Opeyemiebun:


Thanks alot, I believe you know how these extended families behave ..
I will let her have hers but I also desperately need one.
There is this feelings that come with my job when a client sees you dropping from a bike or Uber. A job they should offer you for 1m,they will look down on you and negotiate you for 400k.
Aside the economy side of it, Families will believe we are so much in money and the responsibilities will increase

Opeyemiebun:


Hmmmm, so I should encourage us getting 2 cars within the next 3months looking at Nigeria's economy and the need to have multiple source of income?.
Waoooh, thanks for the advice!!!

Standardkid240:
To me you're not being fair here, you sound more like an igbo man.

Standardkid240:
To me you're not being fair here, you sound more like an igbo man.

DaInferno:


sense go kill u today

emerged01:


You quoted my post but you didn’t understand it.
I said,”he should “GET HER CAR FIRST ”, I mean the guy should get her car first. You misquoted me oooooo and it is unfair.

Opeyemiebun:
Evening guys, please I will like to seek people's opinion concerning this issue that I have in my home.

I am a married Man with a Kid. Before marriage, my wife has a federal job outside Lagos while I run my business in Lagos. Due to Nigeria's economy, I asked her not to resign as she keeps working while I also keep on with my hustle. I have to be fair to her as she has been giving her all in this marriage and I so envy her strength to make things work despite the distance.

We had our first child last year and she is going to a year.. We both contribute financially and bring something to the table as we run 2 different homes.

I know she goes through a lot taking care of the baby without a car and I know how tedious it is for her to manage.

We are both young (I am 30 while she is 28)
We got our first few properties this January and we planning to do other things as we both bring money together to get things done.

We have plans of getting our first car within a month and my wife suddenly demanded that she also needs a car where she is due to the stress she goes through daily picking my child from creche and managing that with her own job. I asked that I employ a helper for her but she doesn't want.

She plans on getting the car within the next 2months with her own money. My issue is that I am business oriented and see it as a waste of money buying 2 cars when we can buy one and invest the money for the other one.

I am a Civil Engineer and my Job requires I get a car for mobility.
I feel guilty by trying to stop her from getting the car while I get mine and at the same time, if she get one I will also need to get.

I have been cracking my head up trying to see how we can go about it without hurting her and be fair to her as she is the best woman I can ever ask for.

What should I do, should we both get cars and let other stuffs take it course?

Opeyemiebun:


Hmmmm, so I should encourage us getting 2 cars within the next 3months looking at Nigeria's economy and the need to have multiple source of income?.
Waoooh, thanks for the advice!!!

Opeyemiebun:
Evening guys, please I will like to seek people's opinion concerning this issue that I have in my home.

I am a married Man with a Kid. Before marriage, my wife has a federal job outside Lagos while I run my business in Lagos. Due to Nigeria's economy, I asked her not to resign as she keeps working while I also keep on with my hustle. I have to be fair to her as she has been giving her all in this marriage and I so envy her strength to make things work despite the distance.

We had our first child last year and she is going to a year.. We both contribute financially and bring something to the table as we run 2 different homes.

I know she goes through a lot taking care of the baby without a car and I know how tedious it is for her to manage.

We are both young (I am 30 while she is 28)
We got our first few properties this January and we planning to do other things as we both bring money together to get things done.

We have plans of getting our first car within a month and my wife suddenly demanded that she also needs a car where she is due to the stress she goes through daily picking my child from creche and managing that with her own job. I asked that I employ a helper for her but she doesn't want.

She plans on getting the car within the next 2months with her own money. My issue is that I am business oriented and see it as a waste of money buying 2 cars when we can buy one and invest the money for the other one.

I am a Civil Engineer and my Job requires I get a car for mobility.
I feel guilty by trying to stop her from getting the car while I get mine and at the same time, if she get one I will also need to get.

I have been cracking my head up trying to see how we can go about it without hurting her and be fair to her as she is the best woman I can ever ask for.

What should I do, should we both get cars and let other stuffs take it course?

blaquey01:
Ftc. Follow this rule in life bro. Happy woman Happy home. If she's worth it, you can make the sacrifice.

kunleweb:


Are you sure you're a man or a boy in a man's body. Since you have your answers, kindly explain why you created the thread

Continue running your marriage with your one man army mindset.

Smh.

calabardick:


See their ages naw, 28 and 30, learners

madgoat:


Nonsense.... You are a very manipulative selfish husband. What is wrong in your wife having her own over there? Even if both of you are staying together, is it bad if she has her own car?
You are just selfish and controlling. No other word foe you.

makydebbie:
It's her money and she's the one going through the stress yet you don't want her to get a car? When she's not even asking you for money.

