temitope28:
Good evening nairalanders , and happy new year to you all.
Not going to border you with lengthy sermon!!
l have bn dating this lady right from 200level and we agreed on no sex relationship!! God helped us we kept and abide with it, until l went for NYSC, on the long run l had an affair with a lady during my service year, l have bn leaving with this guilt for over 4years.
Now we r planning of getting married this year and one of the wedding criteria is to attend counseling in her church, and they will certainty ask about my sexual life!!! what should l tell her pastor, really scared of loosing her, she is a definition of vitreous woman. l wish l never commit such mistake..
please your advice is urgently needed and sorry for typo errors[b]Good evening nairalanders , and happy new year to you all.
Not going to border you with lengthy sermon!!
l have bn dating this lady right from 200level and we agreed on no sex relationship!! God helped us we kept and abide with it, until l went for NYSC, on the long run l had an affair with a lady during my service year, l have bn leaving with this guilt for over 4years.
Now we r planning of getting married this year and one of the wedding criteria is to attend counseling in her church, and they will certainty ask about my sexual life!!! what should l tell her pastor, really scared of loosing her, she is a definition of vitreous woman. l wish l never commit such mistake..
please your advice is urgently needed and sorry for typo errors[/b]Good evening nairalanders , and happy new year to you all.
Not going to border you with lengthy sermon!!
l have bn dating this lady right from 200level and we agreed on no sex relationship!! God helped us we kept and abide with it, until l went for NYSC, on the long run l had an affair with a lady during my service year, l have bn leaving with this guilt for over 4years.
Now we r planning of getting married this year and one of the wedding criteria is to attend counseling in her church, and they will certainty ask about my sexual life!!! what should l tell her pastor, really scared of loosing her, she is a definition of vitreous woman. l wish l never commit such mistake..
please your advice is urgently needed and sorry for typo errors

Open up to her and promise her never to do such again

It's not easy holding on especially a man

Assure her of your faithfulness and love to her

My broda,d truth is..... Some truths are better left untold. Women understand things differently and this is exactly what destroyed my last relationship. Told her a certain truth though I kept it for a year but I decided to come in sincere and guess what? She was more angry at me dat she didnt see my act of sincererity. So evaluate her understanding. If she's matured enough not to start thinking uve been doing it.. Do tell her and if u know it won't go down well with her, I suggest u let d sleeping dog lie because some truths are told esp when there's a possibility of spouse finding out themselves but in this case she'll never know so don't create a wound and break down trust she has on u before u watch everything uve built shatter...

If you respected her you wouldn't have been selfish and cheated on her.
If you respect her feelings you better let bygones be bygones

temitope28:
Good evening nairalanders , and happy new year to you all.
Not going to border you with lengthy sermon!!
l have bn dating this lady..........s

My candid advice is that you should keep this secret to yourself and if you think you are feeling guilty try and make it up to her. Don't cheat on her again and never make her feel less a queen. If you continually do these even after wedding your guilt will disappear and you will have your peace.
But if you tell her, you have planted a means of anger in her, she will trust you less and feel insecure especially when you are not around with her. she will imagine you are replaying your mistakes years ago. Remember, marriage is a long term everlasting thing and I tell you, you will not want to live under the roof with an aggrieved, angry, and 'silent' woman.
With the marriage counselor, just answer the question judiciously...
if you are asked what is your sex life you can give answers like "my fiance and I have not have sex together" and all those stuffs.

Go and sin no more

DenreleDave:



See them, now na guy cheat, u r shouting with all ur brain that he shud confess


A lady posted such thing few months ago, many ladies like you were advising her to keep it a secret for life..


Hypocrite oshi....

Get lost

Jodha:

Get lost

Get fvcked

Don't disclosed it.... If you do,she will never trust in this life again.

You know if the girl had had sex too

But which pastor will ask you such question, the pastor will only ask if you both had have sex together

You know if the girl had had sex too

But which pastor will ask you such question, the pastor will only ask if you both had have sex together

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