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Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by anonimi: 1:25pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Mrsabuh1: Does that tradition apply to a man who lied from the beginning of the relationship and continues to do so as he fails to meet his responsibility of husband? I hope that you find a good lawyer to secure yourself in whatever is remaining of the marriage, instead of excusing bad behaviour. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by Originalsly: 1:28pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Hmmmm...... is this the best the husband can do to abandon his wife?...and young children? Deny her of opportunities to help her maintain herself and the children? The guy is a low life period. @ OP.... my advice is to move on with your life. Count him out. If you are into fashion.... focus on improving that business. You can look for jobs... but don't make job a do or die.... jobs are hard to find. Your husband is in a better place for himself right now.... he is doing well...prospering... and that's all that matters to a selfish person. The wicked prospereth but only for a while. The writing is on the wall.... if you never knew now you should know.... your husband is a wolf in sheep's clothing. 1 Like |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by linearity: 1:28pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
@mrsabuh1 Many have said it already, stop stressing yourself. If someone is distancing themselves from you, instead of forcing yourself on them, give them their space. From your story, you have been relying on your husband for a lot of initiatives, am not surprise since that is what our culture teaches. However, he has now shown you his true color and the fact that, he may have other plans. My advise is to try that Canada route again, take the exam again if needed and emigrate to Canada with your kids. Please, don’t tell him, don’t tell any friend, relatives, etc while doing this. When you get to Canada, change your location to Canada or just text (don’t call) him that you are now in Canada. Sit back and watch how you will regain respect from him. But, it would have been too late because he had arouse the independent spirit in you, even if you guys reconcile tomorrow and start leaving under the same roof; he now knows you can do it without him. Caution, always have a backup plan, eg if you are successful with Canada and he asked that you abandon it and move to UK, don’t close the door on Canada, make sure you have meet all the immigration requirements that would allow you to come back. Yes, I know that Canada requirement work and experience component. You said you are a fashion designer and went to school for that....though you may not like it, rebrand it, register; you are a business owner, a CEO and a job creator, developing countries love business owners and job creators more than applicants; because you will be coming in to help generate revenue for their economy and employ labor...rebrand that as your job experience on your resume. 2 Likes |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by litaninja(m): 1:33pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Are you law enforcement?? You want to seize his visa.....because?? Officialgarri: |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by DeRay98(m): 1:34pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Alexaonfleek: Neither you nor I know the truth, the op knows but she only gave her sympathy arousing side of the story, lots of wives do that all the time and they succeed in getting your likes in their pity/sympathy camp. In any case, would you have been happier if he taken the children from her to an unknown destination and leave her lost? |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by srclark: 1:35pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
frozen70:you have said it all .I wont really blame the man the fact they both once lived in dubai says it all the zeal to relocate to another country is there but i think the finances is the issue here .Many of our young women out there see marriage and child bearing as a pension plan .From her write up she said she is close to 30 and she already has 3 children where on earth is she rushing too now you want the man to perform magic to relocate you and the kids to another country getting a visa is one thing moving and relocating the family is another thing (you cant give what you dont have ).My advice to the op is better face the facts and accept the situation on ground many women purposely turn a blind eye to the truth these days and expect their husbands to perform magic .Going to the uk alone he can easily squat with his friends but who wants to squat a family of 5 *na for audio all this things dey easy when it comes into reality guy na war ooo* unless you want to go to the uk and return to naija the way you returned from dubai 2 Likes |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by Graxie(f): 1:36pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Mrsabuh1:Go through your mom to beg your father, the deeds have been done. Don't be hard on yourself. Make them understand that you failed them but you are ready to stand again. Your father still cares but like most father he is hurt, his intelligent daughter falling for such scam, but you just have to tell them to please give you another opportunity. Your present location is it where your parents are? See nothing like family. He will not disown his grandchildren. Just be ready to go extra mile in huzzling, selling whatever petty thing you lay your hands on while you pull back. It is well with you, don't give up. You will look back and thank God for the inner strength you have. Please stop thinking to go back to that man, his culture is not more than Nigeria constitution. All the best. 3 Likes |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by iso604: 1:38pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Check yourself well before complaining After three kids You still want to kill the man Now he finally escape your hell here we go again |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by alfa0: 1:40pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Tellemall: I don't come here to dish out blames neither am I here for men vs woman behaviours in marriage/relationship. These are not my business. I am only here to see how i can render a little help if I have any. To resolve this problem and give hope to the woman in question if it's possible. I am not interested in relationship/marriage games. |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by Nobody: 1:53pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
NOC1: Exactly, the guy is running street, maybe yahoo or drugs so keeping his family distant. From the time he complained in UAE of finances. |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by alfa0: 2:00pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Mrsabuh1: Well,I can see that his family knows everything their son is doing now. 1.it's possible he has another family outside this country. 2. It's also possible is doesn't have any other family except you and his kids . 