chatinent:
I read your epistle from top to bottom, and here are few observations:
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1. You were dating yourself. She only was there to turn you from a Current Account to a Savings Account.
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2. Never give a girl you aren't married to any money if she conditions you that shaqe is your responsibility. Never be nice to girls feeling entitled.
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3. Never think it's manly to carter for transportation for yourself and a girl anytime you both ply a route together. You may see it as being gentlemanly. That's poo; they see it as foolery.
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4. I'm sure she saved your name on her phone with "Emeka 5k Hard To Get." Don't think I'm a prophet; no girl is really worth it.
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5. She was not single. You were just another boyfriend ATM-elect.
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I could have decided to flog the hell outta you for effing up so bad on this girl, but I just forgave you.

englishmart:
I knew this question was coming. We did a lot of vigils together, and all that.

chatinent:
I read your epistle from top to bottom, and here are few observations:
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1. You were dating yourself. She only was there to turn you from a Current Account to a Savings Account.
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2. Never give a girl you aren't married to any money if she conditions you that she is your responsibility. Never be nice to girls feeling entitled.
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3. Never think it's manly to carter for transportation for yourself and a girl anytime you both ply a route together. You may see it as being gentlemanly. That's poo; they see it as foolery.
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4. I'm sure she saved your name on her phone with "Emeka 5k Hard To Get." Don't think I'm a prophet; no girl is really worth it.
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5. She was not single. You were just another boyfriend ATM-elect.
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I could have decided to flog the hell outta you for effing up so bad on this girl, but I just forgave you.

SweetCunt97:
Typical Abuja based dude. Date them and within one month they singing "I'm broke Anthem".

From your post, you haven't even spent up to 20k on d lady so what's with d being broke issue? Don't you plan? Don't u save?

candygist:


Brother way mumu

englishmart:
Three days into the relationship she told me she needed money for body cream and hairdressing. What? "Was that registration fee" I thought to myself. I only gave her about 5k for hair and told her I there was no money for her cream, she was disgruntled but I didn't care. She started coming regularly to visit me, say twice in a week and each time she came, I paid her transportation fare since she always claimed she had no money. I practically reduced her coming to once in a week, until it became one week, one trouble. She once told me she's my responsibility and I thought it wasn't going to weigh me badly since it won't cost more than 5k a week to maintain her, and it was normal to spend on your girlfriend. But I realized I was getting far from my family (my parents and siblings) I started giving excuses each time my younger ones ask me for money, I gradually became a debtor and it was devastating.
One day, I stood up to her and told her we need to be a little frugal if we really need to take the relationship far. She became upset and accused me of listening to friends, if she's becoming burdensome, I should tell her. Well, we resolved the issue and then we continued. Some days later, she invited me to her friend's wedding and I told her I won't be available, she then said I should give her transport for the wedding, then it dawned on me she's not a nice girl. Before I knew it, she was already at my place, I had to give her the last 1k note I had. She knew it was all I had yet she collected it.
I felt loved but used at the same time. What do I do now? How do I correct this?
I called her almost every hour, I reduced it gradually till it became twice in a day, I started declining her requests, became cold, stopped her from coming for weeks. She lost her phone recently and told me about it, she wanted a phone for Valentine's, but I told her we couldn't continue one week to the Valentine's day. I was just tired of being a mugu. Spending on her wasn't the problem, but she took my love as an avenue to pillage me of my hard-earned money. I learnt she got another phone, a costly one for that matter the next day after the breakup. She was my first girlfriend, and I'm not getting another till further notice.

englishmart:
You only save if you earn reasonably. I don't have to open a supermarket for her before I complain. You expect me to tell you everything in just one post? I don't write storybooks

englishmart:
I knew this question was coming. We did a lot of vigils together, and all that.

chatinent:
I read your epistle from top to bottom, and here are few observations:
.
1. You were dating yourself. She only was there to turn you from a Current Account to a Savings Account.
.
2. Never give a girl you aren't married to any money if she conditions you that she is your responsibility. Never be nice to girls feeling entitled.
.
3. Never think it's manly to carter for transportation for yourself and a girl anytime you both ply a route together. You may see it as being gentlemanly. That's poo; they see it as foolery.
.
4. I'm sure she saved your name on her phone with "Emeka 5k Hard To Get." Don't think I'm a prophet; no girl is really worth it.
.
5. She was not single. You were just another boyfriend ATM-elect.
.
.
I could have decided to flog the hell outta you for effing up so bad on this girl, but I just forgave you.

