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How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Bestinstinct(m): 11:48am On Feb 04, 2020
This is not a thread for gender bashing except there's a need to make ladies a bit reasonable. Pardon my English too, I'm just a regular Oshodi breed not a Cambridge grad grin
Ok! The thing is ... I was transferred from Lagos to my company's branch in Abuja last year. After reporting and waiting to get my departmental posting, I assisted a lady who equally works there in fixing a work-related problem, she was elated and asked if I can work in her section which I accepted. Her name is Christina (pseudonym). She's a junior colleague but the sectional head is a woman too and her personal instructor in women related affairs. She convinced her sectional head and I was accepted. Permit me to give you a brief description of my now sectional head. She's a beautiful woman in her mid-forties, never married, very rude, let's just say she's everything bad in women of her age with fat account to boast of (awon feminist, men-are-scum-screw... cheesy ) We call her Madam. Two months after working in the office and settling gradually, Christina approached me for a sum of money which I declined but it was evident I have it and the pestering was becoming too much including emotional sighs and all. I decided to borrow her with agreement of her paying back after salary, I even agreed she splits the sum into two so she can be able to pay comfortably for two months. A week after, she told me she's free for the weekend and won't mind spending it in my new apartment. As Lagos boy now I declined and told her I'll be busy. This babe almost drained my battery with calls throughout the weekend till I switched off my phone. Firstly, I knew right there that getting my money back will be an impossible task and secondly like some guys will expect, do the do in other not to loss in two ways grin but I've outgrown that part in life. Amorous affairs have cost me the best parts of my youth and the damages of being ladies dream guy robbed me of personal development. So exchanging money for kpekus was totally out of it! We met at work the following Monday and it was rants upon rants but I told her I wasn't with my phone. This same scenario played out for two more weeks before month end but I stood my ground. So the D-Day came! Salary got paid I reminded her of my money and she said and I quote "how many times I dey call you for weekend wey you no dey pick my calls, I no know which money you dey talk". With confidence o. I just froze. I kept it to myself and never mentioned it and she equally acted like nothing happened though I was pained. Last December, I was to deliver an i-watch to a customer (personal hustle) so I came with different colors and series. She saw it and was even advertising. I sold 4 in the process and she took one too and promised to pay by month end just like everyone. Now the problem is....after I dodged her during the last Xmas holidays, she's back with stories of not having money to pay now that I should wait till another month end. I honestly wish I can report her but Madam na 2-way traffic. It's either she blows things out of proportion or tell me to forget it as a 'big boy' and that will be the end of it. I'm just so so angry but confused. Now she's reminding me of Val on hourly basis like it's significant to my life. I've heard so much about Owerri babes but this one just confirmed the ills peeps say about them. I'm trying to be a gentleman but e dey hard me embarassed....Responsible ladies and gentlemen....how'd you handle situations like this? Don't abuse me o...I have headache already embarassed

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by donstan18: 11:51am On Feb 04, 2020
Spending a dime on a woman who is not your mother, daughter, sister or wife is a total WASTE!!

You don't do that, if you are a careful and wise spender.

In my opinion, keep "gentleman" aside, follow her aggressively with threats. Make her hate you, that's the only way that money will come out.

Women are scared of who they hate.

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Froshloaded: 11:51am On Feb 04, 2020
Inform Madam and if she is unable to do anything.. Just don't do anything that involves money with that babe again and if you are konjified call her..
Taink u..
Please don't mention me, I'm not feeling fine
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Nobody: 11:57am On Feb 04, 2020
You should stand your ground and ask for your money back, not sex or hanging but just your money.your are too soft for my liking.

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Oreofepeters: 11:58am On Feb 04, 2020
Tell her you will report her to her madam, stop being a nice dude, don't reply her chat or calls, let her know you're angry.

Though she's going to hate you but don't give a fvck that's only way to get your back from a typical naija girl bro - Exchanging Money for Sex is in their Genes

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Kenoxman(m): 12:24pm On Feb 04, 2020
Once beaten twice shy. Until u quarrel with some ppl, they will always mess with u. If this is how u want ur work environment to be, then it's up to u. But if I were u, I will not take it cool wit her. Highest I will not get back my money but I will have my peace from henceforth and that's the most important thing if u must grow.

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Nobody: 12:33pm On Feb 04, 2020
When it comes to women, I don't play. I don't do familiarity. They call me all sort of names behind my back but I don't care. My policy then was, you are either a girlfriend or a bedmate or we ain't friends, just hello and hi. I know they are nice girls out there but most want to exploit and so I just stay at arms length. .

