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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by izzou(m): 6:53am On Jan 15
PrimadonnaO:


Happy birthday to you...



Thank you so much. God bless smiley

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Megaideas(f): 6:54am On Jan 15
There's more to this than meets the eye. We need to hear her own side before jumping into conclusions.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by LadySarah(f): 6:55am On Jan 15
cococandy:
Right? She’s probably Wondering if he still thinks about her . One Can’t tell her not to be upset at least a little.

But leaving the marriage is overkill

Upset a little you say, to the pt of denying the child, his father and absconding with him.

That's not a little upset!
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by virago(f): 6:56am On Jan 15
izzou:
Is this the woman you dated for 10 years?


They didn't date for 10 years
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Godmademan(m): 6:56am On Jan 15
heffem:
...bros abeg read the story again make you fit understand wella..
...and 16 peeps clicked the LIKE button
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by heffem(m): 6:58am On Jan 15
Godmademan:
...and 16 peeps clicked the LIKE button
bros I tire for the matter o
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by GAZZUZZ(m): 7:00am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you





If that is all then it's better u divorce, nah pikin brain she carry. But if u did something else talk now.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by luminouz(m): 7:08am On Jan 15
Jewessgratitude:


Hahahaaa.. My dad was a senior NPS officer who dealt with criminals at the maximum prisons those days. So I gat his blood flowing in my veins.

Like seriously how you see that story? Guy man wan bobo us na. Hahahaaa


Jesus!!!

Your dad was a COP?


*runs outta thread*

wink wink
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Bondinus: 7:09am On Jan 15
Is she your friend in your anonymous Facebook account and did she know it was you before she searched for dirt about you or was she with your phone and why should she dig deep till 10 yrs ago, meaning she was looking for dirt already.
Since the acclaimed lady is her friend, why didn't she call her to confirm?
Op from your own side, does she receive calls that makes her leave your sight if she is with you and how long does the calls last.
Can you confirm that she is presently in her village doing nothing and not going out and coming back late, have you even spoken to her people indirectly to know what's up from their own end (leave what she told you she told them)

These are my questions before I give my own take.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Chiffy: 7:09am On Jan 15
Are you even sure that you are the father of that kid? In my opinion, no woman will find such flimsy and mundane excuse to divorce the father of her child. 10 years ago, you were probably a teenager or in your early 20s. Everyone has stupid things they've all done in this period.

If not for the child, i would have advised that you start celebrating her departure; because a new wife exhibiting such an attitude this early indicates that she will frustrate your marriage in the long run.

Your story reminds me of a friend's story. They were scheduled to marry in december of that year. He lived abroad at the time and sent her all money necessary to perform the traditional marriage and white wedding. In November, bros came back to assist with arrangements. All of a sudden, the girl started give flimsy facebook excuses like yours.She misled bros to believe she was still angry over facebook post and left the apartment he had rented for them both. Bros was even calling us (his friends) to beg on his behalf. Long story short; In the same december, same girl did traditional wedding with another dude.

These type of women usually use these flimsy excuses to cover up for the hideous things that they about to do. So definitely, your wife is up to something that will not be in your favour.

So be wise bros. Don't cry over spilt milk. First, you have to confirm if that child is yours. Then decide what you have to do. But I assure you that staying with her is not the best for you

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by tweakdude1: 7:10am On Jan 15
thorpido:
You should have eleted those fake accounts when you got married.
Well,you will need to make contacts with your wife and try to convince her it was in your past and it was all for fun.Try to reach her through people who have access to her.
It might take some time before she changes her mind but keep pushing it.

The was only looking for an excuse to quit her marriage

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by DavIkenna(m): 7:11am On Jan 15
the question is does she love you and why?

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Geonigga(m): 7:12am On Jan 15
Some women can nurse and execute their nocturnal plans even though it will take them 3 years.
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Timekeeper: 7:13am On Jan 15
pocohantas:
Your wife no get talk.


