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Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by TheRedpillguy: 7:52pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Mindfulness:Hehe you got that on a ferminist forum? Like female dating strategy on reddit? What ever I say about women is nothing but the truth. Nah never experience rejection, in my name says it all. I advice men about female dating strategy. I know woman. I know how things works. i will tell you for a fact that when you age as a woman you lose your sexual value, the brain on default just tells the man "you are not fertile " not sure you are making more than me right now. And I don't mind dancing to the tune of people who pay me. Its called the economy. Yeah am doing pretty well for myself. Dad help too, left me with lots of proparties, thanks to the patriarchy. About my sex life and rejection. Hehe am doing the rejection.
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Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 7:55pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
TheRedpillguy: See how insecure you are. You are even trying to prove something to a stranger. Keep deceiving yourself. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by TheRedpillguy: 8:05pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Mindfulness:Yeah I love proving strangers wrong too? Cus strangers can just come talk like they know someone. You can give it names, but like you said. You read my view about women. I want my readers to understand that the truth they know about women, its not cus they are rejected by women its cus women are full of BS and thy should know their value and see through that BS especially the women that are getting old and are running out of options. I want men to reject them cus they are using those men as a back up plan and dont mean well for them. No man should be a back up plan for a woman. Men should go for fertile women. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by barbietosin(f): 8:10pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Carrier shud kom first ooo...no guy want a liability |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Duru009(m): 8:11pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
emddi: I have made my point ! |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by IJEYdiamond(f): 8:15pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Hmmm If you never marry... develop yourself career wise...!! |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by prohet: 8:33pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
safarigirl:well said |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by faderayo(f): 8:34pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Career of cos. As a lady if you're not stable career wise don't go and bother another woman's son. A woman/ lady must bring something to the table. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by DonroxyII: 9:02pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
pocohantas:No one talked bout you not fitting in .... I'm just talking about intricacies of home , work especially kids and motherly attention they require ... All these might shift ya focus away from social media and that is psychologically speaking .... Verily, You will look back at some of your posts and laugh !! .... it is a social media and not many Nigerian ladies are actually interested in posting their opinion .... what is d population of female on Nairaland (Excluding gender trolls) ... how many of you guys are actually active across threads ..... Many get easily cowed !! The beautiful times I cherish ya head most is when it is talking Banking/Finance among others ... and e dey touch well attimes !! |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by pocohantas(f): 9:09pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
DonroxyII: My values are very well intact. I am very aware of the posts I make and my reasons for making every single one of them . If I drop out of NL, it will most likely be about disinterest than any other thing. I have little or no presence on SM, NL is my go to place for gossip and raw knowledge too. So, I will be very available here. But the day I master how to get premium content from IG and Twitter, that might be the end of my NL life. There are less toxic males there. Biko, tell your brothers to stop bullying them. Once again, my head is very okay. Thanks for agreeing it has some good output |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by troy20(m): 9:18pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Lol you guys should let women be. Lol ladies we just want our self worth validated that's why we're obsessed with any topics about you. See how we're hanging marriage on your necks lol. Just bear with us men Biko. We can't live without you. Yeah, I just said that. 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by bindukwe(m): 9:21pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
One way to approach this reasonably is from an individual angle. The individual has to be clear about their wants and knowledge of what it will cost them. This has no one size answer, it depends solely on what the individual decide for themselves. Its important the individual gets informed on the benefits and consequences of each choice. It affords them time & agency to deal or bear with whatever cost comes with the choices made. Any one of those choices can be placed above the other with valid backing reasons. Just be aware of the advantages and disadvantages of picking one over the other. If you want to finish at the top of the mountain of your chosen career path, forget marriage, this one I'm sure of. You can make do with late marriage and adopted kids if that appeals to you. Getting to the top and being there requires a huge amount of time dedicated towards it Which will definitely encroach into any family time you plan to have. Combining both means sacrificing being at your best in any of them. Regardless, An average effort in both areas can bring in satisfactory results. You mustn't be the greatest in your field or at home to make an impact. A positive one preferably. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by pocohantas(f): 9:23pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
troy20: Hah!!! Thank you!!!!!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by bindukwe(m): 9:26pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
ogongogames: What should surprise you is the loose grip it has on some people. Also im curious about what you mean by overall happiness? |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by bindukwe(m): 9:31pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Newguyhere: Noone starts out as a saint, all man are monsters and this includes women. We strive to become good regardless of our monstrous nature So, those guys weren't good lovers but naive lovers and there's a difference. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by doggedfighter(f): 9:46pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
