My friend needs help with this problem that has been bothering my friend for years now, she grew up with no direction or guardian and it made her to start having sex at the early age because she was doing it in order to put food on the table, her father died earlier and she as the first child had to sacrifice her self to make sure that her siblings didn't suffer much including her mother. The mum was not doing something tangible back then, before the age of 18 she have already done countless abortions... which makes her to be scared of getting married now because what if she can't bear a child now, right now she's in a serious relationship and the guy intends to Marry her, my questions are
1. Should she tell him about the abortions history before getting marriage? she doen't want to drag an innocent person into the Shit she got herself in, she don't want the man to be childless because of her or
2. Should she remain unmarried? So sorry for the long post. No insult please. Her way of life is transformed since she found Jesus and she has begged God for forgiveness and she has also forgiven myself.

Hmm

I think

She should tell him about the abortion,because anything hidden will soon be exposed in broad day light.

Nairalanders no de get problems. Na only their friends de get problems.



Kontinu

You have a problem that’s been bothering you... and not your friend... will keep kwayet??�

She had no direction or guardian but her mother was there?

This one hard ooo

Tell him and if he decide not to marry her again she should remain unmarried just like her initial plan


But if not let her try getting pregnant before the marriage if it clicks marry dey go. If not her conscience will eat her up if she gets married and after 5 to 10 years no child and she knows the fault is from her

nlPoster:
She had no direction or guardian but her mother was there?

Lol, a very weak excuse of becoming a wayward girl and that young age I guess.

Just say it's you,nobody go beat you. Don't tel d guy as long as your womb is intact.

SteveOfu:
1. Should she tell him about the abortions history before getting marriage? she doen't want to drag an innocent person into the Shit she got herself in, she don't want the man to be childless because of her or
2. Should she remain unmarried? So sorry for the long post. No insult please. Her way of life is transformed since she found Jesus and she has begged God for forgiveness and she has also forgiven myself.

Doubt if the person is not really you but BTW, she/you should tell him bout the abortion history (just tell him you/she had 1 or 2 abortions history, don't tell him all if more than 2)

Secondly, try/she should try to get pregnant for the guy first

And you had to give yourself away with that last word, lol.

You are the one

You're very good in script writing, why not channel this to amazon publishing

Aunty na you be the lady jor.... No come dey call colour white blue for me.

ambivert27:
And you had to give yourself away with that last word, lol.

Hehehehehehehe..... Just kill me already

After them finish living rubbish life,then go dey use Jesus do backup.. If you like tell him,if you like don't,he might be aware already. Just waiting for d right time to dump ur sorry ass.
"Countless abortions,and they will tell the "good guy, no sex before marriage"
Its Sunday morning,make i no too vex for this matter.
Op I know its you,so better leave that boy alone and marry Jesus as e dey hot ... No go use your past spoil person pikin present ...

No need.... Ones u have repented to God, cover ur secrets and hope God will cover it for u in the eyes of the whole world.

But if by chance she was told that getting pregnant again will be difficult, she needs to tell him now.

ambivert27:
And you had to give yourself away with that last word, lol.

hahahhahahahahaha I like you already

You've known jesus now? Interesting.

Personally, I can't stand any abortion confession, just keep it away from me.

If she truly loves the guy, she should go for a thorough examination, then try to take in before going to the Altar.

Once she's pregnant, she should just let the past be. Don't bring it up, unless the guy insist and she knows and accepts that it might be the end of the relationship

Even you SteveOfu, I didn't know you are among the hoes. It seems most females that sign up here are promiscuous. They seem to hide themselves and pretend otherwise until something or someone give them away.
That's how I meet one of them and behold she was wearing a ring across her nostrils.
I begin to imagine what kind of descent lady does that. Meanwhile, she told me that she was working but lost her job, and she wasn't doing anything currently at that time. Lots of things were going on in mind right there.

My advice to you. If she can persuade the man to impregnate her first before their traditional wedding, that'll be fine. By then, she would know if she's still fertile or not.. But she must let the man know the reason why should wants to be impregnated first.

NO! Dont tell.

