There should be some sort of understanding concerning relatives coming to visit or stay for long. Yes, we understand they sacrificed heaven and earth for you but you didn't marry them, you married her and her consent should be required. This is where understanding in marriage is key.

Before inviting your family over, let your spouse know how long they will be staying so you both can agree on a timeline. Two months may be okay for you, but may be too long for her. If they overstay their welcome or turn commando in anothers house, problems will arise. Familiarity breeds contempt and if your relatives turn your house into a motel that they can visit every month by different people, jealousy and fights will definitely arise.

Marriage is a work in progress between two people. Never make any decision alone, especially as it will affect the other person.

pocohantas:
I agree with you OP.

You don't want to know how much I love my dad and only brother. These are the two men that have supported me every step of the way. I can't imagine one FOOLISH husband saying they shouldn't visit or stay in our house or even thinking he comes before them.

It is my father first, mother and siblings, my kid, before my husband.

You can always get another husband, but never another family.

A father is the only man that will spend on you without asking for submission or anything.

My dad reigns supreme in my heart. I can take a bullet in the head for that man, but NEVER will I attempt it for a husband. You see how much I love him?

For that reason, he can come live with us. All my siblings can come, alongside my husband's own.

One big happy family.

Na so

I don't think any commando can be formed here. Because as far as there was no commando amongst them before them engaging in marriage certainly non will come after marriage.

However I agree that there should be an agreement and not absolute refusal to visit or stay as some do.

Sixfeetbelle:
There should be some sort of understanding concerning relatives coming to visit or stay for long. Yes, we understand they sacrificed heaven and earth for you but you didn't marry them, you married her and her consent should be required. This is where understanding in marriage is key.

Before inviting your family over, let your spouse know how long they will be staying so you both can agree on a timeline. Two months may be okay for you, but may be too long for her. If they overstay their welcome or turn commando in anothers house, problems will arise. Familiarity breeds contempt and if your relatives turn your house into a motel that they can visit every month by different people, jealousy and fights will definitely arise.

Marriage is a work in progress between two people. Never make any decision alone, especially as it will affect the other person.

AmTruth:
I don't think any commando can be formed here. Because as far as there was no commando amongst them before them engaging in marriage certainly non will come after marriage.

However I agree that there should be an agreement and not absolute refusal to visit or stay as some do.

I meant commando by the in-laws. Some will start acting "since it's my brother's house, it's my house too so if I want, I won't carry my plate to the kitchen or I won't sweep the house because I came for visit." forgetting that just because it was tolerated at home doesn't mean your brother and wife would welcome such behaviour.