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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by DCMIX(m): 10:19am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you




it happened 10 years ago, she's got no reason to be mad. Something else is behind her actions.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by davillian(m): 10:29am On Jan 15
grin If a woman look for excuse to dump you and they no see
They fit enter house see you de eat bone
Complain say you are eating like a dog that they don't want to marry you again its over
You go think say na play but na so e go take end.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Hisduchess(f): 10:29am On Jan 15
mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

God please am on my knees begging you to bless this guy excessively for being this truthful.no lady will suddenly leave her matrimonial home because of an old post someone made a long time ago.there is so ooo much to this story that He ain't saying.he should deal with the consequences of his actions.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Tallyglobal(m): 10:31am On Jan 15
She has no good plan for marriage, she came to have a baby, do call her if her number still available... Keep an account to reach u, Bro let her brain go for factory setup first before u format .
Renew the pussy and dig new.
Many things for u plan on .. Be successful many old friends will locate u.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by lucky4west: 10:38am On Jan 15
sad and serious because human beings are so deceptive...she is over reacting and hiding the main cause of her actions...like she already made up her mind to leave you and was just waiting for an excuse, why go into your archives? not even a recent post? no investigation nothing..not even a temporal malice of "not talking to you"...men ask her what the problem really is? she is not telling the truth, she has an ace up her sleeve and set you up for a fall and unfortunately she got the excuse albeit a lame one...some ladies sha!
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Hisduchess(f): 10:46am On Jan 15
izzou:


Lol grin

Thanks bro
Thanks
Thanks Thanks

I really appreciate the wishes cool


Happy birthday.more life
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by midnighter(f): 10:46am On Jan 15
The sad truth is that the woman TONTO DIKEH'D the OP...if you know, you know...
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by izzou(m): 10:47am On Jan 15
Hisduchess:


Happy birthday.more life

Thank you. God bless
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Lifecanbeamazin: 10:51am On Jan 15
It's unfortunate that your wife is using that as an excuse. The most important thing here is she cannot deny you access to your child neither can you. Let her know that she needs your permission before taking that child outside Nigeria as it will considered kidnap or child trafficking.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Christmasdon(m): 10:53am On Jan 15
OP , how come u said u remained anonymous and she still knows you are the owner of that facebook Account. why don't you tell your wife that, your friend Lawal logged in his facebook account using your mobile phone and accesories. Op reason b4 talking to us. people are now edjucated and had gone advanced.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by KingUg(m): 11:06am On Jan 15
Jewessgratitude:


Hmm...using it for biz and news. I c.
Just try to be straight forward Sir. We had to put words into your mouth before you could open up that you're still operating that troll account.
If you ask me, it is enough to make her angry cos She's doesn't know for sure if you're still chyking her friend till date. If not, how come its only that account you're still able to remember the password. There must be a reason why you're still keeping it. Best known to you though.


I respect you for this you
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Roheemah04(f): 11:39am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you






Honestly, you need to be very careful at this point..

Its obvious shes lustfully in love with someone else ....

Secondly, Apologize a lot to her...give her space ...shell definitely come back to her senses

Most importantly, PRAY for your her and your marriage...it's obvious shes about to go astray..

Wish you best of luck wink
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Fejimummy: 12:06pm On Jan 15
Bros abeg tell us the full story... did you sleep with her friend or not
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by nlPoster: 12:16pm On Jan 15
10 years ago was 2010 btw.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by VicM6: 12:17pm On Jan 15
let her be for now, call her wen necessary...... Don't let anyone pour sand in to ur marraige..... perhaps u guys can just talk to ur pastor about it but the let the family members hear of it.


Family members only sabi food and money.... dem no know anytin for head....

But op, u caused the problem o... this said girl relocated to the US to school nd someone else was banging her hard over there, she came bk nd u got married to her after almost 2years of separation........... Omo, abeg go fixed ur marriage jare, notin nairaland fit do for u... the issue is criical.... mayb there is more to it that u aren't telling us here. she must have seen sometin beyond wat u re telling us....... ...Any way, God will help u
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by mii4u(f): 12:26pm On Jan 15
gbogboija:
The man himself has so many questions to answer. He claimed he has been using another name different from his, how come then the wife gets to know he is the one?
Hmmmm. I tire o
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Frankicent(m): 12:37pm On Jan 15
mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!


The wife grin
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by wizardus: 12:48pm On Jan 15
The truth is that I have learnt not to judge between husband and wife..except when they two are there to explain themselves...
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Oghosquared: 12:58pm On Jan 15
you need to be more aggressive in handling this, i don't mean to go physical.. whatever she wants to do, just make sure she isn't doing it with your child.. go and get your child,, she is obviously a spoilt brat and not ready for life yet..
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by tomdon(m): 1:30pm On Jan 15
Reichel99:
Your wife is childish. If she wants to leave let her go but make sure you don't let her take your child along with her.



If she's a citizen so he should deny the poor child green card which is available on a platter of good because of selfish reason. Abeg let bygones be bygones, start life all over again
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by extremelygolden: 1:34pm On Jan 15
mikezuruki:
why are you guys here calling the girl silly?

OP is not being truthful. He didn't stop at creating fake account to express his flimsy emotions to babes online. What happened to deleting the 'fake' account you created 10 years ago?

How did she see it if it's not what you still use?

You claimed you have stopped the habit of creating fake account to follow up on babes (or people) online, yet you created another fake nairaland account for this post!

There's something sinister about you op! You're not being honest! She may have caught you in one of those your 'disguised' moments!