SteveOfu:
My friend needs help with this problem that has been bothering my friend for years now, she grew up with no direction or guardian and it made her to start having sex at the early age because she was doing it in order to put food on the table, her father died earlier and she as the first child had to sacrifice her self to make sure that her siblings didn't suffer much including her mother. The mum was not doing something tangible back then, before the age of 18 she have already done countless abortions... which makes her to be scared of getting married now because what if she can't bear a child now, right now she's in a serious relationship and the guy intends to Marry her, my questions are
1. Should she tell him about the abortions history before getting marriage? she doen't want to drag an innocent person into the Shit she got herself in, she don't want the man to be childless because of her or
2. Should she remain unmarried? So sorry for the long post. No insult please. Her way of life is transformed since she found Jesus and she has begged God for forgiveness and she has also forgiven myself.

For those of you saying she is the one, wetin you go if she is or not the lady?

@steveofu,I don't care if you are the lady in question, my advice is that the lady should remain silent about her past. Some matters are better left alone unsaid. Abortion story is one of the greatest turn offs for guys who want to settle down with you for marriage. However if the guy asks her about it, she should tell him and let him realize it's her past and if he is not okay by it, he should park and go.

SteveOfu:
My friend needs help with this problem that has been bothering my friend for years now, she grew up with no direction or guardian and it made her to start having sex at the early age because she was doing it in order to put food on the table, her father died earlier and she as the first child had to sacrifice her self to make sure that her siblings didn't suffer much including her mother. The mum was not doing something tangible back then, before the age of 18 she have already done countless abortions... which makes her to be scared of getting married now because what if she can't bear a child now, right now she's in a serious relationship and the guy intends to Marry her, my questions are
1. Should she tell him about the abortions history before getting marriage? she doen't want to drag an innocent person into the Shit she got herself in, she don't want the man to be childless because of her or
2. Should she remain unmarried? So sorry for the long post. No insult please. Her way of life is transformed since she found Jesus and she has begged God for forgiveness and she has also forgiven myself.

First,why is it that is when women start groing old,shapeless,ugly or searching for husband badly is when they repent and start to find jesus.why?
Anyway no need of telling the man because a real man in naija knows that any bueatiful woman above 25 have done nothing less than 5 aborions expecially those from poor homes.
And finlly drop these your friend shitt,its stale.
You abi yourt audio frnd can still give me my own share though before finally deceivin the man or is it after marriage you will give to nairalanders.

after reading all the funny comments, all i can say is pray and follow the leading of the spirit

ok

sorepco:
NO! Dont tell.

SteveOfu:
My friend needs help with this problem that has been bothering my friend for years now, she grew up with no direction or guardian and it made her to start having sex at the early age because she was doing it in order to put food on the table, her father died earlier and she as the first child had to sacrifice her self to make sure that her siblings didn't suffer much including her mother. The mum was not doing something tangible back then, before the age of 18 she have already done countless abortions... which makes her to be scared of getting married now because what if she can't bear a child now, right now she's in a serious relationship and the guy intends to Marry her, my questions are
1. Should she tell him about the abortions history before getting marriage? she doen't want to drag an innocent person into the Shit she got herself in, she don't want the man to be childless because of her or
2. Should she remain unmarried? So sorry for the long post. No insult please. Her way of life is transformed since she found Jesus and she has begged God for forgiveness and she has also forgiven myself.

There is a saying in the Christians scriptures that works 100% is " the truth sets free"
What if the man finds out from an external enquiry. If he goes let him go, true love is unconditional.
But she should use her pastor's voice to speak with him.

I know say na you get am op. So here's my advice; if their is a way you can keep it from him till eternity and he'll never find out, please don't tell him. But if you feel there's even a small chance he will find out, just open it all for him now. Some secrets are better left buried.

I don't know whether she should tell him but ashawo na ashawo.

Carry her go heaven come back she still be ashawo

No be only meet Jesus

SteveOfu:
My friend needs help with this problem that has been bothering my friend for years now, she grew up with no direction or guardian and it made her to start having sex at the early age because she was doing it in order to put food on the table, her father died earlier and she as the first child had to sacrifice her self to make sure that her siblings didn't suffer much including her mother. The mum was not doing something tangible back then, before the age of 18 she have already done countless abortions... which makes her to be scared of getting married now because what if she can't bear a child now, right now she's in a serious relationship and the guy intends to Marry her, my questions are
1. Should she tell him about the abortions history before getting marriage? she doen't want to drag an innocent person into the Shit she got herself in, she don't want the man to be childless because of her or
2. Should she remain unmarried? So sorry for the long post. No insult please. Her way of life is transformed since she found Jesus and she has begged God for forgiveness and she has also forgiven myself.

Why should she tell her guy her escapades

The good thing is that she has repented and forgiven herself

God will complete the rest for her