Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by MJBOLT: 10:01am On Jan 01, 2020 |
username1111: I've been seeing different threads about women looking for husbands and I created a new account to share this
when my mum was alive she told me she wishes for me to be married latest by 25 but she died when I was 16 and rounding off with secondary school. Now the issue is I'm 36 and single. Not the I intended for this to happen but I find out that all my exes leave me for the most mundane of all reasons, some never even bothered to give reasons examples include: 1. I prefer a little more flesh after dating for over 3 months (I'm not skinny lo I'm size 2. 'My mum adds more palm oil to the soup than you' and I replied 'you have a heart condition it's best to cut down on oil' than he said I disrespected his mum 3. There's this student that asked me out and when I got to know he was a student, I told him to focus on his education and graduate first but if he needs assistance he should come to me. Guess what he laughed in my face saying ill die lonely that he wants to manage me I'm making Shakira 4. One's mother just took a long look at me and said I look pretentious. 5. One said I don't socialise well with his friends, etc It got to a point I was afraid of going into relationships customer I know it will end in tears One day I went to Bodija market to get a few things and I gave a better some change and she told me I'm married to spirits and that's why my relationships don't last. Long and short of the matter is for 4 years I've been enriching people who promise to separate us. I've made peace with it and living my life plus I have 7 children from my 4 brothers. Now there's this guy that has been calling my phone but I'm afraid to meet him customer without solutions I know it will still end in tears
Guys let's be a little nice to the female folk and stop calling them hoes, evening newspapers, etc without knowing their stories. You never know your trolling could be the reason someone commits suicide or is killed in a road accident while being absent minded. the funny thing is you will not know that you have blood on your hands and won't ask your maker for forgiveness 1 Like |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by shawnfamous(m): 10:03am On Jan 01, 2020 |
24kmagic:
You de mind am?
He's even calling a 36 years old lady "girl".
Lol.. I just tire.. People get as dem take dey sha |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Alfather: 10:03am On Jan 01, 2020 |
Not all of them who is not marraid in their tirthies have pride or bad charracter. At times it can be as a result of men scarcity (fewer men). Compare to thos day where men could marry two to three wives. Most of this women are victim of circumstance, that is they hard bad relationship in their twenthies. 4 Likes |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by indoorlove(m): 10:17am On Jan 01, 2020 |
Have you ever consider spiritual angle to your issue. Maybe you need to work on that, by trying to seek help |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by biddostandard: 10:28am On Jan 01, 2020 |
gbami: That's why you will remain stagnant or go backward in life... Keep blaming Juju or people for your failures in life.... Don't take responsibility for your actions this year...next year you will be screaming ..." This is my year of break throughs.. what is this one saying are you mentally sick? |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Nobody: 10:32am On Jan 01, 2020 |
shawnfamous: But bro, Sincerely Is this the Advice u would give to your sister or your child?? Instead of my sister or child to be depressed over marriage or date, yes and I'll even advise more of that. Here is a successful lady who several men have taken advantage of simply because she had been looking for a date and I can guess she gave her all in all these years. She deserves to be happy with herself and needs a break from nonsense. I'm a man but the key to happiness in the world doesn't rest on our laps so sister, love and enjoy your single life in peace jare. Happiness comes before everything in this world including marriage and date. |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by gbami(m): 10:35am On Jan 01, 2020 |
biddostandard: what is this one saying are you mentally sick? ...Not at all... But point made...Keep blaming Juju and others for being a loser... 1 Like |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by biddostandard: 10:39am On Jan 01, 2020 |
gbami: ...Not at all... But point made...Keep blaming Juju and others for being a loser... who told you im a loser?where did i blame juju on anything?try and read and understand before acting like a m.oron |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Goodgod213: 12:22pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
After you have slept with several guys and your body count is more than a million you are looking for someone to dump your problems on.
