I've been seeing different threads about women looking for husbands and I created a new account to share this

when my mum was alive she told me she wishes for me to be married latest by 25 but she died when I was 16 and rounding off with secondary school.
Now the issue is I'm 36 and single. Not the I intended for this to happen but I find out that all my exes leave me for the most mundane of all reasons, some never even bothered to give reasons
examples include:
1. I prefer a little more flesh after dating for over 3 months (I'm not skinny lo I'm size
2. 'My mum adds more palm oil to the soup than you' and I replied 'you have a heart condition it's best to cut down on oil' than he said I disrespected his mum
3. There's this student that asked me out and when I got to know he was a student, I told him to focus on his education and graduate first but if he needs assistance he should come to me. Guess what he laughed in my face saying ill die lonely that he wants to manage me I'm making Shakira
4. One's mother just took a long look at me and said I look pretentious.
5. One said I don't socialise well with his friends, etc
It got to a point I was afraid of going into relationships customer I know it will end in tears
One day I went to Bodija market to get a few things and I gave a better some change and she told me I'm married to spirits and that's why my relationships don't last.
Long and short of the matter is for 4 years I've been enriching people who promise to separate us. I've made peace with it and living my life plus I have 7 children from my 4 brothers.
Now there's this guy that has been calling my phone but I'm afraid to meet him customer without solutions I know it will still end in tears

Guys let's be a little nice to the female folk and stop calling them hoes, evening newspapers, etc without knowing their stories. You never know your trolling could be the reason someone commits suicide or is killed in a road accident while being absent minded. the funny thing is you will not know that you have blood on your hands and won't ask your maker for forgiveness

I prophecy to you this New Year, you’ll meet a man soon

Don't be bothered sister,You would get one soon.
I want to know something

What have u been doing while you were in your youthful Age ?

Were you declining everybody that came to u in your twenties?

shawnfamous:
Don't be bothered sister,You would get one soon.
I want to know something

What have u been doing while you were in your youthful Age ?

Were you declining everybody that came to u in your twenties?

How was I to know there was something like spirit husband. Trust me you don't dare tell people your boyfriend left you at that period and you won't be scolded for having a boyfriend
if my mum was alive she would have asked since we had a proposed age
I've been having these unnecessary break ups since I started dating 21 precisely

C'mon girl, marriage is not achievement and will never be so don't be depressed about it. I understand you may need a man to make you feel accepted once in a while but c'mon, if nobody wanna love you, love yourself girl. Treat yourself to vacations and use your money to buy the same man's sperms and have kids if you want biko. Nobody will make you happy more than yourself.

For the records, evening newspaper oftentimes have more value than current newspaper. If you doubt me, wait until the embassy asks you to bring a proof of change of name you had in 2010.

Spirit husband my black ass. I guess Oprah Winfrey has spirit husband too.

username1111:


How was I to know there was something like spirit husband. Trust me you don't dare tell people your boyfriend left you at that period and you won't be scolded for having a boyfriend
if my mum was alive she would have asked since we had a proposed age
I've been having these unnecessary break ups since I started dating 21 precisely

Dear..There is nothing like spirit husband...Your time has not come yet, or is around the corner...
Let me ask...Is the spirit husband racist? Why is it that it is only African Ladies that the spirit husband "marries"
Him no like white American, European or Asian ladies? even black American girls have no spirit husband... Dear .. Attitude is everything...if have a bad one..change it...and see how far you will go...I promise.. before this year runs out.. everything will be in their rightful place

username1111:


How was I to know there was something like spirit husband. Trust me you don't dare tell people your boyfriend left you at that period and you won't be scolded for having a boyfriend
if my mum was alive she would have asked since we had a proposed age
I've been having these unnecessary break ups since I started dating 21 precisely

There is spirit husband and wife but the thing is it does not cost money to end such relationship. There is a stunningly beautiful woman here on nairaland like you. She is 42.

