Good day ma,

Yesterday,my Fiance and I went to his family house for Christmas. We have been together for a little over a year now. He is a good guy and we are working towards our marriage next year.

My fiance was married to someone before me. They are divorced but they have a son of about 6 years old. The boy stays with his mother. I did not know that the boy and his mother would also be at the family house yesterday.

To my surprise,not only were they there…the ex wife was the one busy in the kitchen cooking for the entire family. I was surprised but my fiance explained that she came cos of their son. That the son spends Christmas with their family every year so she comes around too.

I felt awkward seeing her there. Especially because she speaks their dialect (yoruba) and I am from south south. The family seemed to like her alot and having her around made me feel more like the intruder.

I mean,she was going around in her bump shorts,shaking her ass and all. I think she tried to flirt with.......


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Muy interesante..

I don't think she's trying to flirt somehow, I believe she's trying to get to yhu, and it's working

You need to bugle your shoes act as the new driver when next there is festival, when you take the driver sit she will stops attending.she always arrived 24th get there 23th vice visa

hakeemhakeem:
You need to bugle your shoes act as the new driver when next there is festival, when you take the driver sit she will stops attending.she always arrived 24th get there 23th vice visa

and u killed pls dear I will love if u take to dis advice u are in charge act like one,she will always cross ur part in life cos of the son

SmithRussell:
Muy interesante..

I don't think she's trying to flirt somehow, I believe she's trying to get to yhu, and it's working

You're smart

you aren't safe. with that one son being the first child, and the fact that they're from same tribe she's more recognised than you in the family and you might not enjoy full recognition if this continue

My dear, you really have a long battle to face.
To compete is foolishness. No matter how and what you do, she already has a strong leg in that house.
My cent, mind your business and visit when it's not festivities.
Solo runs the show

You shouldn't marry someone that's a divorcee, it's against the Bible, you just have to look for someone else o, even his ex wife won't give you peace of mind, she will surely disturb you.

Have you cared to find out why they're divorced? Did they go it by the law or just word of mouth? It's always an issue when either of the partners is not fresh. Believe me, you can't run away from it, once she has a baby and a son for that matter, she's always welcome in that family. Your fiance didn't mince words with you, thanks to him, she will always hang around, might be reduced if she remarries otherwise , brace up! You're as good as wife 2.

Secondly, men who are rigid about family traditions are a trouble to court. They are not completely weaned, somehow still tied to mum's apron strings. Why? Must he spend Christmas with them?

I won't say outrightly that you are being paranoid, "Once de be, Always de be!" That son is a binding tie between them. While your fiance may not have harboured such thoughts, the way these things happen, you never can tell. One thing will just lead to another thing and Phew! They're romping between the sheets.

Ask yourself, in case of any eventuality, can you cope? What if she gets pregnant again, by hook or crook? What if their dispute is settled? You said that the family likes her. What if you give birth to only girls? Even if you have boys, hers is the first. If you can't cope with all these, why don't you just look for somebody as fresh as you. I've been there, I had to run away from the drama. If I can't be the number one in a man's mind, let me not be anything biko!

Hmm

Some women sha! You can never be fully accepted in that family, stop reasoning with your womanliness, it’s fooolish. You’re the one planning for marriage, not him. You’re the sidekick. Get that in your little brain

Dating or marryinh a divorced man is hard work... Unnecessary headache.... The fact that they even had a kid or kids together is a problem for me, cause I don't think I have much patience in me... I'd change it for her ni....

Beke2020:
Good day ma,

Yesterday,my Fiance and I went to his family house for Christmas. We have been together for a little over a year now. He is a good guy and we are working towards our marriage next year.

My fiance was married to someone before me. They are divorced but they have a son of about 6 years old. The boy stays with his mother. I did not know that the boy and his mother would also be at the family house yesterday.

To my surprise,not only were they there…the ex wife was the one busy in the kitchen cooking for the entire family. I was surprised but my fiance explained that she came cos of their son. That the son spends Christmas with their family every year so she comes around too.

I felt awkward seeing her there. Especially because she speaks their dialect (yoruba) and I am from south south. The family seemed to like her alot and having her around made me feel more like the intruder.

I mean,she was going around in her bump shorts,shaking her ass and all. I think she tried to flirt with.......


https://livelystones.com.ng/my-fiance-his-ex-spent-christmas-night-in-the-same-house/

A hole that has been dug before can always be dug again

Why not leave him alone and find yourself another man. The union already produced an offspring, a son as a matter of fact. You want to cut your life short with all that drama. Pls move on it's not worth it at all.

MedicH:
Why not leave him alone and find yourself another man. The union already produced an offspring, a son as a matter of fact. You want to cut your life short with all that drama. Pls move on it's not worth it at all.

Hmnnnn

Don't go and marry your man and be there giving free toto.

You shd know that Yoruba no dey separate like that. Especially with a son already, hmmm