Thank God sense dey ur head for this comment
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Skmoda360(m): 7:14am On Jan 15
Bros she no love you now
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Skmoda360(m): 7:17am On Jan 15
SmellingAnus:
Looks like she was already looking for any excuse to rush to another dvck based abroad undecided

If that's the case, there is little or nothing you can do about it... Just hustle to be more successful ...
She doesn't love him....
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Timekeeper: 7:17am On Jan 15
Jewessgratitude:


Hmm...using it for biz and news. I c.
Just try to be straight forward Sir. We had to put words into your mouth before you could open up that you're still operating that troll account.
If you ask me, it is enough to make her angry cos She's doesn't know for sure if you're still chyking her friend till date. If not, how come its only that account you're still able to remember the password. There must be a reason why you're still keeping it. Best known to you though.



Walai u av finally mad finish grin... U made the guy confess sha

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Zaheertyler(m): 7:21am On Jan 15
Platini7:
hmmm undecided
The truth
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by JoseRaji(m): 7:22am On Jan 15
izzou:
Is this the woman you dated for 10 years?
They didn't date for 10 years. They dated "briefly" 10 years ago, then she went abroad....
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by cococandy(f): 7:23am On Jan 15
LadySarah:


Upset a little you say, to the pt of denying the child, his father and absconding with him.

That's not a little upset!

I think you’re misunderstanding my post.

I think a little upset is okay.

Leaving the marriage is overkill.

That’s what my post meant

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by cococandy(f): 7:25am On Jan 15
Ahan

Small small truths coming out. Maybe she’s wondering what else he’s doing with that account.

@OP, a 10 year old account is no longer a troll account. It’s a double identity.

You’re not straight forward. Maybe we should hold our judgment of her until you say the whole truth .
Jewessgratitude:


Hmm...using it for biz and news. I c.
Just try to be straight forward Sir. We had to put words into your mouth before you could open up that you're still operating that troll account.
If you ask me, it is enough to make her angry cos She's doesn't know for sure if you're still chyking her friend till date. If not, how come its only that account you're still able to remember the password. There must be a reason why you're still keeping it. Best known to you though.


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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by karkinase(m): 7:28am On Jan 15
Everyday whining of men on nairaland....seems this one has passed been redpilled oo shocked...but the issue with that marriage is the [b]foundation...[/b]you guys dated briefly 10yrs ago then wen you eventually reconnected boom marriage. I feel she came back home just to get a child and you were the sacrificial lamb. Op no need explaining urself to her anymore just talk to her family about it and they would call her to order .
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by DarrelCornell: 7:29am On Jan 15
Timekeeper:


Walai u av finally mad finish grin... U made the guy confess sha

trash trash trash

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by DarrelCornell: 7:29am On Jan 15
Timekeeper:


Thank God sense dey ur head for this comment

more trash

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by cococandy(f): 7:31am On Jan 15
Are you OP’s alternate?
cheesy grin

Account made today to discredit those seeing the holes in this story. Not so sleek
DarrelCornell:
[s][/s]
trash trash trash

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by succri(m): 7:31am On Jan 15
This one pass me , everybody is not alright las las
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by ubrendan: 7:32am On Jan 15
Bro, based on what you posted your wife is not even suppose to get angry since its in the past and being also that she once cheated on you. its too childish on her part. I believe she still communicate with the guy abroad and their relationship is getting stronger day by day, and the only way she can carry out her plan is by using this to leave.
I will suggest you involve your in laws that is her parent before she say something negative about you and it will also give them the privilege of talking to her and knowing also the truth. if after every move you make she refuse don't beg her again and allow her to leave. Don't also worry about the child someday he will look for you and if you go to court you may not win the custody of the child base on the age. For the fact that your conscience is clear you didn't cheat on her someday sometime you will be vindicated. The bible says the wicked will not go unpunished. The issue of not deleting the Facebook account is not an issue and its something that happened so many years ago. Just try your best in convincing her but if she refuse let her be. I promise you one day she will come begging after she must have made the biggest mistake of her life. just chill and do the right thing. Shalom

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by SecretSpy666: 7:32am On Jan 15
I will never marry a US returnee, divorce dey sweet them like food
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by fredoooooo: 7:33am On Jan 15
And you're forcing her to stay, Alaye if she later kill you , know that you use your hand to kill yourself .
Nobody be it a man or a woman should be force to stay in any relationship or marriage.

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Duru009(m): 7:33am On Jan 15
Your wife is very very greedy....