Suprnova:



I think it is just a bad habit for you to be broke... all the time

themaestro08:


Let me be honest with you; firstly, you were a little bit myopic for making paying her transport fare a ritual. that in itself was a sign that you were a massive goldmine which she fully utilize to the maximum.

She is a gold digger , a leech, who has no genuine feeling for you , she is for the pecks, and once its no longer there, she will give you attitude, which you have already seen.

There is no excuse for such over-materialistic habit, its disgusting.

My advice?... Break up with her in a matured manner, I know it's a little bit hard, but its absolutely doable. Let her go, and move on.

There are lots of pretty ladies around, just do a little search,

You deserve better.

greatbrian:


You even lost more than I envisaged....

You lost your money, shattered your pride, lost some good times with your family, and still lost a potential president or dangote in form of manhood release. Not to talk of the energy and emotions added into it.

englishmart:
Nice observations, but my number was saved as 'my treasure' on her phone. And for the last line. I'm glad I got rid of her.

Young03:
Ah I don't wanna talk about Edo girls

I'm dating one now and I have dated 3 in the past

themaestro08:


Yeah, his naivety deserve some whip.

But we should pardon him he is in LOVE.

englishmart:
Mercy Aigbe is from Edo state, too. A lot of them have similar terrible orientation.

englishmart:
not anymore, bro. And Nobody can whip me

SweetCunt97:
Typical Abuja based dude. Date them and within one month they singing "I'm broke Anthem".

From your post, you haven't even spent up to 20k on d lady so what's with d being broke issue? Don't you plan? Don't u save?

scaramucci:
These leeches never fail to amaze. I invited one to my house on Friday, she invited her friend to join her the following day. As I type this, they are both in my house putting pressure on my resources. Once I manage to get them to leave, ain't no allowing any of them back in. I don't have time for nonsense.

Coldie:

The height of fvckery was when the gf invited him to a wedding and he couldn't go and she requested for him to pay her tp.

The guy is lucky it ended there sometimes u would hear am pregnant and they would call one outrageous sum to remove it, when u don't u start hearing all this annoying Benin penguin English accent. Like u want use me play I be Ishan girl o, I go do u sth o.

scaramucci:
These leeches never fail to amaze. I invited one to my house on Friday, she invited her friend to join her the following day. As I type this, they are both in my house putting pressure on my resources. Once I manage to get them to leave, ain't no allowing any of them back in. I don't have time for nonsense.

englishmart:
Nice observations, but my number was saved as 'my treasure' on her phone. And for the last line. I'm glad I got rid of her.

Mraphel:
I think is Edo women's culture.


She will call you incessantly (you picking her calls at all time is a mistake)

They are humbled (only if money is involved)

She expect you take care of her needs ahead of your family and friends.



As soon as food and monetary spending stops, she gets angry and looks elsewhere for relationship almost immediate without thinking of all you have done in the past for her

Coldie:

Same thing happened to me, 2girls, leave no, I was hosting them feeding them but they wouldn't let me touch any of em, I said OK, wen they went out I put there bags with the gateman locked my room and went to the family house for some days.

No kind call and text message I no receive that day. They were like at least I shud come and give them transport

englishmart:
I knew this question was coming. We did a lot of vigils together, and all that .

successful35:
Na lumen Christy international high school i go for Uromi, Edo State. It's a boarding school. I also graduated from Uniben. Abeg avoid Edo people, be it Benin or Esan. They are the definition of ungratefulness.

Albinoworwor:


How many edo women have you personally encountered