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Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 5:42pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
TheRedpillguy: Look, instead of repeating what someone told you like a parrot, all these recycled opinions about women and what they should do, work on yourself and your grammar and spelling before you try to advise other people. Trust me, you will be better off for it. You sound pathetic. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by pocohantas(f): 5:45pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Ishilove: My mum My dad is a very quiet man. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 5:45pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Duru009:Ma broda,career isn't about money,career is you doing work you love and finding fulfillment in it.When you have found fulfillment,to hell with what people think or say. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by demarc001: 5:46pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
GoldenEstacy: Brilliant answer. But most ladies find it hard to balance both and they abuse it when they get such partner, as they grow they change towards their partner. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 5:48pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
pocohantas: No wonder poco hates loud men. Her first love was the stoic silent type |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by anonymuz(m): 5:48pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Be balanced about it. If you have little to support him, i will suggest marriage should be a priority. When married you can now further your career. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by BeLookingIDIOT(m): 5:48pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Marriage comes first,then Career,then Which. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by ogongogames(m): 5:48pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Yonce: Fair enough. I don't dispute what you've stated. I don't blame them but find it bizarre that one can put marriage before overall happiness. It's like there is more focus on the idea of being marriage rather than what it truly entails. Nigeria is very "clique" society, there are certain expectation based on who you are. I just find it surprising the strong grip it has on people's choices. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by QuickStandard: 5:49pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
papiforreal: Is that not witchcraft? |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by DonroxyII: 5:51pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
pocohantas:U won't go anywhere unless u get busy with life ... maybe marry and born pikin ... U sabi how to claim land na Most female Nlanders are being African girls who get cowed easily .... it all begin from home though .... They should learn to face their fears and conquer ... ..... Even those ones that are not bully are mostly uninterested in issues like this .... Alot of ladies out there are confused .... They are what the society defined for them !! That is why I like you despite say ur head dey touch wellwell above others !! |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Yonce(f): 5:53pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
ornicus: I'm sure he didn't mean women over 30 are literally not hot. I think he meant they tend to have fewer suitors and even with all their wealth, it becomes increasingly difficult to settle down as they age. That doesn't of course mean some don't eventually settle down but the pool of available men become much smaller. As Marilyn Monroe said as far back as 1952, "Men grow cold as women grow old" That is the harsh reality of life. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Yonce(f): 5:57pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
ogongogames: A wise woman once said, "A career is wonderful and all but you can't curl up with it on a cold night." 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by bukatyne(f): 5:59pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
pocohantas: @bold Very correct. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by ireneidiva(f): 6:01pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
chigoizie7:The women around you must really be terrible. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 6:05pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Yonce: Hehe well don't mind that NYSC guy. Truth is women sexual value in anywhere in the world is the same. They are hot from 17 then when they get to 30, they are not hot. The people that rush you to get married know this becouse they know, you will have a better choice of a man when you are young, cus then. U have a pool of men that are just inline. When you get old thou, that pool dry up real quick and you are left with those potbelly, soyboy, turd etc. Nobody cares how much money woman have, if she is not young and beautiful. She is invincible I gave a personal story where my sisters friend was hustled into getting married early by her mother. Today she is married hopefully happily, but she has never left Ilorin. My sis is married, in the us. Her other friend is happily married and in the us. Doctors. Great marriages great pay. They were lucky not to be born to families with empty headed parents talking nonsense about the sexual value of women. You know what that nonsense sounds like? What a slave trader would say. Guess what, anyone, man or woman, you get older, more successful, the pool available to you will shrink because you have grown. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 6:07pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Yonce: you think your only role as a man/ human being is to be curled up against at night? Do you know what a comforter is? |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Pizzlelight: 6:14pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Chidorx60:Not every lady's parents have the capacity to provide for them... Have been fending for my self and even parents since I left school. So you expect me while still trying to find my feet to go and get married. Wisdom is profitable to direct |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 6:17pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Pizzlelight:Ofcoures dear ....in every case their is an exception......but imagine a scenario were u find a man who loves you and whom you love and this guy is well to do, will u refuse marriage 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by nnaeyes6: 6:19pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
safarigirl: Safe journey My dear very female good friend (name withheld) is still careerist till date, after our graduation since 2011. Suitors have come and gone. Career is carrying her now |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by pocohantas(f): 6:21pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
ornicus: I don't like silent men either. A mixture of both is perfect. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Yonce(f): 6:29pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
ornicus: Comforter won't replace human contact. Why have a comforter when you can have a man? Who says having a man and a career is mutually exclusive? 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Ishilove: 6:33pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
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Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 6:38pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
