If people around you are unhealthy, do not join them in getting sick

Love has become a very relevant thing in human life only because human emotions is a strong aspect of human being. In human life, emotion is a very powerful thing.

Even in this day and age, most people think they are very intellectual, but in reality, their emotions are the strongest aspect of their life.
They claim they are intellectual, but their intellect is never so intense, but check their emotions, it is so intense. Maybe not love, maybe not compassion, but maybe anger, maybe irritation. These are all emotions and you will agree that emotion is a very important aspect of being human.

So, know this, love means that you have transformed your emotions into sweetness. Hate also means that you have transformed your emotions into bitterness.

Love is an emotion; it is the sweetness of your emotions that you call love. If the same emotions become bitter, we call it hate.

Usually, it is the people whom you once love that you hate, isn’t it? Some time ago you loved them, now you hate them. You don’t hate someone that is just walking on the street. To hate someone, you must have first love them.

This means that, love and hate are two sides of the same coin. If it falls this way, you love, if it falls the other way, you hate. Don’t think they are too far away.

Love is an emotion, hate is also an emotion. The choice therefore is, do you want your emotion to be pleasant or unpleasant? That’s your choice.

Although, you may say that you want your emotions to be pleasant, but unfortunately, most people are keeping their emotions bitter most of the time. Bitter doesn’t necessarily mean that you are in active hatred, you may just be in irritation and agitation. Fear is also an emotion; anxiety is an emotion. All of these gives some level of unpleasantness.

If you make your emotions very pleasant, then life will be very pleasant for you. If you make your emotions unpleasant, life would also become very unpleasant for you.

You see, most people today experience the moment of love as the most profound moment in their life, but in actuality it is not , they only experience it that way because that is the most intense thing they have ever felt, so they raise it to heaven.

Because of such experience, people are talking about divine love, but do you know for sure if God loves or not?

Human beings are capable of love if they are willing, but you don’t know if God loves. You only believe so, but you don't know for sure.

Now, if you made yourself in such a way that nobody around you can love you, then the only succor you have is to create somebody that must love you from heaven, even if you do not see them.

To be honest, to say that God loves you is the most unfortunate way to live. Assuming that God really loves, assuming that God does love you, don’t you think he would also love every other of his creation in the same manner?

If God loves you is the only way you feel loved, that means you made yourself in such a way that nobody can ever look at you and love you among people you can see. That's not a good way to live life.

If you made yourself in such a way that people around you cannot help but love you, won't that have been so nice. How pleasant would your life be, if everybody around you find you so easy to love?

But beyond the concept and perception, there is nothing like love, hate, happiness, misery etc. They all don't exist.

If you become pleasant in your body, we call it health. If you become very pleasant, we call it pleasure. If your mind become pleasant, we call it peace, if it becomes very pleasant, we call it joy. If your emotions become pleasant, we call it love, if it becomes very pleasant, we call it compassion. If your life energies become pleasant, we call it bliss, if it becomes very pleasant, we call it ecstasy. If your surroundings become pleasant, we call it success, if it becomes very pleasant, we call it accomplishment.

These are all to it, nothing more.

Should I be loving? No, you don’t have to be loving. Just be pleasant in your body, pleasant in your mind, pleasant in your emotions and pleasant in your energies and you will be a wonderful being.

If your emotions are pleasant and somebody comes around, you can share that pleasantness with them. If your emotions are unpleasant, for sure you will also share it with people, isn’t it?

So, you cannot do something that you are not. If you are feeling pleasant now, you would definitely be pleasant in everything and if you are feeling unpleasant, you would also be nasty to everything.

However, instead of figuring out how to make yourself pleasant, you are trying to be loving. It doesn't work that way. You don’t have to be loving. If everything within you has become pleasant, whatever is needed in that moment, you will do.

If you need to say pleasant things, you will say it and if you need to say some hard things, you will say it without being bitter about it. Even if you want to fight somebody, you will fight the person without any bitterness or unpleasantness.

This is so because, when you are pleasant, you will do everything only to the extent of its necessity. You will not over do anything.

The truth is that, If you say I love somebody, you will exaggerate things about the people you love. You will exaggerate good things about them. If you say I hate somebody, you will exaggerate bad things about them. You will never say anything the way it is. People go blind with the things that they love, they lose all their senses to it. They also go blind with the things that they hate. They lose all their senses to it too. If you like, you loose sesnse, if you dislike, you loose sense. The door way of life is being equanimous, that is, being able to see everything just the way they are.

With this, you will be pleasant to somebody not because somebody is nice. You will be pleasant to people just because you are pleasant, that’s all. That’s a more guaranteed love affairs, isn’t it?

You will be pleasant to people because you are pleasant. If I am being pleasant to you because you are nice, tomorrow when you are not so nice, something else will happen. If you mortgage your pleasantness with something outside of yourself, you being pleasant or unpleasant is only by chance. But keeping yourself pleasant is your business. It is your most important business. If you are pleasant, whatever you interact with will also generate pleasantness.

Unfortunately, today, you are not making yourself pleasant, instead you are trying to make somebody pleasant to you and that is subject to so many things. If you have to be pleasant, they have to be fixed the way you want them and that’s not possible. Get this clear, nobody can be fixed the way you want them. You are not even able to fix yourself the way you want yourself.

The more you try to fix others, the more bitterness and unpleasantness will happen. That is why in the so called most intimate relationships, maximum amount of unpleasantness happens.

This is simply because, you trying to do something that you are not. You are trying to be loving, when you are not pleasant.

If everybody around you is unpleasant, if they are in mess, if they are not acting the way you want them, just work on being pleasant and you will be alright. If everybody around you is unhealthy, is it not important at least that you are healthy, even if you want to take care of them? Is there any logic in it that, when everybody gets unhealthy, so you also decided to get sick?

So, if people around you are unpleasant, it is even more important for you to be pleasant.