jaxxy:


No u didn’t my dear, if u both agreed and he agreed then it shud be kept. People who break agreements easily cannot be trusted. I might be wrong bt I think Soldier just wants to bed u that’s all. He’s not interested in marriage. I hope I’m wrong bt his persistence and manipulation leaves much to be desired.

Stop the kissing and cuddling for atleast a month and see where the relationship heads. The truth is a guy who really loves u is more than happy just staring at u and hearing u talk till Ure ready. Sex is just the icing on the cake. I know this love is rare bt it’s the real deal.

Bt don’t get me wrong this has to be agreed by both parties willingly.

You are dear.

This kind of love is rare but it is the real love. When a man sleep with you before marriage, he might still end up marrying you, but it can never be like if he never got there.

After marriage, he can sleep with you as much as he wants. E go tire am sef.

Give him sex joor. A female friend who is happily married is regretting not having sex with her husband during courtship. Her husband has erectile dysfunction and could barely make out with her. And this problem is threatening the stability of their marriage.

Gina2019:
You just don't get it do you? Emotionally we tend to lose more than you guys. You guys don't feel remorseful.

lol is that what u think??

Better chop something now before you marry oo,before you go say he is another Churchill

pryme:


No you did not,
Its obvious he now wants sex and you don't.
Call off the relationship.
If you still want the relationship be prepared to have sex with him.

No need to complicate things.
It is what it is.

Q.E.D

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Gina2019:
it doesn't work that way. You guys believe there's nothing a girl can offer you in a relationship apart from sex. Imagine what the guy did. He didn't pick her call becos of sex. Who does that?

Is there any other thing a young lady can offer?

armylord:
lol is that what u think??

It's what I know.

you re living in self denial

Babara1994:

Is there any other thing a young lady can offer?

Of course yes.

and how you sure she is not getting it elsewhere from someone who probably pays her bill but not ready to marry her? @OP and @Gina, if I were the guy I will leave. The only circumstance for which I will marry OP with the clause she gives is if she is a VIRGIN. Anything short of that na to waka.

Gina2019:
No you didn't. He was only playing along all this while to try to get the cookie.

If you give him the cookie, he will dump your ass.

Kudos to u for waiting to have sex til marriage.That's how God designed sex to be. For marriage only.
Now even said that,u shouldn't have serious issues calling it off unless you choose to make it one since u are so independent and always held ur pants strong.
I see no need for this post just like no need for the sex before marriage.
What I see here is a Devastated guy.
Who should be more upset with himself for not knowing/sticking to what he wants from the onset.
Pls,help me advise Him(ur guy) to bail now while he has a chance coz nothing is gonna get any better in the future.The sex and puss is just overhyped...Unless he don't mind.

Lyydia:


Hmmmm, major reason y m scared!

If you couldn't all this while find a reason to believe in the genuity of your man's professed affection for you hence resorting to using sex as a "retain him" strategy, then there's no need to even go ahead with the marriage or still be in a relationship with him.

Why?

Because if you know your man truly loves you, the issue of abstaining from sex as a strategy to keep him will not even come to your mind.

Healthy relationships is more than sex!


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IamCookie:


You may be wrong, Gina2019. Sometimes , flexibility does it! It's a good thing she's not a liability and she also acknowledged LOVE between them. You dated for 6months ,cuddling and kissing sometimes, due to your own personal reasons. What about his own personal reasons? He was so reasonable as to allow u get along for good 6months and decided to give his own personal reason a thought , and then u became furious. You are selfish , Lyydia.

One would have thought your reason could be Virginity issue but Nope. Everyone wants emotional security..I only imagine the thoughts running through the guys mind to make him make the move again.

Well, I gave it to my guy very well ...and now he is my MAN. Your decision is your decision, though.

Words On Marble.


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Gina2019:
You are funny. How's she going to present the cookie?

By ensuring the cookie is clean, healthy and well groomed with no fish smell.
Cookies can be a big turn-off even for a married man if not well taking care of. Plus she must be ready to rock the boat very well. Sexual compatibility is very key in this particular case. No man will continue with a woman who is uninteresting during sexual activity

Gina2019:
it doesn't work that way. You guys believe there's nothing a girl can offer you in a relationship apart from sex. Imagine what the guy did. He didn't pick her call becos of sex. Who does that?

So much Hyping in one post...Why put so much pressure on Sex...U must have backward friends and mentality

Didi2d:


You've said it all man.
I actually read, through to see if she will answer if she's a virgin or not but she kept mute on that.
Well, if she ain't a virgin I see no reason for such rules most especially when he wants it. For me I believe the lady is pretending, period

No two ways bro!