I know this type of a woman, you can never satisfy them.....

Somebody is giving her heavy dick behind !

The earlier you move on the better for you....
Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by splashbaby(m): 7:37am On Jan 15
Platini7:
Please i created this moniker to seek advise on this issue.

I got married to my wife in 2018 and there's already an issue that is threatening our young marriage.

We dated briefly 10 years ago before she travelled to the US for schooling. She stayed there for a while and then got into a relationship over there with a guy i know (I wasn't close friends with the guy). I had to move on with my life and got into a relationship of my own here in Nigeria.
Back then, i use to have this silly habit of creating anonymous facebook accounts where i would add people i know and comment on their posts and pictures without them ever knowing i was the one. I dropped many comments back then and one such incident happened to be a time i commented on her close friend's picture, telling her (the friend) she was pretty and how i wanted her. This was almost 10 years ago and i swear i never meant any of those words. It was just a silly joke and i had completely forgotten all that.
My wife returned Nigeria in 2016 and somehow we reconnected and got married in 2018.

Just last week, she stumbled on those posts i made in 2010-2011 and got really heartbroken and upset. Right now, even after pleading with her, she says she wants to quit the marriage. She packed a few of her stuff and travelled home to Abia state from our base in Lagos. So far, what she told her family in the east is that she just came back to visit them for a little while because she couldn't come back during xmas.
Now she's threatening that i won't see my 1 year old son anytime soon cos she's already making plans of relocating abroad for good.


Please my question is this; Do you think this issue is enough to cause this kind of disharmony in our home?
What do you advice?
Thank you




That lady is not a wife material... It appears to me you never knew her and you rushed things a bit too soon, ...these signs are not good signs at all trust me it has always been there but you ignore it. I had a friend who's late now with a similar story to yours, but no child involved.

My friend was the publisher of Oluyole Voice a fast rising magazine then in Ibadan, he made a lot of name and money of course... He was doing very well for himself until this lady arrived from the UK. Back then they were family friends and had been dating, communicating and planning for their wedding before her arrival. She went to study abroad.

The flag point was when she arrived Ibadan and he enlisted me to pay a visit. It was at the gate I knew my friend was in deep shit, she came out hurling insults on him for coming without booking a date and my friend was practically begging. She never gave him any attention... Meanwhile a car was parked outside, apparently she had another visitor. My friend was heart broken and I advice him this lady is not for him. But you know guys, they always want to give it a try.

To cut it short, my guy struggle to keep the relationship on till they got married. We arranged a bachelor eve for him and the wife to-be instructed him never to attend. We did his batch eve without him and showed him pictures the next day.

After maarriage things took turns for the worst. My friend was always chasing the marriage and abandoned his work. He became poorer and just six month, for no reason the lady relocated to Abuja and within weeks she flew back to the to the UK leaving my friend in total ruin. He lost everything it appeared to him and there is no way back.

My friend was left distraught, we couldn't locate him anymore... Since marriage the wife cut him away from us... Changed his number and when we pay visit to his house, he tells us we are putting him in trouble...

Eventually when the lady left for the UK, our friend relocated to Lagos. What we saw next was his obituary on Facebook. The shame was too much for him to bear, a publisher that lost his magazine... he worked and labour to build for many years just because of one jezebel.

He was a man of very high standard, a close friend of Sound sultan, Tuface and many musician of that era. The marriage ruined his life and he never recovered.

Same thing is playing out here... I will want you to get your sanity back and never think you were married... move on quickly no matter what happens because you are yet to see the worst. I learnt two things about this marriage thing.

1. Some are ready to marry, while
2. Others are willing to do marriage.

It's two things entirely

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Re: My Wife Wants To Leave Me by Resurgent2016: 7:37am On Jan 15
Platini7:
I sound quilty cos i know i should've opened up or deleted the account once we got married. The potential loss of my child is giving me nightmares. However, i have just told the whole truth on this thread and i am open to any clarifications.

It is me that needs help here.....what's the point of withholding info if i seek solution?

Honestly, you need to grow some balls, even if she earns more than you.

According to you, the relationship resumed in 2016, how does you flirting in 2011 matter? Also, you can date/flirt with any lady you like, did you question her choice of man/men when the relationship took a break?

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