3.it could be he has some Shaddy deals , business, character he doesn't want you to know. 4.it could be he is not in good financial state as he and his family have made you and your family think.there by raising hopes of better tomorrow All these questions,needs answers . Your family made mistake in this marriage,they didn't investigate properly before you married this man. I have seen this type of marriage trying to happen in my presence.the family of the groom was covering so many issues just to be happy thier son is married.but the family of the bride was able to detect all these on time and the marriage was cancelled. Today,the lady is happily married. Well,this case needs patients to find out the whole truth.you are on it already. I will advice you have patience,keep ur self busy,start something doing.you can get a job. Please don't listen to any advice on fast decision. Even if you are going ur separate ways,let it not be a decision taken out of pressure from advisers. I will keep it touch through this forum only if I figure out what might seems to be a reasonable solution. As for now,this case requires attention of the elders from your home town and his hometown. That is if the two immediate families cannot solve the problem. Finally, don't travel to any Canada because you want to do your own back.you can travel later but not now.any wrong decision you take now might make you loose this case completely. |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by Kwazulu123: 2:04pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Hi. Can you survive abroard on your own. To have children and trained them overseas are very expensive. When u are UAE are u contributing for all the bill's. Sometimes i wonnder why you nigerian womens like overseas as if there is something dropping money on the street. Only that man knows the suffer he is enduring to make sure he takes care of you guys. Sister please listen to your husband before u see yourself in Kuwait doing slavery and call Nigerian gov to rescue you. Your husband doent have money to support you guys oversees thats why he brought you home. Just allow him to go and hustle. It takes up to 5years to have any permanent residences to any country.peace 2 Likes |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by SniperSmurf(m): 2:13pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Op must you go abroad? |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by ogelekpomgam(m): 2:14pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
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Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by loswhite(m): 2:21pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Women are always saying I'm looking for a man that can take care of me..lol. Are women handicap or amputees? He said you should not work and you agree...smh. the earlier we all know that it is your sole responsibility to take care of yourself the better 3 Likes |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by freshbear(m): 2:27pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
LordKO: |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by thorpido(m): 2:28pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
generationz:There's nothing as intoxicating as a 'strange woman'.When one grabs a man,it will take heaven to free him. 1 Like |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by Saintmary(f): 2:42pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Mrsabuh1:There is hope for everyone. Start from where you are. Your financial stability first, kids second, and traveling when you can. It may look bad to you now, but take life one day at a time. Take your eyes off of him, grieve if you need to but your kids need you 3 Likes |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by pek(m): 2:46pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
IrishB:You can make your point without quoting the whole epistle. 1 Like |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by InvertedHammer: 2:49pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
/ He knows what he is afraid of. He doesn't want to pay child support and alimony after you divorce him. Yes madam...you will divorce him. But feel free to deny it. / |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by abelswife(f): 2:50pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
koning: You're a very big fool. Fok away from here now before I send you an e slap. It seems you don't know how to read or your comprehension skills are non existent. I guess you where blind when she said she's been taking care of all the bills. You're just her husband's type. We know them by the comments they make. Ozuo 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by carbon1224(m): 2:50pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Your husband Dey do dirty deals.he is not avoiding you. He is only trying to protect his family from the runs that he his doing. 1 Like |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by Homguy(m): 2:53pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Officialgarri:blaming her for the Idiots behaviour? Something is wrong with you!! 4 Likes |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by cococandy(f): 2:53pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Just listen to yourself 15ssDRIVE: 2 Likes |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by AuwalYusuf812(m): 2:58pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Feedup & don't know what to say.........make I allow the elders to comment. |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by freemi(m): 2:59pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
samdede:also get sme1 or..smethn dat wil b shinin ur kongo make e no cme rust. Body no b firewood |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by frozen70(f): 3:00pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
srclark: That's it, she is not giving up abroad because she is finding it difficult to cope here, being rhst she started her marriage life abroad So the only thing that can make sense to her is relocating out of this country It's a pity, right now she is like a fish out of water |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by 2day6(m): 3:03pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Get a job and leave him. Am sorry to say this, I don't see any good in that man. Maybe you should continue with your fashion design or find something more interesting. 1 Like |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by MrEnigma007: 3:06pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
I won't want to go the route of who is at fault or not... From your story, I can deduce a little part of who you are or why it was easy for him to have gotten you that deep into what you are suffering now, but that aside. If you give someone a knife and he stabs you with it, you don't go around asking if you did wrong in giving the knife to him at the first instance, you simply treat yourself first, then the question comes later. Going by that what is important is moving forward, one of the problem you may be facing is "how can you start all over after your friends must have known of your abroad lifestyle?" Focus on your Kids, your future, the shame of your new found situation will be less compared to what it will be if your shame prevents you from doing the needful. what are the needful; If you have a hen at hand, do you kill it for now, you rear it for eggs or you throw it in hope of getting a goat? You have a fashion shop, improve on it, business might be hard, look for how you can better it, if it is those local tailor shop, add provision selling to it. improve your finances. What did you study, submit your CV to companies that will pay higher than your projected earning per month in your tailoring shop. At night, go online and get relevant training or better still if you can write, look for writing Jobs online, my friend yet to get a job does this and his earning per month is averagely 35k, stressful though. Go on LinkedIn find Jobs there, be serious with it. on the children, if it were in Lagos, they have schools that are of good quality and less expensive enrol them there, enrol your child to a public school in Lagos if the child is of secondary school age, their public secondary school in Lagos state is standard. Your husband will come back when he will but waiting for him to come back without moving forward will be detrimental to both you and the children |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by Rejoice5000(f): 3:07pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Officialgarri:Good point |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by Nobody: 3:09pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
maynation: Lol. How many homes have they wrecked? OP, if you reading this, your story is incomplete. You need to tell us what the quarrel earlier this year was all about. |
Re: I Think My Husband Scammed Me by Rejoice5000(f): 3:12pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
obiekunie2:Hia! Na u bi her husband? |
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