Keep your money away, but keep the hope in your heart. Go to my profile and use my whatsapps number.

username1111:


How was I to know there was something like spirit husband. Trust me you don't dare tell people your boyfriend left you at that period and you won't be scolded for having a boyfriend
if my mum was alive she would have asked since we had a proposed age
I've been having these unnecessary break ups since I started dating 21 precisely

U don't have any spiritual Husband.. U must have Dated for the wrong reasons, and maybe u should check your character.. Not everyone are tolerateble

J111333:
C'mon girl, marriage is not achievement and will never be so don't be depressed about it. I understand you may need a man to make you feel accepted once in a while but c'mon, if nobody wanna love you, love yourself girl. Treat yourself to vacations and use your money to buy the same man's sperms and have kids if you want biko. Nobody will make you happy more than yourself.

For the records, evening newspaper oftentimes have more value than current newspaper. If you doubt me, wait until the embassy asks you to bring a proof of change of name you had in 2010.

Spirit husband my black ass. I guess Oprah Winfrey has spirit husband too.

But bro, Sincerely
Is this the Advice u would give to your sister or your child??

U don't have any spiritual husband. First have a new mind set and get ready to meet that some very special. Don't mind Being your chat friend to hear how the 2020 story is going

Some of the ladies in search of husbands now are the ones that play hard to get without considering the future detriment.
And when they finally realize they are toeing in the wrong path, it would be too late already.

username1111, I pray you find your man this year. Hope to see your testimony before 2020 runs out

yea I quite agree with u, not all ladies wasted their very youthful ages dating d wrong ppl. There are many ladies who are even virgins in their 40s n above. Let's just pray for them, we guys really can't feel what some of these angels feel or go through. plz enjoy urself lovely sister, everything will eventually fall into place

Have faith

Ladies actually meet a genuine guy at least once in their lives but they usually reject such guys. Sometimes they won't even know they lost a wonderful somebody. I hope you are not part of them.
As for the spirit husband stuff, I don't believe that.
I wish you all the best.

J111333:
C'mon girl, marriage is not achievement and will never be so don't be depressed about it. I understand you may need a man to make you feel accepted once in a while but c'mon, if nobody wanna love you, love yourself girl. Treat yourself to vacations and use your money to buy the same man's sperms and have kids if you want biko. Nobody will make you happy more than yourself.

For the records, evening newspaper oftentimes have more value than current newspaper. If you doubt me, wait until the embassy asks you to bring a proof of change of name you had in 2010.

Spirit husband my black ass. I guess Oprah Winfrey has spirit husband too.

Yen yen yen
Easier for you to say

username1111:
I've been seeing different threads about women looking for husbands and I created a new account to share this

when my mum was alive she told me she wishes for me to be married latest by 25 but she died when I was 16 and rounding off with secondary school.
Now the issue is I'm 36 and single. Not the I intended for this to happen but I find out that all my exes leave me for the most mundane of all reasons, some never even bothered to give reasons
examples include:
1. I prefer a little more flesh after dating for over 3 months (I'm not skinny lo I'm size
2. 'My mum adds more palm oil to the soup than you' and I replied 'you have a heart condition it's best to cut down on oil' than he said I disrespected his mum
3. There's this student that asked me out and when I got to know he was a student, I told him to focus on his education and graduate first but if he needs assistance he should come to me. Guess what he laughed in my face saying ill die lonely that he wants to manage me I'm making Shakira
4. One's mother just took a long look at me and said I look pretentious.
5. One said I don't socialise well with his friends, etc
It got to a point I was afraid of going into relationships customer I know it will end in tears
One day I went to Bodija market to get a few things and I gave a better some change and she told me I'm married to spirits and that's why my relationships don't last.
Long and short of the matter is for 4 years I've been enriching people who promise to separate us. I've made peace with it and living my life plus I have 7 children from my 4 brothers.
Now there's this guy that has been calling my phone but I'm afraid to meet him customer without solutions I know it will still end in tears

Guys let's be a little nice to the female folk and stop calling them hoes, evening newspapers, etc without knowing their stories. You never know your trolling could be the reason someone commits suicide or is killed in a road accident while being absent minded. the funny thing is you will not know that you have blood on your hands and won't ask your maker for forgiveness

You are 36 and you are WEEPING..
Please WIPE your TEARS...
Have U Reexamined yourself..?
Do You Think U Really Need a MAN..?
I ask because these days most LADIES see themselves as FEMINISTS and they work towards that without knowing..
Are You Ready to Listen to a MAN..?
Are You Ready to Take the SHITTS MEN also Carry with them..?

