There is this family I stayed with.
I asked the second daughter for marriage about 2yrs of leaving their house, she turned it down with insult.
Now she is getting married, is it advisable I attend?
I just don't feel right about attending

After two years you've still not gotten over her and moved on? Whether you go her wedding or not she'll still get married on that day with her not even noticing your absence. Oga you dey like who go fit poison person

Attend and wish her well, yours will come.

izuch:
After two years you've still not gotten over her and moved on? Whether you go her wedding or not she'll still get married on that day with her not even noticing your absence. Oga you dey like who go fit poison person

Just asking for opinion
Left their home to be on my own 2yrs ago, not asking her out two yrs ago.
Please be mindful of the choice of words

nzeobi:
Attend and wish her well, yours will come.

Thanks
You are the type that motivates

slimjohn2k5:

Just asking for opinion
Left their home to be on my own 2yrs ago, not asking her out two yrs ago.
Please be mindful of the choice of words

All I'm saying is that under no circumstance should you make a woman or women an issue. When you become too emotional to a woman/women you start becoming irrational, seeking advice everywhere possible. If she turned your marriage proposal down "two years ago" finito, just do "friends". Go to her wedding, wish her well in her marriage sojourn and stop acting like a vindictive wussbag. Most of all triangle your mind to like plenty girls without over sampling one.

She sees you as a struggling poor man, since it was her family that hosted you for long. Your marriage proposal will be valuable and sort after by her if you had options and being a man of value. The fact that you're still orbiting around her after two years, and contemplating attending the wedding of someone who insulted you, instead of politely turning down your proposal gives an hint that you're not desirable to her, and probably most women.

Why not work on becoming an attractive man? Through your career, looks, or marry a woman that considers you her league. Whether we like it or not, the human brain brain is deeply rooted in hierarchy, we evolved to go for people that compliments our league, and this is heightened in the female psyche, since the surest way she can climb in the socio-economical ladder is largely dependent on the family she marries into. A woman is automatically a queen if she marries a king, that kind of thing.

pansophist:
She sees you as a struggling poor man, since it was her family that hosted you for long. Your marriage proposal will be valuable and sort after by her if you had options and being a man of value. The fact that you're still orbiting around her after two years, and contemplating attending the wedding of someone who insulted you, instead of politely turning down your proposal gives an hint that you're not desirable to her, and probably most women.

Why not work on becoming an attractive man? Through your career, looks, or marry a woman that considers you her league. Whether we like it or not, the human brain brain is deeply rooted in hierarchy, we evolved to go for people that compliments our league, and this is heightened in the female psyche, since the surest way she can climb in the socio-economical ladder is largely dependent on the family she marries into. A woman is automatically a queen if she marries a king, that kind of thing.

I'm thrilled. Wise words

Out of appreciation for the fact that they hosted you, yes. But you dont need to be too friendly to her at the wedding

She could have said no without insulting you, thats if she actually insulted you and youre not the one reading meaning into nothing

slimjohn2k5:
There is this family I stayed with.
I asked the second daughter for marriage about 2yrs of leaving their house, she turned it down with insult.
Now she is getting married, is it advisable I attend?
I just don't feel right about attending

Lol... Your story reminds me of an uncle my mom and dad accepted into our house... He asked my sister's hand in marriage, but my sister was really mad at him, cause we already took him like a family... He spent many years with us... Although he is the one getting married next year... We all are sure gonna attend, including my sister... So attend, there's nothing there... Some things aren't meant to be...

Can you attend the fvcking wedding in your best clothes, smile and be cheerful like say tomorrow no dey (although don't be too friendly with her), greet the family and bride and wish them well, eat like that's what you came to do in life, drink about 15 cans of malt, accept all gifts given to you and so on an so forth?

Will you be doing these to get her attention so she can be pained seeing you are not pained? NO

rather do it because life is simple and short and we do not have to complicate things with ourselves. Rejection and insults do not deter the decree of God from coming to pass. your own girl is coming at the right but make sure you also play things right.

So that's my advise for you.

Lamanii22:



Lol... Your story reminds me of an uncle my mom and dad accepted into our house... He asked my sister's hand in marriage, but my sister was really mad at him, cause we already took him like a family... He spent many years with us... Although he is the one getting married next year... We all are sure gonna attend, including my sister... So attend, there's nothing there... Some things aren't meant to be...

Lol. Leeme not talk.