I'm shocked sef, because she's not asking you for money.

Standardkid240:
To me you're not being fair here, you sound more like an igbo man.

Geofavor:



So, because it's her money, she gets to squander it anyhow on herself alone while the husband uses his to cater for the whole family? How then will he have money left to invest in their future? Isn't it the essence why she is working so that she can support the family too?

This is not boyfriend-girlfriend relationship where the girl spends her money on herself alone and the guy keeps paying the girl for everything even when she isn't broke.

A wrong decision made by the wife will affect the whole family, whether it's her money or not.

Both the money the wife makes and the one the husband makes belong to the family. That's why they're married. Stop this nonsensical mentality of "it's her money".


@ op, Call your wife and sit her down. Then you guys decide to buy one car together. Let who needs it more use it now. Nobody here can tell you. Only you and your wife know who needs it more.
Later on, you buy another. Whatever you do, make sure you do it in agreement.

You're young couples. You should be more focused now on acquiring assets, not liabilities.

Opeyemiebun:
Evening guys, please I will like to seek people's opinion concerning this issue that I have in my home.

I am a married Man with a Kid. Before marriage, my wife has a federal job outside Lagos while I run my business in Lagos. Due to Nigeria's economy, I asked her not to resign as she keeps working while I also keep on with my hustle. I have to be fair to her as she has been giving her all in this marriage and I so envy her strength to make things work despite the distance.

We had our first child last year and she is going to a year.. We both contribute financially and bring something to the table as we run 2 different homes.

I know she goes through a lot taking care of the baby without a car and I know how tedious it is for her to manage.

We are both young (I am 30 while she is 28)
We got our first few properties this January and we planning to do other things as we both bring money together to get things done.

We have plans of getting our first car within a month and my wife suddenly demanded that she also needs a car where she is due to the stress she goes through daily picking my child from creche and managing that with her own job. I asked that I employ a helper for her but she doesn't want.

She plans on getting the car within the next 2months with her own money. My issue is that I am business oriented and see it as a waste of money buying 2 cars when we can buy one and invest the money for the other one.

I am a Civil Engineer and my Job requires I get a car for mobility.
I feel guilty by trying to stop her from getting the car while I get mine and at the same time, if she get one I will also need to get.

I have been cracking my head up trying to see how we can go about it without hurting her and be fair to her as she is the best woman I can ever ask for.

What should I do, should we both get cars and let other stuffs take it course?

Opeyemiebun:

Thanks alot Sir, I really do appreciate you.
You wonder why we have so many divorcee?
Fight for superiority in the homes and the mentality that her money is her money.
The two couples are meant to plan their future together.
So many people don't realise the importance of investing now and probably reaping it in maybe 5yrs time.
We are buying only one for her use and save towards her business to ease relocating

BRATISLAVA:


Do you think he cares? He said he's cracking his head about it. But he didn't need to crack anything when he got himself one. He said he wants to help her with her decisions about money, from right behind his wheel. Lol.

Mosebolatan26:
Uncle if you dont get her the car then u must be wicked, she really and really deserves it honestly, if u were to b my brother I would support her haba, she’s hardworking and responsible too....treat her well

blaquey01:
Ftc. Follow this rule in life bro. Happy woman Happy home. If she's worth it, you can make the sacrifice.

Mosebolatan26:
Uncle if you dont get her the car then u must be wicked, she really and really deserves it honestly, if u were to b my brother I would support her haba, she’s hardworking and responsible too....treat her well

Opeyemiebun:
I will like to thank you all for your advice.
It was really worth it.
I finally got her a Toyota Matrix, personally thought her how to drive due to covid19 lock down and she is happier driving around with the baby .
I escaped back to Lag to continue hustling .
3months without earning a dime sure took a toll on me
Thank you to everyone who gave their sincere advice
Between, I hope we are all keeping safe during this turbulent period?
We shall overcome!

sugah:

I blame women who choose to raise babies with babies.
If you are silly enough to let her buy the car with her own money, she'd then realize her mistake of marrying a selfish human who isn't considerate/able to take care of his family..... she'd then stop contributing to the 'family purse' and start investing in herself and the child only.


Igbo bizmen will buy thier stay at home wives SUVs for school runs and they'd take Okada to and from work....but you have a woman contributing to the home and you think you deserve a car and not her