AntiMCU:

Powered how far with Nelly and Florence the Cotonou babe?

Nicca Nelly de around Florence never come but she told me she go come before Xmas Sha I go try check on her for triple tower dis weekend

Richnerd69:
So I met this youth corper lady in abuja when I escorted my friend Whose babe pushed buttons for an appointment for him to meet with a dignitary in brit high Commissions, in order to secure visa to Europe and job connections on arrival to the UK. Who recalled I created a thread about my friend who was about to leave everything he worked for, to travel along with his rich babe? Well, dude just left days go.

Well, that aside. Prior to meeting this pretty corper who just came back from camp, I just came out of a messy break up which left a vacuum in me... We got talking and loved up in 2days cuz she also lodged in the same guest house as we did, and at night she would come downstairs to relax, as even i too would.

We got down, We became so close in a short space of time as we exchanged pleasantries, thoughts and ideas and we laughed about the funniest things together. Told her about the opportunities in Port Harcourt and how I would love her to come serve in PH, and that she could live with me.

She's 23 and she has a very humble spirit and a good vision. On my proposal, she declined and her reasons were the security threats and rumors about evil practices and she hasn't been to PH before . I tried to assure her to keep her safe if she would allow me work her transfer to PH. Guys she agreed, and that evening I put a call across an uncle who's a Brig.General who pushed buttons the following day... And by January she is to be in PH for service .

My friend left for Lagos on the 5th to meet with his babe so they would catch their flight and I couldn't follow him because I had to stay back to make preparations for her to come stay with me in PH. Beforehand, I had introduce her to my guy and he told me to be careful with this one but he liked her vibe and everything about her. She then took me to see her elder sister who is married in Niger state before we would both be leaving for PH. Her sister was mean and harsh at first, but I spoke with her husband who was from my home town and he talked to his wife so I could take her sister with me. We would be leaving on Wednesday as my 2weeks work leave expires this Tuesday.

Now guys, I don't know why I feel like I've started stepping out of my boundaries, like I'm moving too fast and doing too much, just too early... Now that she's coming over to PH, I don't know what the future holds tho but I really like this lady and I want to build her up...But do you think moving in together in a short time of knowing each other is bad for us? Any suggestion whatsoever ?? Do I get her a place so she could have a roommate so we could at least keep space ?

Both of you are moving too fast but truthfully moving fast or slow has nothing to do with how long or healthy the relationship will be.

For now, just look for a roommate with her.
She shouldn't move in with you.

You are not the only one taking risks,she is also taking a big risk.

She get mind Sha bcuz me I would never even agree to go with someone I just met some minutes ago, talk more of taking him to meet my loved ones but still everyone's love story won't be the same thing.

I wish you and yours the best

Richnerd69:



Thanks man. My decision to bring her over to PH was not with ulterior motives as people actually perceive it to be. Before I raised the suggestion to help her, I understood the risks involved and I still went ahead anyways. She's told me her story and her visions. Her aunt is making her settle for lesser than she bargained for, but where she's going to be positioned to serve, she would be properly paid like a normal entry staff aside her monthly allowance, and well catered for as she isn't the only one I've connected that way... My plan is to make her independent, so I won't be her cash clown. I have so many other responsibilities on my neck.

I've only been slightly sceptical of late, with the way people I closely confided in have been condemning my decision and tagging it as "stupid". I somewhat feel a bit stupid, but not driven or motivated by lust but out of human kindness and likeness, and I will try as much as possible to avoid body contact. I don't want to appear manipulative or possessive. I've called my mom and I told her everything, she trusts my decision but also hopes I'm not gonna regret my gesture.

Plus, we are both having this discussion tonight. I'm gonna give her a chance to reconsider her choice.. we probably might be heading way fast, or probably not. Thanks again.

You somewhat sound sincere, but I think you're being presumptuous. The reason being, that you've taken up the approach of trying to control things. Somehow in your mind, you think "here's a damsel in distress who I could 'groom' into my ideal woman",and have her do my bidding. I'm sure you already know that you could never truly experience true love nor a healthy relationship with that sort of arrangement. Honestly speaking, this is at its core manipulative, however the good intentions that you've masked it with.

And this is a fully grown lady full of suprises, able to make her decisions. Don't not be suprised when disagreements begin to arise. My advise to you is to never be fully invested(and I mean emotionally) until you can fully guage where things are going. Best case scenario you've got the woman of your dreams who buys fully into you.And in between, if things don't work out, you were able to show someone a new experience in a state she'd never been to. Worse scenario, you get the "live-puppet" you seek

In life and love, it isn't by how fast nor how slow but, acting at the right time. But how do we know when is? Well no one can say actually, all we can do is speculate.But many who have made the right move have spoken about just "knowing", like an intuition. You're moving fast, aren't you? Well let's see where this takes you. Goodluck man

silentEXPLOSION:
summarise.