If you want to earn respect, put your foot down henceforth and learn to say no. Nigerians don't appreciate nice guys. Play play dey cause see finish.

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Sijo01(f): 12:35pm On Feb 04, 2020
Never loan out money you can't afford to let go. One chance babe; she not ready to pay you back. Even the watch money, she wont pay. She's ready to pay you back in kind sha. She wanna give you kpekus; you will be doomed if you accept it.

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by devilmaycry: 1:20pm On Feb 04, 2020
Sijo01:
Never loan out money you can't afford to let go. One chance babe; she not ready to pay you back. Even the watch money, she wont pay. She's ready to pay you back in kind sha. She wanna give you kpekus; you will be doomed if you accept it.
Word!

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Tallesty1(m): 1:51pm On Feb 04, 2020
Women who are free for the weekend are usually the most expensive

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Bestinstinct(m): 1:53pm On Feb 04, 2020
donstan18:
Spending a dime on a woman who is not your mother, daughter, sister or wife is a total WASTE!!

You don't do that, if you are a careful and wise spender.

In my opinion, keep "gentleman" aside, follow her aggressively with threats. Make her hate you, that's the only way that money will come out.

Women are scared of who they hate.

No be say I get sense like that but this babe no get single shame. Give her attitude, ignore her, scream at her over lil mistakes and she will still greet with smile the next morning.

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Bestinstinct(m): 2:00pm On Feb 04, 2020
Amakavula:
You should stand your ground and ask for your money back, not sex or hanging but just your money.your are too soft for my liking.
I wish say I soft sha. Person wey I go shout for and give attitude till everyone in the office feels it's because I've had sex with her. I scolded her on a particular day and even told her in the presence of everyone in the office that she's not my spec and can't have shits with her just to get her angry and call my bluff but na lie o...she greeted me the next morning and smiled that I'm too hard on her. I just weak...she no just get shame ni

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Greystone: 2:03pm On Feb 04, 2020
Amakavula:
You should stand your ground and ask for your money back, not sex or hanging but just your money.your are too soft for my liking.

He's way too soft...very irritating. angry

@Bestinstict, what exactly is your problem?

What are you so afraid of that despite this woman refusing to pay back the money she owes you, you still went on to give her an i-watch on credit?

Continue forming big boy there...

In fact, carry your salary atm card and give her since you enjoy being a wuss...

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Sheisenough(f): 2:13pm On Feb 04, 2020
Bestinstinct:

No be say I get sense like that but this babe no get single shame. Give her attitude, ignore her, scream at her over lil mistakes and she will still greet with smile the next morning.


I understand your condition. It's a simple equation. First what's your relationship with the lady at the office? Do you need to stay in touch with her all the time?

IF NOT, BLOCK HER EVERYWHERE. This one that you are saying your oga has two wires in her brain. Chances of it going in your favour ARE SLIM. Cut off all contacts with the lady when she sees you are not joking anymore she will mellow.

I won't call you a wuss because you have been able to stand your ground and not let your dick control you. I trust some guys here every weekend appointment don sure. smiley


FAMILIARITY BREEDS NONSENSE AND DISRESPECT.

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by xrayj(m): 2:14pm On Feb 04, 2020
donstan18:
Spending a dime on a woman who is not your mother, daughter, sister or wife is a total WASTE!!

You don't do that, if you are a careful and wise spender.

In my opinion, keep "gentleman" aside, follow her aggressively with threats. Make her hate you, that's the only way that money will come out.

Women are scared of who they hate.
@bold true

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by xrayj(m): 2:19pm On Feb 04, 2020
Gaggi:
When it comes to women, I don't play. I don't do familiarity. They call me all sort of names behind my back but I don't care. My policy then was, you are either a girlfriend or a bedmate or we ain't friends, just hello and hi. I know they are nice girls out there but most want to exploit and so I just stay at arms length. .

If you want to earn respect, put your foot down henceforth and learn to say no. Nigerians don't appreciate nice guys. Play play dey cause see finish.
The bold is a very good mindset
Wish every guy can apply the bold, it will save them a lot of stress.
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Bestinstinct(m): 2:24pm On Feb 04, 2020
Gaggi:
When it comes to women, I don't play. I don't do familiarity. They call me all sort of names behind my back but I don't care. My policy then was, you are either a girlfriend or a bedmate or we ain't friends, just hello and hi. I know they are nice girls out there but most want to exploit and so I just stay at arms length. .

If you want to earn respect, put your foot down henceforth and learn to say no. Nigerians don't appreciate nice guys. Play play dey cause see finish.