Serves you right. Best option is for you to be a lesbian. In this life no husband for you probably when you be of good character next life 1 Like |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by bulbutcher(m): 12:58pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
women think differently than men read a write up on this forum called congruency testing or rationalmale.com what they value and what they find atractive. its nt what you think a stimulating read. |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Lamanii22(f): 1:43pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
stupidity: I prophecy to you this New Year, you’ll meet a man soon
Amen.... It is sealed in Jesus' name.. |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by aremso(m): 1:58pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Quality20: yea I quite agree with u, not all ladies wasted their very youthful ages dating d wrong ppl. There are many ladies who are even virgins in their 40s n above. Let's just pray for them, we guys really can't feel what some of these angels feel or go through. plz enjoy urself lovely sister, everything will eventually fall into place best comment so far, loneliness and boredom alone can kill |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by THUNDER4real(m): 2:04pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
boiz2men:
Its good you decided to focus on something. But when you started dating, I am certain genuine guys came around but they didn't meet your requirements or were broke. You friendzoned them. The players were given attention because a bad boy is attractive to most ladies.
I sincerely wish this isn't your case.
My advice is keep an open mind. If a guy comes, fine. If he doesn't, live the best of your life.
If Hot, find someone. Guys hardly say to sex
Thumbs up...your describing reality and I am pleased. Most of the comments are not describing reality, they are describing fantasy. Do you know the funny thing, she might be discussing family, relationship issues, personal issues with the genuine guy she friendzoned expecting advice. This Obodo oyibo guys coming around, playing and deceiving some of them without commitments is sometimes a factor. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Yxxx: 2:08pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
shawnfamous: Don't be bothered sister,You would get one soon. I want to know something
What have u been doing while you were in your youthful Age ?
Were you declining everybody that came to u in your twenties? Read with understanding. |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by kushercain: 2:11pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
username1111: I've been seeing different threads about women looking for husbands and I created a new account to share this
when my mum was alive she told me she wishes for me to be married latest by 25 but she died when I was 16 and rounding off with secondary school. Now the issue is I'm 36 and single. Not the I intended for this to happen but I find out that all my exes leave me for the most mundane of all reasons, some never even bothered to give reasons examples include: 1. I prefer a little more flesh after dating for over 3 months (I'm not skinny lo I'm size 2. 'My mum adds more palm oil to the soup than you' and I replied 'you have a heart condition it's best to cut down on oil' than he said I disrespected his mum 3. There's this student that asked me out and when I got to know he was a student, I told him to focus on his education and graduate first but if he needs assistance he should come to me. Guess what he laughed in my face saying ill die lonely that he wants to manage me I'm making Shakira 4. One's mother just took a long look at me and said I look pretentious. 5. One said I don't socialise well with his friends, etc It got to a point I was afraid of going into relationships customer I know it will end in tears One day I went to Bodija market to get a few things and I gave a better some change and she told me I'm married to spirits and that's why my relationships don't last. Long and short of the matter is for 4 years I've been enriching people who promise to separate us. I've made peace with it and living my life plus I have 7 children from my 4 brothers. Now there's this guy that has been calling my phone but I'm afraid to meet him customer without solutions I know it will still end in tears
Guys let's be a little nice to the female folk and stop calling them hoes, evening newspapers, etc without knowing their stories. You never know your trolling could be the reason someone commits suicide or is killed in a road accident while being absent minded. the funny thing is you will not know that you have blood on your hands and won't ask your maker for forgiveness The spirit angle.... do you have sex in your dreams? |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by LINTUNE(m): 2:22pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
24kmagic: Well, I don't know you personally, so I honestly cannot sympathize with you.
I know many so called "evening newspaper that are terrible. By terrible, I mean very terrible.. Their character is nothing to write home about. They are so bitter and frustrated towards men and every one around them as if we caused her singleness. They are all over nairaland.
Having said that..... Let me just say this.
Most Nigerian girls don't know what they want in a relationship. You started dating @ 21, what category of guys did you date? Reasonable guys or guys in your age bracket? I don't know so much about the spiritual husband thing so I can't relate.