I have Always Told LADIES that, if you are not READY to take SHITT from a MAN then don't ever Contemplate getting Married to a Man.
Because Men Can also be stupid sometimes, not only LADIES.

IF you respond YES to those QUESTIONS above, then you are RIPE and READY.
Don't GIVE UP.
My ELDER sister who has never had any man to herself just wedded at 42.
As a married Younger Brother, I told her to Promise me she would just RESPECT and WORSHIP her hubby...
The Only Thing a MAN desires from this WIFE is not only SEXX but PEACE OF MIND and RESPECT, irrespective of the Ladies wealth and University Degrees.
Every MARITAL ISSUE on NAIRALAND is centered around these keywords.

Check in 4 ur wholesale plain and pattern materials

One thing I learnt in 2019 is not everyone is going to be loved, you might give love and express love but won't get it, At this point I've given up on anything love It's my burden and I've come to terms with it.

gbami:
Dear..There is nothing like spirit husband...Your time has not come yet, or is around the corner...
Let me ask...Is the spirit husband racist? Why is it that it is only African Ladies that the spirit husband "marries"
Him no like white American, European or Asian ladies? even black American girls has no spirit husband... Dear .. Attitude is everything...if have a bad one..change it...and see how far you will go...I promise.. before this year runs out.. everything will be in their rightful place

you re part of people who think juju no dey,spirit husband is real but hope has probably turn her husband to be down at her 20s,na karma

marriage is not for everybody

I'm sorry, but I don't believe your tales by moonlight stories. When a woman like you is in her prime, she rejects every man that comes her way. Even the ones with good intentions. Not knowing you have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince.
The only thing that humbles you women is time. Once the biological clock starts ticking, you start telling sympathetic stories and looking for any Tom, Dìck or Harry to marry.

I sympathize with you my dear.

I always tell young girls that men are the prize but they get offended.

In the youth of a girl, she thinks the world is at her feet. Genuine guys come and they are rejected. Unfortunately for her, the genuine guys do not woo them for long (after say a month, they give up). The players however can spend a year trying to win them over.

2 years ago, I tried connecting with a young girl. She didn't even give me a chance. The guy she chose has since left her. And boy.. she has grown fat.

Every womans beauty will fade. It is at this stage they become humble.

Time is a woman's enemy

Life's easier as a man.

ValCon888:
I'm sorry, but I don't believe your tales by moonlight stories. When a woman like you is in her prime, she rejects every man that comes her way. Even the ones with good intentions. Not knowing you have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince.
The only thing that humbles you women is time. Once the biological clock starts ticking, you start telling sympathetic stories and looking for any Tom, Dìck or Harry to marry.

congratulations brother
You just made sense

boiz2men:
I sympathize with you my dear.

I always tell young girls that men are the prize but they get offended.

In the youth of a girl, she thinks the world is at her feet. Genuine guys come and they are rejected. Unfortunately for her, the genuine guys do not woo them for long (after say a month, they give up). The players however can spend a year trying to win them over.

2 years ago, I tried connecting with a young girl. She didn't even give me a chance. The guy she chose has since left her. And boy.. she has grown fat.

Every womans beauty will fade. It is at this stage they become humble.

Time is a woman's enemy

Life's easier as a man.

what happened to not entering into a relationship when you are not ready. For those saying I rejected men i'ld say yes I rejected BOYS in my teens cuz I wasn't ready and I started dating at 21 cuz that was when I was ready and about rounding off with University education

When you were young how was your character like?? I bet it was toxic. You girls never learn; you gamble with your youthful age and started playing the victim card. All the men that crossed your path were the one at fault, abi Yen yen yen!!!
The character that made you reach this stage without a husband is still very much in you and that's pride. You don't accept fault. Once you're in a relationship you expect the man to be the doing it all; if he offend you he will apologize and when you offend him you also expect him to apologize.
The fact that you have become an evening newspaper is the reason why you're showcasing your fake humbleness.
When them dey advice una, una no go hear. Na to d jump from d*ck to d*ck and you now expect an innocent man to come and marry you so that when ever he goes out with you different guys will be discussing behind his back of their sexcapades with you.