This one na parasite, ones you get small money eh...she go dey all over you. Insult her, abuse her mother, slap her father....she go still tell you sorry. All she ever thinks of is getting married to a rich man. Especially when you mention abroad. Haaaa ....she no wan know if na Afghanistan, she go begin worship you.
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by xrayj(m): 2:24pm On Feb 04, 2020
Bestinstinct:

I wish say I soft sha. Person wey I go shout for and give attitude till everyone in the office feels it's because I've had sex with her. I scolded her on a particular day and even told her in the presence of everyone in the office that she's not my spec and can't have shits with her just to get her angry and call my bluff but na lie o...she greeted me the next morning and smiled that I'm too hard on her. I just weak...she no just get shame ni
U are soft & sound indecisive
She is already taking advantage of it

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Bestinstinct(m): 2:32pm On Feb 04, 2020
Sheisenough:



I understand your condition. It's a simple equation. First what's your relationship with the lady at the office? Do you need to stay in touch with her all the time?

IF NOT, BLOCK HER EVERYWHERE. This one that you are saying your oga has two wires in her brain. Chances of it going in your favour ARE SLIM. Cut off all contacts with the lady when she sees you are not joking anymore she will mellow.

I won't call you a wuss because you have been able to stand your ground and not let your dick control you. I trust some guys here every weekend appointment don sure. smiley


FAMILIARITY BREEDS NONSENSE AND DISRESPECT.
I swear with everything in me we don't have any communication aside hi hi at work. I don't pick her calls nor chat her. She's blocked everywhere even FB. She reported me sef that my number don't go through when she calls but others don't have same issue. Told her I'm pissed with her kind of person and she still shamelessly begged me.

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by MizzPhoney(f): 3:03pm On Feb 04, 2020
A work relationship would have sorted this out for you bro. I don't have friends when it comes to business and my job. You borrow money from me, you pay it. You buy something you still pay for it. If I can lend my man money and he will pay me and same with me paying him back, I don't see how a mere colleague will be an issue. Please tell us the true story. Because it seems to me like you started something you couldn't finish.

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by cRobo: 3:20pm On Feb 04, 2020
Nice thing that you didn't bleep her

PLEASE DONT EVER BLEEP HER

best thing is to let go off everything and totally ignore

She is seeing you as a MUMU

Just don't have any financial dealing with her hence forth

Dude you got to be strict for once
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by JohnnyPalmer: 3:25pm On Feb 04, 2020
Bestinstinct:

I swear with everything in me we don't have any communication aside hi hi at work. I don't pick her calls nor chat her. She's blocked everywhere even FB. She reported me sef that my number don't go through when she calls but others don't have same issue. Told her I'm pissed with her kind of person and she still shamelessly begged me.

Na real problem you get sha

This kind people are parasites

But you shouldn't have allowed her to take the watch, considering the fact she didn't pay last time

Just forget the money, or tell your boss, she tells you to forget it.... All na same... But there's another 50% chance she'll ensure she pays, or deduct the money from her salary

Tell her all your experiences with her, with evidences or let go

It's a good thing you resisted sleeping with her
She for dey blackmail you by now... Thus leeching you more

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Bestinstinct(m): 3:45pm On Feb 04, 2020
MizzPhoney:
A work relationship would have sorted this out for you bro. I don't have friends when it comes to business and my job. You borrow money from me, you pay it. You buy something you still pay for it. If I can lend my man money and he will pay me and same with me paying him back, I don't see how a mere colleague will be an issue. Please tell us the true story. Because it seems to me like you started something you couldn't finish.
Emi Ika? Honestly, I don't have nada with her. Striker like me!? I won't even complain if that's the issue. I honestly don't need spend to bed her type. Flashing is stuffs is enough.

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by MizzPhoney(f): 4:51pm On Feb 04, 2020
Bestinstinct:

Emi Ika? Honestly, I don't have nada with her. Striker like me!? I won't even complain if that's the issue. I honestly don't need spend to bed her type. Flashing is stuffs is enough.