I don't think she wants you in her wedding and to be absolutely honest with you, you shouldn't even be thinking of going to her wedding but I can see shame no dey catch you.

slimjohn2k5:
There is this family I stayed with.
I asked the second daughter for marriage about 2yrs of leaving their house, she turned it down with insult.
Now she is getting married, is it advisable I attend?
I just don't feel right about attending

is she lightskin?

You need to grow up bro!

There was no point where you mentioned y'all dated or something. Because you can't walk up to someone and outrightly ask them to marry you. You didn't know if she was in a relationship with someone else then, if she despised you sef. The insult came from somewhere.


Nevertheless, let bygones be bygones. She has moved on, you too should. You can choose to attend the wedding or not, provided she invited you to. Because if she didn't invite you, e go dey somehow to show up. Forget sey you dey their house for 2 years

Thecvbankng:
There was no point where you mentioned y'all dated or something. Because you can't walk up to someone and outrightly ask them to marry you.

Why can't you outright ask someone to marry you There's nothing wrong with that at all, if she had been interested it would have led to a courtship period.

They already knew each other so it wasn't random

She would have just politely turned him down, insult is totally unnecessary

midnighter:


Why can't you outright ask someone to marry you There's nothing wrong with that at all, it would just lead to a courtship period.

They already knew each other so it wasn't random

She would have just politely turned him down, insult is totally unnecessary

Want to know why it's wrong to ask someone to marry you without prior dating? It's the 21st century and things aren't done that way. Because they know each other doesn't give him the liberty to behave the way he did. Some will find it disrespectful. See the response he got

slimjohn2k5:
There is this family I stayed with.
I asked the second daughter for marriage about 2yrs of leaving their house, she turned it down with insult.
Now she is getting married, is it advisable I attend?
I just don't feel right about attending

Guy you mumu oo....So for ur mind na marriage u want to take woo her

slimjohn2k5:
There is this family I stayed with.
I asked the second daughter for marriage about 2yrs of leaving their house, she turned it down with insult.
Now she is getting married, is it advisable I attend?
I just don't feel right about attending

Where dem dey do the wedding?

CsRockefeller:


Lol. Leeme not talk.

Lol talk oo

The choice is yours. A lot of ladies are too petty. She could have just refused firmly and politely. Some are disrespectful, some are snubbish.

Whether or not that happened.. That's the past.. Forgive and let go, if you can attend.. Go for it.. If you can't.. Stay back.. Life is simple. If you must, go with your new girlfriend or fiance...

That aside.. I came across this people fixing android phones for 1k and iPhone for 5k.. I think you all should check them out..

Thecvbankng:


Want to know why it's wrong to ask someone to marry you without prior dating? It's the 21st century and things aren't done that way. Because they know each other doesn't give him the liberty to behave the way he did. Some will find it disrespectful. See the response he got

Well you must be commenting from the 21st century in California because plenty of people get married that way in this country

As long as he approaches her in a respectful manner I don't see what is offensive about the proposal...if nobody had come to marry her she would still complain

What prior dating? Not everybody dates before marriage. You didn't see where I mentioned a courtship period?

She gat your jinx and gists. Hence she don't need you cuz she seen you all.

izuch:


All I'm saying is that under no circumstance should you make a woman or women an issue. When you become too emotional to a woman/women you start becoming irrational, seeking advice everywhere possible. If she turned your marriage proposal down "two years ago" finito, just do "friends". Go to her wedding, wish her well in her marriage sojourn and stop acting like a vindictive wussbag. Most of all triangle your mind to like plenty girls without over sampling one.

Thank you so much

She refused your hand in marriage because you aren’t up to the task yet.

pansophist:
She sees you as a struggling poor man, since it was her family that hosted you for long. Your marriage proposal will be valuable and sort after by her if you had options and being a man of value. The fact that you're still orbiting around her after two years, and contemplating attending the wedding of someone who insulted you, instead of politely turning down your proposal gives an hint that you're not desirable to her, and probably most women.

Why not work on becoming an attractive man? Through your career, looks, or marry a woman that considers you her league. Whether we like it or not, the human brain brain is deeply rooted in hierarchy, we evolved to go for people that compliments our league, and this is heightened in the female psyche, since the surest way she can climb in the socio-economical ladder is largely dependent on the family she marries into. A woman is automatically a queen if she marries a king, that kind of thing.

Check difference between SORT AFTER AND SOUGHT AFTER boss.

Thanks