An 18 years old girl should not be in a relationship with an 18 years old boy. I mean, what will they be doing if not fvck, fvck, drink, smoke and fvck? 8/10 of such relationships doesn't lead anywhere.
Date guys at least five years older than you and give him your terms and conditions. Tell him youre not in for games. Tell him you want a real relationship. Of course you could have sex cos it's your body, but be sure that you are building something. It doesn't necessarily mean it must lead to marriage, but tell him "let's just get serious with each other and see where that leads us. In the event that it doest lead anywhere, there should be no hard feelings. He could be broke, but he must be focused.
Most girls date little boys that are yet to even know their right from their left. After spending the best years spoiling around, they now want to settle down with reasonable guys and when such reasonable guys are not forthcoming,, they start to get bitter towards men. What a waste of time!
What annoys me the most is that such boys they had fun with will not even like to marry her.
I always say that as a girl, with your character and what you have in-between your thighs, you can make even the toughest and strongest man kneel down to beg you to be in his life. And again, as a lady in your thirties who have had at least five relationships that didn't lead to the altar, then 9/10 times it's your fault and it takes something extraordinary for her to finally settle down and even if she does, it will be with one widower who just needs someone to cool of with.
Me I don talk my own.
No offense. guy,I swear u said the bitter truth, as mean as it may sound,this ur comment is really apt 1 Like |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by shawnfamous(m): 2:25pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Yxxx:
Read with understanding.dammit I'm not sure u understood my post either |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Coded2(m): 2:30pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
username1111: I've been seeing different threads about women looking for husbands and I created a new account to share this
when my mum was alive she told me she wishes for me to be married latest by 25 but she died when I was 16 and rounding off with secondary school. Now the issue is I'm 36 and single. Not the I intended for this to happen but I find out that all my exes leave me for the most mundane of all reasons, some never even bothered to give reasons examples include: 1. I prefer a little more flesh after dating for over 3 months (I'm not skinny lo I'm size 2. 'My mum adds more palm oil to the soup than you' and I replied 'you have a heart condition it's best to cut down on oil' than he said I disrespected his mum 3. There's this student that asked me out and when I got to know he was a student, I told him to focus on his education and graduate first but if he needs assistance he should come to me. Guess what he laughed in my face saying ill die lonely that he wants to manage me I'm making Shakira 4. One's mother just took a long look at me and said I look pretentious. 5. One said I don't socialise well with his friends, etc It got to a point I was afraid of going into relationships customer I know it will end in tears One day I went to Bodija market to get a few things and I gave a better some change and she told me I'm married to spirits and that's why my relationships don't last. Long and short of the matter is for 4 years I've been enriching people who promise to separate us. I've made peace with it and living my life plus I have 7 children from my 4 brothers. Now there's this guy that has been calling my phone but I'm afraid to meet him customer without solutions I know it will still end in tears
Guys let's be a little nice to the female folk and stop calling them hoes, evening newspapers, etc without knowing their stories. You never know your trolling could be the reason someone commits suicide or is killed in a road accident while being absent minded. the funny thing is you will not know that you have blood on your hands and won't ask your maker for forgiveness are u in Ibadan let chatbon on Whatssap call the number on my time line |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Nobody: 2:41pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Michelle55:
Have a friend who's 34+ she's not married, yet she's happy and living her best life.
