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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by more4rm9ja: 10:07am On Jan 27, 2020
She's definitely older than him and milking him too....nit the cum, I mean money. The girl is the problem, not your boy.
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Collins4u1(m): 10:09am On Jan 27, 2020
Na the small boi dey use iPhone already grin grin
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by rex444(m): 10:12am On Jan 27, 2020
would you listen? have a parental meeting with both of em, educate them on the risks involved in whatever they are into and they could just be good friends without the sex and other unimportant things and let them know U will have your eyes on them ..... watch how it goes

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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by MajorWarren: 10:24am On Jan 27, 2020
You are actually invading his privacy and an attempt to confront him on this issue will only lead to him finding better ways to hide it from you.

If you’re his dad then you probably have to approach him from a mans point of view and have a talk with him not talk at him.
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Nobody: 10:30am On Jan 27, 2020
Lol. Nothing to worry about. His responses are normal for a young man his age. The hussy is setting him up to be her maga. One thing I admire is that he still has his priorities right for now; work over girl nonsense. Just red pill him and teach him to be a stronger man.

And by the way, you shouldn't have posted his private messages on social media for the public to read. TAKE THEM DOWN NOW.

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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by proclinician: 10:30am On Jan 27, 2020
Truly the world has changed. I remeber when i was this boy's age before i wrote wassce i had my first girl friend from love letter exchanges.

One day during the holidays she came into my compound to see me we gisted and as she was about leaving my mom blow horn for gate and the gate was open she saw this girl and ran out of her car and came in and held her by the hand and asked her series of questions she couldn't talk. She asked my babe to go and show her where they live and my mom just left her car by the entrance and went two blocks away to the girl's residence and met her mom, a secondary school teacher.

This incidence still plays in my mind today the drama was too much and as a resident doctor i am today in a home i am very much respected i find it difficult to bring my girlfriend to the house or answer her call before my mom.

Oga u are indeed a new age parent.

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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by ghettochild4u(m): 10:43am On Jan 27, 2020
From all I have seen.. Your son is a smart Alec.. And must have taken that from u...
Just sit him down n talk to him and tell him the consequences of having free cheap sex..
Tell him his utme should be his priority
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Newguyhere: 10:52am On Jan 27, 2020
that lady is probably a prostitute grin
She don see say your family rich thereby milking the small boy grin
Fear naija girls! grin

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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Newguyhere: 10:56am On Jan 27, 2020
that girl is a prostitute.
Do some digging on her and you will see I'm right. 7 in 10 girls in Lagos these days are prostitutes!
Shocking but true!
Banty6:
My Son recently turned 16, he’s actually preparing for Utme and while he does, he works with me partime at my Firm. I do alot of traveling and he knows the business. He fills in for me.. last night, we were eating dinner and his phone won’t stop ringing and everytime it rings, he tries to silence it. I was watching him..then phone rings again and he tries to excuse himself from the table but i asked him to not move an inch until everyone has left the table.. then out of the blues i asked him to hand me his phone.. he knows the rules (never bring your phone to the dining) so he hands me his phone then i set it aside.. it wasn’t even up to one minute this number calls again and the caller name was Mia.. .. i got curious i asked him and he said she was his friend.. fast forward i asked him for his unlock code, he gave it and I didn’t use it right away.. i held on to his phone and later after dinner i checked around and the same Mia and himself they’ve been exchanging text messages and calls.. what do i make of this? My guess is they been having sex too and i guess aunty Mia is older.. how can i stop this?
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by dinodesmond(m): 10:57am On Jan 27, 2020
That chats look too mature for a sixteen years old boy.
But wetin I know

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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Nobody: 11:06am On Jan 27, 2020
dinodesmond:
That chats look too mature for a sixteen years old boy.

But wetin I know
You suspect Blogger, Blogger??

Well, 16 years old is well exposed to Adult terms in this internet age!!

Some 14 years old Nairalanders are here!!!

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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Mbee247(m): 11:35am On Jan 27, 2020
Don't fight him, otherwise he'll do alot and u won't know. Talk to him like a friend. If he likes the girl, invite her and make her your friend. You can make it work out for them when they get to part 2.
Let him grow with a responsible mind
Dunno how to say it better than this.



