peace in your marriage. God bless you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Homeboiy: 8:07am On Oct 26, 2019 |
You started with her in that manner, so u will end it with her in that manner. |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Nobody: 8:10am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Someone you share the same apartment with is always threatening you with weapons anytime you have any little misunderstanding and you still have the audacity to co habit with her for good 10 years. Baba, wait until she finally kills you . we will only mourn you on nairaland. 13 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by XklusivGistBlog(m): 8:26am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Mstick: Dont blame him bro. Sometimes we find solace talking to faceless people. I understand perfectly. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Frustrating My Life by Ketamine9000mg(m): 8:42am On Oct 26, 2019 |
God dey. 1 Like |
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