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nkemdi89:
If you are not ready for sex, stay away from relationship, it is very difficult to have a man in this present generation who can stay celibate, unless he is born in the 70s and has had load of mind blowing sex, and want marriage straight because he is already tired of the whole sex charade, besides stop using sex as bargaining tool, if you are matured enough and financially independent, you should be responsible for any decision with your body. If he wants to continue with the relationship after sex, shouldn't be your headache , enjoy the sex and don't feel used.

Using sex as a bargaining tool? Is that what you can read from her post? Bargaining tool for what? In this generation Anyone who wants to do the right thing is considered wrong. How sad.

Lady doesn't want to have sex before marriage. She says so plainly. Which one is sex as bargaining tool.

Marriage is a covenant. Only fools treat covenant as a common thing. If she wants to be careful, let her be. Hope she doesn't end up with someone with your mindset.

What if the guy leaves her after eating her cookie? How would she look herself in the mirror? Used and dumped.

What if the guy leaves BECAUSE she didn't allow him have her cookie? Dumped but NOT USED.

Gina2019:
No you didn't. He was only playing along all this while to try to get the cookie.

If you give him the cookie, he will dump your ass.

my gives me all the time and I no dey give an shishi

vicdom:

Kai!!!
Wicket sombori

These types are like vipers bro. But the unfortunate guys marry them and they still run the house. Smh.




a super case of someone who lives in a glass house yet go throwing stones....

Innobee99:
Kiss and cuddle kee u there

U are mean!

Lyydia:


Here is the deal, we plan on no sex before marriage due to personal reasons. I don't ask for money also, we do cuddle and kiss sometimes. But not sex!

We? Noo. It's more like you initiated the idea of "no sex" however, to keep him you offer cuddle and kiss. What do you now expect�. He will want to dick you.

It's either you are ready to bear the consequence of choosing "no sex" by remaining single, or flow along.

I am not sure both of you are virgin self. Most ladies using this strategy is a turn off.

Gina2019:
What is this one saying? Sex is the ultimate goal of a man in any relationship. And he believes if he gets it for free, he has conquered the lady. He can do anything he want like cheats, be abusive etc.

But if sex is not on a platter of gold, he won't misbehave. He will lay down his guard. He will respect his woman.

Hypocrite

GuestLog:
Me too! See my comment below yours. I praise her for her strength. If this guy loses her because of his immaturity, he will regret it.

regret kill you there. regret on what!?

wisdomkid:




I rarely understand Humans and Black people in particular. Someone made a promise to keep herself for marriage and you're f**King telling her to give the guy s*x?

And you're the same guys that they call girls giving guys they're dating s*x oloshos.. God will judge us all with iron fist for 1.... Our stupidity, 2. Ignorance and 3. Foolishness.

You are the ignorant one sir/ma. She(op) gave an account of what transpired and thereby asked a question bothering her, and you expected everyone on this thread to give 'your kind of advice or response? If she is so sure and confident of the promise she made to herself , then why bothered and feeling regret of her actions? Smh

WIZGUY69:


You' and your partner should avoid secluded place? So both should start fixing meeting in the market square or what? How do you people think?

There are many places two people in a relationship can have an affectionate chat without locking themselves together in a room.

Aside others compatibility we cared so much about, sexual compatibility is also very important. What makes you think you guys are compatible sexually if you stick to this decision?
If you are a virgin n already close to getting married, quite alright he will understand. Dont make it sound like sex is what you only have to offer in the anticipated marriage, after all if sex is not everything, it doesn't worth what you should deny him of equally.
Giving such condition is not cool if you are not a virgin. Sex Dont keep a man, the one that will stay will stay.
Though it is obvious you are one of the ladies that believe once a guy go to bed with you, you are being used...but that s lame.
Review the contract agreement..it is normal after certain period if u know his level of seriousness.
#Peace

ArticleBeast:

What of his wishes Oga Preacher?

If you read her post well, you will understand that she spelt the terms and conditions out for him before they started the relationship and he agreed. He can't change the rules of the game in the middle of the game without being expressly clear about what he wants.

He should be honest enough to let her know his true intentions if he knows he can't abide to the agreed T&Cs. He should not use deceit and emotional seduction to get her to change her mind. He needs to be man enough to ask for what he wants.

BTW, let us learn to stand for honesty and truth.

Buy him a carton of vaseline!

With or without sex that guy will not marry you because you think he is a fool and he knows.

DNSPro:


Hypocrite

How am I a hypocrite?

My dear if u don't eat draw soup don't take meat from it... The gods has spoken