Is she? That's what they always say. She's likely miserable and badly in need of company. Even those oyinbo that live solitary lives usually have the company of a cat or a dog. It's human nature to need company, especially human company. I know a neighbour who is a 'big girl' in her mid 40's, financially ok and accomplished. She always said she was fine without a man. Somehow she got engaged and we were shocked. On her wedding day, she danced her life away. That's when I learnt that when a woman says she's doing well without a man, it's a big fat lie. The husband fell below our expectations, considering she was this flashy, high class chic. A timid looking unassuming man. She has a kid now and she's really glowing. That's what marriage does to women. As for the OP, forget sprit husband. Life happens to everyone differently. Unfortunately, some will never get married, no matter how good they are. Some will marry early and some will marry late. Be hopeful. 9 Likes |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by zexy2030(m): 2:43pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
username1111: I've been seeing different threads about women looking for husbands and I created a new account to share this
when my mum was alive she told me she wishes for me to be married latest by 25 but she died when I was 16 and rounding off with secondary school. Now the issue is I'm 36 and single. Not the I intended for this to happen but I find out that all my exes leave me for the most mundane of all reasons, some never even bothered to give reasons examples include: 1. I prefer a little more flesh after dating for over 3 months (I'm not skinny lo I'm size 2. 'My mum adds more palm oil to the soup than you' and I replied 'you have a heart condition it's best to cut down on oil' than he said I disrespected his mum 3. There's this student that asked me out and when I got to know he was a student, I told him to focus on his education and graduate first but if he needs assistance he should come to me. Guess what he laughed in my face saying ill die lonely that he wants to manage me I'm making Shakira 4. One's mother just took a long look at me and said I look pretentious. 5. One said I don't socialise well with his friends, etc It got to a point I was afraid of going into relationships customer I know it will end in tears One day I went to Bodija market to get a few things and I gave a better some change and she told me I'm married to spirits and that's why my relationships don't last. Long and short of the matter is for 4 years I've been enriching people who promise to separate us. I've made peace with it and living my life plus I have 7 children from my 4 brothers. Now there's this guy that has been calling my phone but I'm afraid to meet him customer without solutions I know it will still end in tears
Guys let's be a little nice to the female folk and stop calling them hoes, evening newspapers, etc without knowing their stories. You never know your trolling could be the reason someone commits suicide or is killed in a road accident while being absent minded. the funny thing is you will not know that you have blood on your hands and won't ask your maker for forgiveness If you live in Ibadan let me meet you, pm me OK? Things shall be fine OK. |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by LINTUNE(m): 2:46pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
zexy2030:
If you live in Ibadan let me meet you, pm me OK? Things shall be fine OK.
pussy hunter |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Nobody: 2:46pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
you girls take things we say on nairaland serious? |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by zexy2030(m): 2:52pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
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Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Originalsly: 2:56pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
username1111:
Long and short of the matter is for 4 years I've been enriching people who promise to separate us.
Your major problem is you believe in this spiritual husband.... four years of your life wasted....let alone money. Your mouth can say you have seven children..... but you know and I know your heart is grieving to have your own.....and time is running short... maybe why you have decided to put out this cry for help. On failed relationships.... you need to look at your selection process. What are the qualities do you look for in a guy before you engage in a relationship? |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Ephemeralbeing: 3:00pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
I m really sorry about this.
But don't take your life.
Find a religious place of worship, that's the only place you can find God fearing men. If not Get pregnant for a man and bid him farewell. Train the child and believe that's your own story. Move on.
Or better still Im heartbroken.
Simply victims of our existence.
Attend church. That's the only place you can find rational and God fearing men.
Get pregnant for a man.
If you're religious and scared please adopt a young child.
Train the child
That's your own story.
but please don't text any guy here on WhatsApp. They are Hot creatures
And what do you mean 7 children from your 4brothers ?
Any potential guy must propose,Introduce you to his parents.
Try to reduce your age by 5 years!!
No sex before marriage or introduction wedding. |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Ephemeralbeing: 3:06pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
username1111:
How was I to know there was something like spirit husband. Trust me you don't dare tell people your boyfriend left you at that period and you won't be scolded for having a boyfriend if my mum was alive she would have asked since we had a proposed age I've been having these unnecessary break ups since I started dating 21 precisely Stop explaining yourself unnecessary to young men who aren't up to your age. Of what advice, experience would they be of? Go to a very big church and meet people. You'll definitely be fine. |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by kwaso2: 3:13pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Oga shut up. U are making her matter more difficult. U think she doesn't know these rubbish u are vomiting or u don't have sisters that are married. If u don't have any advice that will help her achieve her goal, wish her well, that's hope. Let's others keep pushing her through with kind words. At Op, continue, be persistent, U will surely marry. As u have even shared ur problem overtly, solution has come. I look forward to read ur wedding news. Happy new year. J111333: C'mon girl, marriage is not achievement and will never be so don't be depressed about it. I understand you may need a man to make you feel accepted once in a while but c'mon, if nobody wanna love you, love yourself girl. Treat yourself to vacations and use your money to buy the same man's sperms and have kids if you want biko. Nobody will make you happy more than yourself.
