Good evening guys am in a very tight situation and I want you guys to give me one or two advise on how to arrest the situation. Okay am 25 and dating a girl who is 23 and we are both madly in love with each other. Technically we have been together for like four years. We met while we were still in school and fell in love.. somehow her parents found out she was dating a me few years ago while she was in 300 level and they asked her to but an end to the relationship which she told them she can't, they beat her and made her promise to quit the relationship. She told me about the situation and I told her to tell she would end the relationship so they don't beat her again. We continued dating in secrecy till now. We have since both graduated and rounded up youth service though we are both currently in a job search. Few months ago prior to her NYSC passing out she has been on my neck that she wants to tell her parents about us which I told her to wait till am able to secure a job which she refused and insisted on telling her parents because she is starting to feel guilty keeping everything from them then I gave her the go ahead. Few days ago she gave me a call that she already told her mom about us and she was not okay with me being a practricing Catholic that she doesn't like my church doctrine that she should discuss with her dad who was away for a program now he is back and they want to meet me officially. The whole thing is making me nervous and my curiosity is running wild have never done this before and I don't know how to go about it.... I need your advice guys

Girls and marriage are like 5&6.
I will advice you to forget anything marriage until you secure a job and be well established.

Or,
do you want your unborn children to suffer?




*spews

The elders are coming bro

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Okay..

Here are some red flags:

You are 25
No stable source of income
You don't even know what marriage is
Conflicting church doctrine
You want to use marriage to keep a girl you "assume" you love.

Please don't marry if you don't earn Atleast 250,000 Naira at the moment.

With all the exposure you have now, you will but suffer for the rest of your life trying to foot the bills that comes with marriage.

I omitted your GF because she is 23 and practically has nothing to offer.

My verdict: Keep her, nuture her, hustle harder, marry her when the time is right.

#Peace.

If you love her dont go there yet because it will end the relationship. Tell her you travelled for an emergency. But if her parents are rich and they can hook you up with a job then go but be ready to change religion first. I don't know why i feel this will end badly, however if you too love the girl go but practice your presentation as if na power point you go use talk. Don't go and be looking daft.

Make sure you go with a friend to reduce the number of questions they will ask you

Guy
Don't u think its better to have a source of income
Abi u wan day beg or what?




Hustle ooooooo make woman no insult u cuz of money

This reminds me of when my ex told me that her aunt and her pastor wants to meet me

I told her to tell the the kind of person that I'm first cos if they ask me too many questions concerning religion.

it won't go down well

last last she suspend the meeting to avoid break up


My guy go there and act like a man

be real and don't let them intimidate you

Booked

Starlight10:
If you love her dont go there yet because it will end the relationship. Tell her you travelled for an emergency. But if her parents are rich and they can hook you up with a job then go but be ready to change religion first. I don't know why i feel this will end badly, however if you too love the girl go but practice your presentation as if na power point you go use talk. Don't go and be looking daft.

Lying to his girl is not a good idea. Like I always say, tell the truth and stand your ground. Don't compromise on your integrity. @OP, go and see your girl's parents. Be confident, honest and polite. Above all, be yourself. God will take care of the rest and if this is meant to be, it will be. Remember many people have faced worse odds and come out on top.

That think call love go clear for your face soon, then you go relax how foolish your decision was.

No love hunger can't kill, anyways I didn't read the content....

Starlight10, It seems you're talking from experience

Go
with a friend , buy a bottle of wine and give the father.

Small pikins.

But how do ladies feel very comfortable to tell their parents about their boyfriends?..I'm 25 and still find it very difficult to discuss my boyfriend with my mum even though she tries to force it out,she'll always tease me that I'm 'hiding' my boyfriend but i just feel it's 'improper' to tell her about my BOYFRIEND when it's not FIANCE or HUSBAND.my POV though.

Simplep:
Small pikins.

But how do ladies feel very comfortable to tell their parents about their boyfriends?..I'm 25 and still find it very difficult to discuss my boyfriend with my mum even though she tries to force it out,she'll always tease me that I'm 'hiding' my boyfriend but i just feel it's 'improper' to tell her about my BOYFRIEND not FIANCE or HUSBAND.my POV though.

Lol.
You're not alone sis, I wonder how too

BiafranBushBoy:
Okay..

Here are some red flags:

You are 25
No stable source of income
You don't even know what marriage is
Conflicting church doctrine
You want to use marriage to keep a girl you "assume" you love.

Please don't marry if you don't earn Atleast 250,000 Naira at the moment.

With all the exposure you have now, you will but suffer for the rest of your life trying to foot the bills that comes with marriage.

I omitted your GF because she is 23 and practically has nothing to offer.

My verdict: Keep her, nuture her, hustle harder, marry her when the time is right.

#Peace.

Nothing to add..
Take this advice..

Offpoint:
That think call love go clear for your face soon, then you go relax how foolish your decision was.

No love hunger can't kill, anyways I didn't read the content....

Were you driving on a road filled with potholes while typing and commenting sir?

bimbotua:

Lol.
You're not alone sis, I wonder how too

girrl,it's just somehow.what if it doesn't work and we breakup and get another one,we tell mummy again,mummy will be keeping counts of how many boyfriends we've had.. gross

Simplep:
girrl,it's just somehow.what if it doesn't work and we breakup and get another one,we tell mummy again,mummy will be keeping counts of how many boyfriends we've had.. gross

Lol

BiafranBushBoy:
Okay..

Here are some red flags:

You are 25
No stable source of income
You don't even know what marriage is
Conflicting church doctrine
You want to use marriage to keep a girl you "assume" you love.

Please don't marry if you don't earn Atleast 250,000 Naira at the moment.

With all the exposure you have now, you will but suffer for the rest of your life trying to foot the bills that comes with marriage.

I omitted your GF because she is 23 and practically has nothing to offer.

My verdict: Keep her, nuture her, hustle harder, marry her when the time is right.

#Peace.

OP take this advice. I will only add that don't let the N250k scare you , but you see when you have hustle hard enough our bodi go phone you say - "yes I believe I can safely take care of someone's daughter" . By dat time, wen dem invite u and u show, na you and the papa go dey discuss other things, cause d marriage part of the gist no go take more than 10mins.

The girl and her parents are somehow. She's 23, why is she discussing Bf with her parents. And the parents too, what's their business with a 25 year old boyfriend that is not working yet, when he has not even expressed any intention to get married.

People need to learn to not overshare, there is time for everything.

Poster, they already have a problem with your church, so accept the fact that the relationship is probably not going anywhere. Go and meet them but lower your expectations and let no one put you under unecessary pressure.