Deal with it Bozo!

How can one person ooze out so much wisdom like this, ehen?

God bless you, jare.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by sassysure: 1:41pm On Jan 15
midnighter:
The sad truth is that the woman TONTO DIKEH'D the OP...if you know, you know...
So the man is Churchill while the wife is tonto? cheesy
U people will not kii somebody here
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by ebby9z(m): 1:44pm On Jan 15
kiss
nlPoster:
Why do you consider it a fake account instead of an alternate one?

And why comment anonymously to people you know?

That's rather creepy and could be considered borderline stalking.




Not to mention why would people intentionally add strangers on their personal fb pages?

And is it a must you have to flirt online? Why is self control considered a female thing among Nigerians? (even that has changed now). Must you drop sexually themed comments on someone's page when you know you have sex issues?

Your comments don't even make any sense. Is the issue here about stalking or about someone trying to leave a MARRIAGE over a flirtatious post made 10 years ago.
Why on earth are you justifying her shitty behaviour?

Anything done before a current commitment can't be counted at all. You have to remove your skirt and stop thinking like a woman.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by ebby9z(m): 1:48pm On Jan 15
It's sad that a woman would use a flimsy excuse to break a relationship up and society would rush to her aid. They do this everytime and it always works.

Can't believe people are justifying leaving a marriage because of a Facebook post made a decade ago. Something is wrong with you people if you can't deduce that she has an agenda is just using this as an excuse. I'm not surprised at the females, I'm shocked at the males defending this.
Manginas everywhere

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by ebby9z(m): 1:49pm On Jan 15
davillian:
grin If a woman look for excuse to dump you and they no see
They fit enter house see you de eat bone
Complain say you are eating like a dog that they don't want to marry you again its over
You go think say na play but na so e go take end.

Many people on this thread are so freaking ignorant of the wiles of women. I've seen this so many times and it breaks my heart that society will ALWAYS blame the man.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by PrimadonnaO(f): 1:56pm On Jan 15
cococandy:
Right? She’s probably Wondering if he still thinks about her . One Can’t tell her not to be upset at least a little.

But leaving the marriage is overkill


The very height of overreacting.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by nlPoster: 2:03pm On Jan 15
Mimicole:
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Haba mana what is it with Nigerians and this self righteous judgmental behaviour?
The flirting happened 10 years ago and Oga said he has given up d habit... Why are you still asking these questions? And where in the story did you get 'sex issues'??

OP just travel down to see your wife and apologize again, let her feel your sincerity... After all wise people say its only when you cultivate the ability to apologise for no reason that you are fit and ready for marriage... 'I'm truly sorry' will do the trick and save you lots of unhappiness in the future.

In my line of work I come across lots of divorce cases that could have been prevented at the early stage by just apologies. Its really not such a big deal in the end.

ebby9z:




Your comments don't even make any sense. Is the issue here about stalking or about someone trying to leave a MARRIAGE over a flirtatious post made 10 years ago.
Why on earth are you justifying her shitty behaviour?

Anything done before a current commitment can't be counted at all. You have to remove your skirt and stop thinking like a woman.

Thanks for quoting me.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by MrDoGood(m): 2:05pm On Jan 15
Platini7:
Nothing else that i know about. Yes we do have small small quarrels.....but non of our little misunderstandings has ever led to the kind of reaction i'm getting from her on this one.

She claims she's heartbroken cos the comment was made on her CLOSE friend's post.

She no well. Had it been u marry her best friend, means she for die.

Lol
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Newmans: 2:15pm On Jan 15
If she leave u, you leave her.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by midnighter(f): 2:20pm On Jan 15
sassysure:

So the man is Churchill while the wife is tonto? cheesy
U people will not kii somebody here

Lol didnt you see where the woman absconded with her baby over nothing? Is it not the same thing mtchew..engineering fake problems so that you will go back to your original guy-woman lifestyle!

Gosh! funny stories of 2020
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by etrader(m): 2:44pm On Jan 15
SmellingAnus:
Looks like she was already looking for any excuse to rush to another dvck based abroad undecided

If that's the case, there is little or nothing you can do about it... Just hustle to be more successful ...

u are right

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Bonjovi13: 3:02pm On Jan 15
This is an anonymous site.No one knows you. Say the truth if you really want to to be given genuine effective advice.
Answer these questions.
1.In 2010/11 when you opened those Facebook accounts. Where you and your wife dating exclusively at that time?
2. The friend you toasted on Facebook, where you aware that she was your wife's friend?
3.Did your wife's friend tell your wife that someone with that Facebook account was toasting her?
4.Did you and your wife discuss the issue then with you.Like not that it was you.But telling you that someone was toasting her friend on Facebook?
5.How did you respond?
6.How did the whole toasting end.How did the lady respond.What transpired after .
7.Now! How did your wife find out it was you that had that account.
8.Was there other conversations that she saw.
9.How did you respond when she confronted you,

The reason why I am asking all these questions is to get a clue of the mindset of your wife and to get a proper understanding of what she had to deal with after finding out.

All of this goes to reveal your character and whether she can trust you.

All of us has a past.But there are some truths about us that may go with us to the grave.If those truths are revealed to our spouses. It will change the dynamics of the relationship and they make begin to question if they really know you and if they can trust you.

When they cannot resolve that question in their heads and cannot get over the Information.The relationship would be in dire straits.

No one should insult the wife until we hear from her.I believe the matter is deeper than what the OP is saying.

In the meantime, answer those questions.

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