For the records, evening newspaper oftentimes have more value than current newspaper. If you doubt me, wait until the embassy asks you to bring a proof of change of name you had in 2010.
Spirit husband my black ass. I guess Oprah Winfrey has spirit husband too. 2 Likes |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Ishilove: 8:09pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
username1111: I've been seeing different threads about women looking for husbands and I created a new account to share this
when my mum was alive she told me she wishes for me to be married latest by 25 but she died when I was 16 and rounding off with secondary school. Now the issue is I'm 36 and single. Not the I intended for this to happen but I find out that all my exes leave me for the most mundane of all reasons, some never even bothered to give reasons examples include: 1. I prefer a little more flesh after dating for over 3 months (I'm not skinny lo I'm size 2. 'My mum adds more palm oil to the soup than you' and I replied 'you have a heart condition it's best to cut down on oil' than he said I disrespected his mum 3. There's this student that asked me out and when I got to know he was a student, I told him to focus on his education and graduate first but if he needs assistance he should come to me. Guess what he laughed in my face saying ill die lonely that he wants to manage me I'm making Shakira 4. One's mother just took a long look at me and said I look pretentious. 5. One said I don't socialise well with his friends, etc It got to a point I was afraid of going into relationships customer I know it will end in tears One day I went to Bodija market to get a few things and I gave a better some change and she told me I'm married to spirits and that's why my relationships don't last. Long and short of the matter is for 4 years I've been enriching people who promise to separate us. I've made peace with it and living my life plus I have 7 children from my 4 brothers. Now there's this guy that has been calling my phone but I'm afraid to meet him customer without solutions I know it will still end in tears
Guys let's be a little nice to the female folk and stop calling them hoes, evening newspapers, etc without knowing their stories. You never know your trolling could be the reason someone commits suicide or is killed in a road accident while being absent minded. the funny thing is you will not know that you have blood on your hands and won't ask your maker for forgiveness Stop paying people for deliverance because so many of them are charlatans. What you should do is pray earnestly to God to send you your prophet. No matter how mighty the enemy be, God remains the Almighty. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by row2ray(m): 8:21pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
Am I the only one who saw 7 kids from her four brothers... please explain... this part got me confused....incest? |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Michelle55: 8:58pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
row2ray: Am I the only one who saw 7 kids from her four brothers... please explain... this part got me confused....incest? Her brothers kids( what she meant is her nieces and nephews) |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by LilMissFavvy(f): 9:02pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
OP..... So you do not know that there are ladies who have the same problem you have, but who still get married and bear children? If you don't know, it's a pity, because it means you have lived your life far far from deliverance ministries. The issue with problems like this is that it's a on and off thing, remember what Bible says about when an unclean spirit is cast out of a man. After you go for deliverance, how do you live your life? How is your prayer life? You know many ladies are getting married even at 36yrs. Improve your prayer life and join a deliverance ministry. Download and play audio prayers all through the night. Set alarm for 12mindnight prayers daily. Ignore those who are doubting what you say. Did you say you have kids for your brothers? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Re: Women Searching For Husbands; My Story by Ranchhoddas: 9:02pm On Jan 04, 2020 |
username1111:
How was I to know there was something like spirit husband. Trust me you don't dare tell people your boyfriend left you at that period and you won't be scolded for having a boyfriend if my mum was alive she would have asked since we had a proposed age I've been having these unnecessary break ups since I started dating 21 precisely Now that you know it's a spiritual issue what have you tried to do about it? |