Exactly,you just nailed the solution,this is the best advise so far,you know in life,youthful exhuberance would always stay in teens and youths forever,but it's just how the handle it that matters.
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by francisbarrack(m): 11:51am On Jan 27, 2020
Homeboiy:
African parents and their nonsense

Just let him know that he should be using condoms to avoid stories that touch.

U ve sai it all..
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by laborious(m): 11:58am On Jan 27, 2020
What baffles me is the level of there conversation..as in at 16 I no get ense like dis talk more of have such an intimate convo with a lady....children of nowadays are high breed ooo

I even doubt if that coversation is of teenagers...
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by superfitsez(m): 12:01pm On Jan 27, 2020
yenereal:
undecided

I did this when I was his age. How can I advise?

Well Mia doesn't look older from their chats; Mia may be 15 or same age with him.
No matter how over-protective you are, he may still find other options.
He has entered the bloom of youth, so beating him may not make any difference. You may seize his phone.
But most importantly, you need to advise him. Tell him he's not up to the age of being in a relationship yet, the consequences he'll face and the shame he'll bring to the family should he get the girl pregnant. This should be the time you need to become more friendly with him.
He needs advice.
so getting a girl pregnant at 16 is shame to the family ,,fuckarahere... I'm 26 my daughter is 11
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Omar09(m): 12:08pm On Jan 27, 2020
Born2Breed:
The "my called me there is nothing at home...." ish

Sounds as if your son is not just a bedmate but a cashcow. The leech is milking your sons dick and pocket.

Meet up with the girl,access her and put a stop to the relationship. Also, I think the girl is working in your firm too.

Your boy is too young for such.


@op this comment sums up your solution. Take it.
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Martinmania(m): 12:08pm On Jan 27, 2020
From the looks of it— your son isn’t even interested in the girl (no replies— no calls— once in a while sweet messages (probably when he’s h o r n y)

• Don’t act like he’s committed the biggest crime ever -you probably did the same ish about that age

• Advice him in the coolest manner— my dad is to tell me about his youth adventures and trust me it helped me a whole lot

• if you say make your pikin no get girlfriend — idk how this would work out o. But knowing what he’s up to and putting a leash on him (not too tight) is way better than having him keep secrets and then boom! You hear your son did something and you’re shocked how come?!

• Ask about the girl? Her age? Are they having sex? Did he use condoms? Probably take a std or UTI test just to be safe

•Know if he’s sending her money... “you fit get girlfriend but don’t be stupid to be sending a girl money you should use for yourself” ( curb this if he does )

Scolding or threats won’t do anything— if he’s working for you it means he has some sense of responsibility (nothing go move am) just reason with him... he’s a man now ——CIAO

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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Omar09(m): 12:08pm On Jan 27, 2020
But this nigga bad a little. Is just that him don spend tire.
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by frubben(m): 12:14pm On Jan 27, 2020
Baba na Mia khalifa your son dey chat with? Lol



But seriously just talk to him , tell him to b careful, thats all. And bros, the way you handle this issues will determine wether your son and you will have a good relationship forever. So think about that before you flog e head
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by laiza(m): 12:19pm On Jan 27, 2020
Madam I kind of understand your frustration at the moment and probably disappointment but this generation we are in is really different from the one you grew up in. I would take it easy on him if I were you. There are some options on how you can go about this but none of them involves you beating the hell out of him and that statement 'I am responsible for him', is not 100% correct. You see the things you were scared of in your days the children of nowadays do them freely especially with the Naira Maley rave going on.
You should as a matter of urgerncy take him for STI tests and let him know if he impregnates anyone he is fully responsible for the upkeep of that child, you cannot raise him and still raise his child, he should be ready to leave your house in the eventuality he fathers a child at his age.
That being said, I think you need to sit him down and talk some sense into him, we cannot ask you to leave your career and be there for him 24/7, and at the same time you should own up to your share of the blame for his actions. And while you are at it teach him on how to use protection. There is no point calling him names or punishing him at this point, show him love, let him be free with you and be able to talk to you about anything and everything, but you should not expect everything and also be ready to be okay with the fact that he is already having sex and he will continue doing that. Dont turn him into someone that lies, if he isnt doing that already, you are very lucky, so dont push him into it.
What you just witnessed is the fear of all parents, you should be happy he is a boy....but your baby boy has grown up, so treat him like an adult.
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by treasuremi1(m): 12:22pm On Jan 27, 2020
That is just the hit of moral decadence in the society especially among teens and youths. But I think you shouldn't have brought it here. Your boy is most likely to be on nairaland.
Make further investigations about the girl and advise your son appropriately. Scolding and punishing may not really help this situation
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Nobody: 12:25pm On Jan 27, 2020
Homeboiy:
African parents and their nonsense