Exactly

Brownhypo:
Some of the ladies in search of husbands now are the ones that play hard to get without considering the future detriment.
And when they finally realize they are toeing in the wrong path, it would late already.

username1111, I pray you find your man this year. Hope to see your testimony before 2020 runs out

Well, I don't know you personally, so I honestly cannot sympathize with you.

I know many so called "evening newspaper that are terrible. By terrible, I mean very terrible.. Their character is nothing to write home about. They are so bitter and frustrated towards men and every one around them as if we caused her singleness. They are all over nairaland.

Having said that..... Let me just say this.

Most Nigerian girls don't know what they want in a relationship. You started dating @ 21, what category of guys did you date? Reasonable guys or guys in your age bracket? I don't know so much about the spiritual husband thing so I can't relate.

An 18 years old girl should not be in a relationship with an 18 years old boy. I mean, what will they be doing if not fvck, fvck, drink, smoke and fvck? 8/10 of such relationships doesn't lead anywhere.

Date guys at least five years older than you and give him your terms and conditions. Tell him youre not in for games. Tell him you want a real relationship. Of course you could have sex cos
it's your body, but be sure that you are building something. It doesn't necessarily mean it must lead to marriage, but tell him "let's just get serious with each other and see where that leads us. In the event that it doest lead anywhere, there should be no hard feelings. He could be broke, but he must be focused.

Most girls date little boys that are yet to even know their right from their left. After spending the best years spoiling around, they now want to settle down with reasonable guys and when such reasonable guys are not forthcoming,, they start to get bitter towards men. What a waste of time!

What annoys me the most is that such boys they had fun with will not even like to marry her.

I always say that as a girl, with your character and what you have in-between your thighs, you can make even the toughest and strongest man kneel down to beg you to be in his life.
And again, as a lady in your thirties who have had at least five relationships that didn't lead to the altar, then 9/10 times it's your fault and it takes something extraordinary for her to finally settle down and even if she does, it will be with one widower who just needs someone to cool of with.

Me I don talk my own.

No offense.

biddostandard:
you re part of people who think juju no dey,spirit husband is real but hope has probably turn her husband to be down at her 20s,na karma

That's why you will remain stagnant or go backward in life...
Keep blaming Juju or people for your failures in life....
Don't take responsibility for your actions this year...next year you will be screaming ..." This is my year of break throughs..

username1111:


what happened to not entering into a relationship when you are not ready. For those saying I rejected men i'ld say yes I rejected BOYS in my teens cuz I wasn't ready and I started dating at 21 cuz that was when I was ready and about rounding off with University education

Its good you decided to focus on something. But when you started dating, I am certain genuine guys came around but they didn't meet your requirements or were broke. You friendzoned them. The players were given attention because a bad boy is attractive to most ladies.

I sincerely wish this isn't your case.

My advice is keep an open mind. If a guy comes, fine. If he doesn't, live the best of your life.

If Hot, find someone. Guys hardly say to sex

shawnfamous:
But bro, Sincerely
Is this the Advice u would give to your sister or your child??

You de mind am?

He's even calling a 36 years old lady "girl".

Sense too much for you jor

ValCon888:
I'm sorry, but I don't believe your tales by moonlight stories. When a woman like you is in her prime, she rejects every man that comes her way. Even the ones with good intentions. Not knowing you have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince.
The only thing that humbles you women is time. Once the biological clock starts ticking, you start telling sympathetic stories and looking for any Tom, Dìck or Harry to marry.

This year is yours okay... BTW, marriage is never an achievement sis, do whatever makes you happy and leave the rest for your Maker.
Have a friend who's 34+ she's not married, yet she's happy and living her best life.
Don't let societal pressure drive you into depression(at the end of the day, you are only answerable to yourself and Maker)
Note: dem no dey catch latecomer for husband's house
When it's your time to get settled, you will definitely be.. Delay is not denial!!