Gynn:
Hello OP.

Don't let a single indiscretion from your dad make you forget he has consistently cared for you since your were a kid.

Like someone said, call him up. And talk it out with him.

And if you have strong mind, tell him you still trust him and send him another money to build the fence. That's after you have found a way to conform the land is truly yours

Secondly, family can feel entitled to your wealth. It's wrong, but it doesn't make them bad.

Just be careful. Be stingy sometimes. And manage your family expectations from you

Life is people. Don't throw away the relationship with your father because of a one off incident.

Remember, he trained you right from birth. That counts for something

thanks for that ... that stingy is the key word now....

worworbabe:
The only thing you can do is forgive him and please try to forget.

Call Him.


It's hard and sad. I was recently in a similar situation but what did I do? I tried to remember all the other good things and not allow satan(shaytan) take advantage of this single incidence to create bad blood between my folks and I.

From what you have mentioned, he sent you to school and made you what you are today. Remember that some people never had a parent to do that for them.

Be grateful, forgive and forget. Have the conversation with him, let him know how you feel and also let him know that you forgive him.

Thanks .....already talked to him and I've zeroed my mind about him paying back .....but no more lavish support for family and projects on hold indefinitely....Jah bless everyone for your matured advice .... like the adage in yoruba...
I go keep all ur words of wisdom for my left hand....make I no take am chop

I don't know if this counts as betrayal. Our first born knew there was a guy I really like and the guy was stylishly making passes at me but never went straight to the point.

That was when In 100 level. When I was I was in 2oo level my got the news that my sister was going to get married to the guy.

At a point I stylishly told my mum my sister was getting married to my boyfriend but no one said anything. It broke me and I am still angry whenever I see my sister with him. They even have kids now. It really changed my acts towards my family sha. Maybe someday I will heal

7thLemonLOVER:
I don't know if this counts as betrayal. Our first born knew there was a guy I really like and the guy was stylishly making passes at me but never went straight to the point.

That was when In 100 level. When I was I was in 2oo level my got the news that my sister was going to get married to the guy.

At a point I stylishly told my mum my sister was getting married to my boyfriend but no one said anything. It broke me and I am still angry whenever I see my sister with him. They even have kids now. It really changed my acts towards my family sha. Maybe someday I will heal

well, I don't think u were in a relationship with the guy as he never really asked u out.....it would have been a betrayal if he had left u to marry ur sister after you've established a relationship with him.

7thLemonLOVER:
I don't know if this counts as betrayal. Our first born knew there was a guy I really like and the guy was stylishly making passes at me but never went straight to the point.

That was when In 100 level. When I was I was in 2oo level my got the news that my sister was going to get married to the guy.

At a point I stylishly told my mum my sister was getting married to my boyfriend but no one said anything. It broke me and I am still angry whenever I see my sister with him. They even have kids now. It really changed my acts towards my family sha. Maybe someday I will heal

He was never your boyfriend. He didn't even ask you out talkless of you refusing. You obviously liked him, and so did your sister. .
No need to feel betrayed. He was never yours to begin with, so just let it go. He is your brother in law now, and no good will come out of beefing the couple

7thLemonLOVER:
I don't know if this counts as betrayal. Our first

That was when In 100 level. When I was I was in 2oo level my got the news that my sister was going to get married to the guy.

At a point I stylishly told my mum my sister was getting married to my boyfriend but no one said heal

Moral of the story. Direct action is better than stylishly