Then I think you need to man up. Stop all that smiling upandan, turn to a serious guy and all that call to meet up weekends, stop lying about it. Tell her you don't like it and you wouldn't want your girlfriend to be uncomfortable with her insistent calls. Even if you don't have one you can behave like you do.
She thinks you are available because you have provided her with time and effort. If you want your money back, you may have to tell her you will involve the company so that your money can be removed from her salary. I sense you feel grateful to her for giving you an opportunity in her department. Young man, she did not give you that job. It is just a placement and you can apply to be taken to another place. MAN UP, MAN!
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Nobody: 5:07pm On Feb 04, 2020
Froshloaded:
Space booked

Modified:
Inform Madam and if she is unable to do anything.. Just don't do anything that involves money with that babe again and if you are konjified call her..
Taink u..
Please don't mention me, I'm not feeling fine

So you spoil like this? tongue
And I used to think you're a small boy? cool

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Froshloaded: 5:11pm On Feb 04, 2020
AshiraWealthy:

So you spoil like this? tongue
And I used to think you're a small boy? cool
Ehen
I no spoil I'm just giving him a nice advice
AshiraWealthy cheesy
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Nobody: 5:31pm On Feb 04, 2020
You made a big mistake by lending her that sum of money, she is just displaying manipulative skills. You still disappointed me again by giving her a watch with her promising to pay you later after the first debt incurred.

You are indeed a gentle nice man( a very sumptuous meal for your average naija girl).

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by MusaDanladi1: 5:56pm On Feb 04, 2020
Person wey dey owe you money, you still carry Iwatch on credit sell to am... I nor know wetin to call you sef. Make I juse waka pass like say I no even read this post at all undecided angry

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by extremelygolden: 6:09pm On Feb 04, 2020
You are principled and that's good. Keep it up.

Threaten to report her to your Madam if she fails to pay all she's owing you. And surreptitiously cut all ties with her. Make your relationship with her very official.

If she's wise she'll understand and do the needful.

She's a bad energy.
Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by johnkey: 6:16pm On Feb 04, 2020
This 2020 I no dey send any chick again, keep your pussy I will buy shawarma champagne and Versace with my money and soapy in peace.

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Re: How Can I Handle This Situation At Work by Tonyspecial(m): 6:38pm On Feb 04, 2020
Bestinstinct:
This is not a thread for gender bashing except there's a need to make ladies a bit reasonable. Pardon my English too, I'm just a regular Oshodi breed not a Cambridge grad grin
Ok! The thing is ... I was transferred from Lagos to my company's branch in Abuja last year. After reporting and waiting to get my departmental posting, I assisted a lady who equally works there in fixing a work-related problem, she was elated and asked if I can work in her section which I accepted. Her name is Christina (pseudonym). She's a junior colleague but the sectional head is a woman too and her personal instructor in women related affairs. She convinced her sectional head and I was accepted. Permit me to give you a brief description of my now sectional head. She's a beautiful woman in her mid-forties, never married, very rude, let's just say she's everything bad in women of her age with fat account to boast of (awon feminist, men-are-scum-screw... cheesy ) We call her Madam. Two months after working in the office and settling gradually, Christina approached me for a sum of money which I declined but it was evident I have it and the pestering was becoming too much including emotional sighs and all. I decided to borrow her with agreement of her paying back after salary, I even agreed she splits the sum into two so she can be able to pay comfortably for two months. A week after, she told me she's free for the weekend and won't mind spending it in my new apartment. As Lagos boy now I declined and told her I'll be busy. This babe almost drained my battery with calls throughout the weekend till I switched off my phone. Firstly, I knew right there that getting my money back will be an impossible task and secondly like some guys will expect, do the do in other not to loss in two ways grin but I've outgrown that part in life. Amorous affairs have cost me the best parts of my youth and the damages of being ladies dream guy robbed me of personal development. So exchanging money for kpekus was totally out of it! We met at work the following Monday and it was rants upon rants but I told her I wasn't with my phone. This same scenario played out for two more weeks before month end but I stood my ground. So the D-Day came! Salary got paid I reminded her of my money and she said and I quote "how many times I dey call you for weekend wey you no dey pick my calls, I no know which money you dey talk". With confidence o. I just froze. I kept it to myself and never mentioned it and she equally acted like nothing happened though I was pained. Last December, I was to deliver an i-watch to a customer (personal hustle) so I came with different colors and series. She saw it and was even advertising. I sold 4 in the process and she took one too and promised to pay by month end just like everyone. Now the problem is....after I dodged her during the last Xmas holidays, she's back with stories of not having money to pay now that I should wait till another month end. I honestly wish I can report her but Madam na 2-way traffic. It's either she blows things out of proportion or tell me to forget it as a 'big boy' and that will be the end of it. I'm just so so angry but confused. Now she's reminding me of Val on hourly basis like it's significant to my life. I've heard so much about Owerri babes but this one just confirmed the ills peeps say about them. I'm trying to be a gentleman but e dey hard me embarassed....Responsible ladies and gentlemen....how'd you handle situations like this? Don't abuse me o...I have headache already embarassed
Did u say she's from Imo state? cry

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