nnaeyes6: I left school at that time. All our circle of friends were getting married to their desired men one after the other and at the same time preparing for service. One of us said she will dive into masters after service and pursue career. We finished service, almost all of us got married and started work. She went back for her masters. Like 3 started masters part-time alternating with work. She stayed in my house during one interview. The guy that wanted to marry her( this guy has been pleading and crying and had known her from childhood), she refused. We begged her. It's always career. Today, she is still doing career. We all are married with our respective jobs. Anytime we chat, I will tell her don't lose hope. Her younger sister is married while in school. U use your sense in Nigeria. Some are where they are because of their husbands help. There is nothing I desire to achieve now I can't aspire for. How many people in Nigeria has career jobs? Very few. No be to get job that pays the bill and life goes on? Who said u can't get that as a married woman. Any man who don't help build u is never your husband. Ur husband will desire that u grow and will help u. I didn't wait for any career. I dived into marriage and continued the job hunt and never regretted it. Lots of people that insist on career do so because nobody they liked or who lived up to their expectations came. If they had seen the type of men they fantasized about, to hell with career I'm a woman so we know how it rolls 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by nnaeyes6: 6:55pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
sassysure: U just nailed it. Going to university has already wasted like 4/5 years of ur life as a Woman and some are still thinking about career. Get a hubby, Start a family. Tell ur husband what u want to do. If it is work, good and if it is to start a business, he will support you, especially, this time that women help their husbands in bringing things to the table. Let me be frank about girls I have met including in my church. Most are over 30yrs and are wanting to marry, but men actually want the younger ones. Some men who want the 30s and above are those who feel to settle down with ladies born in 1980s for their personal reasons. I have 3 sisters in particular that are of ages 39,36,34 that are not married but are doing fine career wise. Each time I have conversations with them I just feel pain for them. They want husbands but none is coming. And they told me suitors were coming but they wanted to be comfortable before they marry. Interestingly, the first daughter is married with grown up kids and she is working and the husband is also working too. It therefore pains me when I here a woman position career before husband after wasting years already in the university. Ask ur parents the age they got married. I think it will help to run into one now u have time. Anyway, husbands are even scarce so CAREER LADIES are always victims turned feminists. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 7:06pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
If I tell you, what will you give me? |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 7:12pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
nnaeyes6:If u live in a highly patriarchal society called Nigeria, will notice that men are scared of women who are rich, as u get older, suitors reduce, u will also factor in childbirth problems. It doesn't favour women but we know how we swing the pendulum as not to hit us. My cousin is a medical Dr, got married during her residency. Practicing outside the country with her husband. One said she dont want to work buy trade, that babe is richer than all of us combined. She has 5 kid. They can go on holiday anywhere they want to. So many examples. U are into fashion designing, how do that stop u from getting married? There is no work in Nigeria, u have finished school, a good man comes your way, hold that first and continue. As u are job hunting and doing small small things, u don drop one. If job no gree come, u can start a trade. Go to big markets and stores and see women doing wonders. Look at Linda ikeji. She said she regretted saying no cos she was pursuing money and career. She is a baby mama now. How low can that be? There are people here who said the same thing last 4 yrs, they have changed monikers and still saying the same thing No man is ever good for them 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by TheRedpillguy: 7:22pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Mindfulness:Thank you for pointing that out for me. Will surely work on it. English is not my first language, but I hope you got the massage? I don't understand when you said I was repeating something like a parrot. Is that a smart people thing. Cus I don't get it. Anyways. Am all about free birds, not telling you what you should do. Just telling you to move fast. And am telling you what people think before they say what they say. Honestly with all that attitude you put up, I don't know what you are going for. Is that a strong and independent woman thing? 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by eboniest(f): 7:28pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
Both goes hand in hand..one must be able to balance it.. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by ajokeade920: 7:35pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
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Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by TheRedpillguy: 7:36pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
sassysure:Men are not scared of women who have money(Jesus) the gym wea I work out, there are rich women their coming everyday. But it dosnt take a day to make money. Men don't care about a woman having money. As long as you are young beautiful, inteligent, in shape (not fat) men will want you, no matter the money you think you have, there is a single man with more money. But men with more money or usual money don't want women with money, they want young girls that don't even have a dime. Again, be young and beautiful. The men without money don't want a woman with money. But they will like a young beautiful girl with money thou. Back to the gym. I have regular girls, beautiful girls that are in shape. I talk to those alot, don't mean am afraid with the ones with money thou. Am good looking, am doing good for myself, can afford anything I want . so I have no reason to be afraid of a woman. Sometimes I don't even notice these women in the gym until they ask me for help. So defnetly men are not afraid. Men don't just want old women. Cus the brain on default recognize old women as non fertile 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by Nobody: 7:37pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
TheRedpillguy: Did you honestly think that your opinion about women on this thread is something we have never read? We have been reading the same boring stuff for years now. We have read countless times how we should fear menopause and how you will desire us less. Do you seriously think we didn't know menopause would come? And then you act as if anyone needs your advice. Who the f*ck are you to dish out unsolicited advice on a thread created for ladies? Who asked you? Let me tell you something Redpillguy, cause your name says it all, you have been rejected by women several times, now you are projecting your frustration on ladies hoping they will experience the same when they get older but I can assure you that with your mindset and attitude you will be even rejected past menopause and dance to the tune of those of us who have built successful careers. Mark my words. Now go and sin no more son. |
Re: Marriage Or Career Which Comes First: Ladies Question For You All ... by ImaIma1(f): 7:51pm On Dec 03, 2019 |
explosiveskull: Say something new now. This Shiloh mantra is getting old and stale |
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