Just let him know that he should be using condoms to avoid stories that touch.


mad people errywhere
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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by drmikeadams(m): 12:28pm On Jan 27, 2020
Banty6:


He’s not even 18 yet I’m responsible for him so thank you
angry grin grin grin. U wan tell me @ sixteen during ur time u never begin follow woman?? grin grin


Take ur boy out,buy am one chilled origin and make him understand d importantance of abstaining from sex or use of condom,,let him know naija girls dey willingly dash std grin

Talk to him like a gee

And bear in mind if u like monitor him 24/7 young blood wey wan Bleep toto must find way Bleep tooto

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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by jnoz23(m): 12:31pm On Jan 27, 2020
Thank God ur son is not gay, just advice him to use condom dats all!
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by drmikeadams(m): 12:33pm On Jan 27, 2020
Newguyhere:
that lady is probably a prostitute grin
She don see say your family rich thereby milking the small boy grin
Fear naija girls! grin
grin grin grin make them milk d boy small, at the right ubunjA go tell am as e dey go
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Stewart883(m): 12:44pm On Jan 27, 2020
MyVILLAGEpeople:
I see nothing wrong with what he is doing. I started having sex at the age of 11 in 2010 and since then I have been enjoying it. Infact the lady that bleeped me was about 8 years older than me. Last year alone I had sex with about 25 different ladies. Just let the young dude enjoy himself. Life is too short abeg.

Have u checked yourself for Hapatitis A,B & C? What about checking your HIV status?? It's very important you know, coz bedding 25 women ain't an achievement in any way!! Just be careful coz alot of these girl's are bags of diseases lipsrsealed
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by extremelygolden: 12:46pm On Jan 27, 2020
@Op This is the best time to be his closest pal. Draw him closer and make him feel free with you. Also make out time to hangout alone with him, to the cinema, for a drink, for dinner, etc. You discuss with him like buddies and not like father and son.

When he has gained your confidence and total trust he'll begin to naturally loosen up and share his innermost thoughts with you. And don't scold him, don't shout at him, don't embarrass him in presence of his siblings, especially his younger ones, otherwise you'll lose him. Just give him words of advise, ok?

And please, don't make it seem like you're invading his privacy. Otherwise he'll begin to delete those messages and you wouldn't then know when he's in trouble.

Your boy is transforming rapidly into a man and he needs your guidance.

Best of luck, Sir.

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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by yenereal(m): 12:55pm On Jan 27, 2020
superfitsez:

so getting a girl pregnant at 16 is shame to the family ,,fuckarahere... I'm 26 my daughter is 11

You are silly young man. Get off my mention
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by Walkingkilo(m): 12:58pm On Jan 27, 2020
That was really smooth! Your son is an upcoming Don Juan

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Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by DSoj(m): 1:30pm On Jan 27, 2020
Show us the Mia number na
Re: I Went Through My Son’s Phone (see Screenshots) by drnoel: 1:49pm On Jan 27, 2020
Shelloween:
Stop invading your Son's privacy Nwokem.

Are u for real? He is just 16. Pls no vex but I will invade all the invadable privacies till he is 18. Any mistake one makes now with him na a lifetime of regret. Pls OP get to the bottom of the shit and make sure u met that person sending him all these messages.

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