Your write up is too long.

Don't carry this habit into 2020

lols,I dey tells u

fykes:
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
Ciao!!

otule my great grandmother for unicef

Offpoint:

Do you drink beer? I don't know you, who you are and where you're from... But I'll find you and buy a Cold Beer

Thank you my brother.

silentEXPLOSION:
summarise.

Your write up is too long.

Don't carry this habit into 2020

You won't make heaven bro.... Dnt carry this habit to 2020

The sex entered your head and you started thinking upside down

The sex entered his head and you started thinking upside down

Kseafresh:
You didn't even know whether she be mammy water or not before making plans for her to come and live with you..
You are making the biggest mistake of your life.
Some men sef...smh
Just because of toto..
Love gbakwa oku..
Notin wey Nma Ngozi no go see for Market.

You don’t know that we men are the problem ourselves. You don’t know them till they get to your house thing is a lie to me cus 85% of those girls will sha show a sign of that character but we just ignore in the name of love and when it happens we will start complaining and lying as if we didn’t know

smsreseller:

Hmmn. Are you married?
...Living under the same roof with your spouse up to a decade?

Why do you ask...lol!

Richnerd69:



Thanks man. My decision to bring her over to PH was not with ulterior motives as people actually perceive it to be. Before I raised the suggestion to help her, I understood the risks involved and I still went ahead anyways. She's told me her story and her visions. Her aunt is making her settle for lesser than she bargained for, but where she's going to be positioned to serve, she would be properly paid like a normal entry staff aside her monthly allowance, and well catered for as she isn't the only one I've connected that way... My plan is to make her independent, so I won't be her cash clown. I have so many other responsibilities on my neck.

I've only been slightly sceptical of late, with the way people I closely confided in have been condemning my decision and tagging it as "stupid". I somewhat feel a bit stupid, but not driven or motivated by lust but out of human kindness and likeness, and I will try as much as possible to avoid body contact. I don't want to appear manipulative or possessive. I've called my mom and I told her everything, she trusts my decision but also hopes I'm not gonna regret my gesture.

Plus, we are both having this discussion tonight. I'm gonna give her a chance to reconsider her choice.. we probably might be heading way fast, or probably not. Thanks again.

You're welcome bro.

Don't let anyone confuse you. I believe you are a good guy and mean well. Forget people calling you stupid.

You must learn to be bold about your decisions especially if you gave it good thought. Some decisions you make in life may not be popular or good among your friends, but if it hurts no one, go for it.

Listen, even if you do good and get bad in return, don't regret it! The seed you sow is actually what matters. Life is always beyond today, also think future.
I don't know about her reconsidering her choice or decision since you have already worked her posting, I think all she needs now is a reassurance that you are who you say you are.

Blessings!

You just nailed it

fykes:
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
Ciao!!

You nailed it

Richnerd69:


LOL. If she allows herself to be convinced by someone else and she eventually leaves, I'll inform her sister that she isn't under my care anymore. It's not like I'm investing my all in her. I just feel like I'm too forward with all this, tho I really like the babe and I want to help her.

You want to help her or get her pregnant and be committing abortions?

luminouz:


Which kain unreadable English be this?

Prof , i was in hurry but edited now . Thank you .

JGirl20:
;Dlove gbakwa oku Did you grow up in Enugu?

lol, Grew up in lag but schools in Futo

Lol!!!!!

fykes:
Did u hear him say "we got down"?
Oga sex messes up things... If my assumptions are right BTW.
Op u can go ahead, it's that feeling u get when u feel u have arrived and have it all covered with a damn beautiful lady to warm ur bed and u tryna be the man for her and do the right thing after having sex just to prove that u are different from other guys, or to urself, that u are better.
Either way, it seems to me that u are sort of overcompensating for something somehow... Prolly things in ur past u ain't dealt with.
The good thing is, it's never easy having someone else in ur space and in a short while, d feeling and all d sex tips will be exhausted and u will realise that love is not a feeling...
Then u will create another thread and ask us how to get her to leave ur house "without " hurting her.
Ciao!!

SmartMen:
it's not about low thinking, it's about exposure and inexperience. He is not yet experienced in handling women.

He thinks spending money on women can buy love lol. He thinks being nice to them can win them. If that is the case, I would have been a Billionaire if times I was nice to these daughters of Eve was profitable.

But I later discovered that those I didn't spend much money on or extremely nice to stays while the opposite is for those I gave little to nothing.

You absolutely right.Same experience with me over the years