LagosismyHome:Been a while. How are you doing? 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by ogongogames(m): 9:47pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
bindukwe: I feel that "true" happiness is lies with contentment in who we are. It's the mental aspect. From my observations, a lot of people are rushing into marriage when they are not even happy themselves, thinking that it will fill the void in their lives. If you were unhappy with yourself before marriage, this won't change afterwards. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by chigoizie7(m): 10:03pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
ireneidiva: Very very terrible, including those around me on Nairaland, of which you are not an exception . |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 10:07pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
For me, I really hope to achieve both simultaneously and strike a healthy balance between both. Choosing career over marriage means I might never marry as it would take 10 years or more to reach the peak of my career. In the same vein, neglecting career for marriage means I will never be a fulfilled woman. Being able to combine both is the best bet 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by bindukwe(m): 10:10pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
ogongogames: I've struggled with that word happiness for a while. Its something that we pursue that really means nothing. What can be considered happiness? The positive emotions you feel when something good happens or a mood thing? Its not self evident that life is something to make man happy. Here and there, you feel on top of the world and the next day you come crashing down. You don't need to scratch beyond the surface to find something that will trouble you for the next 24 hours. You solve that and something larger rears its head. If contentment is what you consider as happiness; maybe that's valid but that's not what most people see it as. For most is a constant rush of positive emotions which is never sustainable and leads to even steeper falls 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by ogongogames(m): 10:30pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
bindukwe: You views are entirely fair and I agree, Contentment is my happiness, understanding and accepting who I am as an individual has allowed me to make huge strides in life over the last few years. I know my strengths and weaknesses and embrace them, I am not in competition with anybody nor trying to emulate anyone. My goal in life is to be the best version of myself. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by bindukwe(m): 10:43pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
ogongogames: Which is a worthy goal and a game you're sure of winning. You can't beat others at being them. People tend towards comparisons with people they don't know eg with celebrities or influencers on social media. Which never ends well, you find yourself a supporting actor in another man's play. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by nnaeyes6: 10:52pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
sassysure: God help us. A man being broke scales him A woman being rich scares him more. No man wants insult. The more successful a woman becomes, the mire a man sees her as a threat. And look at our CHIMAMANDA 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Ezeanna: 11:18pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
All these our Nairaland guys ehn, they can really vex somebody. So, you guys know that a young woman choosing marriage is actually backpedaling or even sacrificing her career, because of the enormous work involved in raising children and nurturing a family; yet you use same mouth to ask what women bring to the table. If your wife travels for whatever reason for 1 month, leaving your 3 kids, all below 7 years, for you to take care of, can you handle the home front and still perform optimally at work during this period? Many married men are successful in their respective careers because their spouses backpedaled on theirs. Yet, you won't see them opening threads to commend their wives, it is always one complaint or the other. Our young women, please don't break your backs trying to raise families and at the same time rise to the peak of your careers. It is too big a task for one person, and even our men do not attempt it. Just try to blend the two paths however much you can; have a family that gives you joy when life gets tough, and have a job/business that helps you support your family. Stop trying to prove anything to anybody. Be you, and do what works best for you. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by FlyingTOMATOE: 11:28pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Both can't come at the same time... Its developmental... But marriage should be a priority... Loneliness is evil |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by QuintessentialW: 12:01am On Dec 04, 2019 |
Ezeanna: Most thoughtful comment I've read all year! Thank you! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by ireneidiva(f): 5:12am On Dec 04, 2019 |
chigoizie7:Who says I'm a woman? |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Rukkydelta(f): 8:04am On Dec 04, 2019 |
I hate it when I see all these misogynist spreading lies about women seeing menopause at 30 and 35 just to shame women, abeg I want to know where you see such women? Menopause is women begins from 45 to 55 years, few women do get to 60 before they even see menopause. The case of 35 years seeing menopause is very very rare and can be related to an health condition As for me carrier before marriage don't want to be a liability and end up receiving trash from any man named husband, the goal is to become a millionaire before marriage. There is no joy than breathing air as a financial stable and independent woman 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by explosiveskull(m): 9:24am On Dec 04, 2019 |
ImaIma1:Next time you see that "ExplosiveSkull" handle, just avoid me please. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by explosiveskull(m): 9:36am On Dec 04, 2019 |
troy20:Now this is one thing these ladies don't understand, that most of our comments about them is to make them not to forget we can't even survive without them, they all go flagrant ,flaring and defensive without thinking in-between lines at the end poisoning the whole fun. I pray they get wisdom, Most sane men don't care about a woman who is career oriented or marriage oriented once he is comfortable with the woman's ideologies, we can go on to support whatever they feel is their dreams. Most of them often stop dreaming when they get married, that is a problem but most sane men ignore that cos we feel it is cos of our family that they've made such compromise. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by LotusFan: 9:41am On Dec 04, 2019 |
Richdad50: Richdad for President!!!! |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by ImaIma1(f): 9:59am On Dec 04, 2019 |
explosiveskull: And next time you see "imaima1", do the same and don't respond |
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