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Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Nobody: 3:28pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
[color=#990000][/color] Been dating this guy since last year,he was vry serious nd his a strong muslim so he converted me,he even bought d necessary materials and books for me to learn, mid dis year he just changed nd wen i got back 4rm school i found out he was cheatin on me,he apologised nd even allowed me talk 2d girl,i forgave him, after a while he stopped callin nd was alws avoid my calls,i tried nd den he told me he luvs me it cnt work out cos his family ddnt accept me cos im 4rm a christian background, my heart is shattered,i cnt stop calling him,he picks my call nd promises 2call bt he dsnt ever call, its over four months nd hvnt gotten over him,i need 2get him back,dnt knw wat to do again |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by bennie1980(m): 3:34pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Forget him and move on! |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by kaymoney2(m): 3:35pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
@ OP The guy is a terrible cheater Only playing on your emotions and feelings** He had studied you quite well and he knows you are just too weak and that he can always come to say sorry and get positive response from you whenever you caught him cheating on you*** Its better you make a decision fast and dont be intimidated by his pedigree or status~~ he doesnt love you and only playing around with your feelings * |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by mediatrix8(f): 3:38pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
honey,call it quit, he is not in to you anymore.His belief and family is his priority not his happiness.Better find another man who deserves your love and you also deserve to be loved in spite and despite of being you! |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Nobody: 3:41pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
but why wld he make me go thru d trouble of learning about his religion,his mum knws me, he even gave me his brodas no,his broda still calls me now,i dnt tink he tld his broda we broke up,cnt stop tinking bout him,he was so nice 2me cnt believe. its over, |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by MrsEve2(f): 3:41pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
The thing people will do for love, SO SAD, |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by MriCork: 3:43pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Kemouche: [color=#990000]Kemouche, madam forget him u light skin? |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by MrsEve2(f): 3:45pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
The question mr cock, IS YOU LIGHT SKINNED? |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Specialist900(m): 3:52pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
What people do for love. I'm touched. |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Nobody: 3:58pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
CNT BELIEVE A DEVOTED MUSLIM WLD BEHAVE DAT WAY, I DDNT OFFEND HIM, I DNT KNW HW 2GET HIM OUT OF MY MIND, |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by justwise(m): 4:05pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Kemouche: You are lucky that he let u off b4 marriage, it could have been worse. Thank ur stars. |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by kaymoney2(m): 4:06pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Kemouche: Hmm getting him off your mind is a process that will never come quikly** the reminisce of the past events both good and bad times you have shared to getter will not let your mind be at rest** Its a difficult task to call it quit from a relationship but if that will save you and keep you alive i think it worth quitting** Never mind you will be fine in no time |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by ebonyvibe(f): 4:06pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
@ OP Dont give yourself heart attack. I will tell you a friends stroy and hope it helps you and see into the minds of some women. I have a friend and she lived with her partner for 2 years while they were in london he obviously finished before her and returned to Nigeria while she finshes her studies to build them a home. two months later she came to my house and we where watching BEN TV and there he was her partner getting married to one of the affluent people in Nigeria's daughter. After this she had a nervous breadkdown she hasnt dated ever since. She knew the boys family and was quite close to the mother that didnt change anything. The next time she went to Nigeria she bumped into his mother at tantaliser who almost avoided her but it was too obvious their eyes meet. The only thing she could tel her was that 'God will provide her with her own husband and when she wants to get married she should call her and she will make sure they have a befitting wedding. So if you want to end up like this keep chasing him the brother might know and carry on acting the fool. Or count you loss now and move on you should not change your religion for anyone anyway you have no back bone can you turn to pagan worship cos of man. your God is your God |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by kufreabasi(m): 4:16pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Kemouche: shine your eyes well well, better return back home and have a re-think |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by 2precious: 4:20pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Kemouche, the Bible say 'do not be unequally yoked'. As a Christian, you were not suppose to think of having a covenant relationship with someone who doesn't believe that Christ came and died for him. Simply go to your Master, Lord Jesus to show you the way out. His thought towards us are of good and not evil. God bless. |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by justwise(m): 4:23pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
2_precious: . . .but she was converted, so she is not a christian |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Nobody: 4:23pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Tanks u guys hv been helpful,but his unavoidable,he stays in my brothers area, and i feel christians and muslims are serving the same God,just in different. |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by kokoye(m): 4:24pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
good riddance. he changed his religion to get into your pants. Better for you actually, cos his family would've shown you h.ell move on and good luck. |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by omega25red(m): 4:28pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
its obvious that he and his family are not a progressive thinkers like you. People still let issues of tribes, race and religion get in the way of finding love. Unfortunately there is no magic pill for heart break and only time heals that type of pain. Just be strong and find someone else to give your love to. |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Specialist900(m): 4:31pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Kemouche:is every mosque attendee a devout muslim? Getting him out of your mind will means you'll have to look for something to occupy your time, something that'll make you less idle. |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by kaymoney2(m): 4:35pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Hmm sometime when we genuinely fall in love** we feel as if our brain has been kidnapped from us*as if the world would come to an end if he or she jilts me* We act as if we are disabled and being supported by someone** Our eyes are all covered and closed to[b] realities of outside world[/b]** Nobody does it better than your lover** Until when the unexpected happens reality starts to set in gradually and common sence gradually returning to its natural state**But I continue to wonder and I ask myself why is it supposed to be so ** |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Basildon1(m): 4:38pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
All that family talk na story, what do you think has been happening for the past 4 months. MovingON toh bad!! Picking your calls is out of sympathy! Free dat guy! |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Nobody: 5:04pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Moving on is nt dat easy, |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by kaymoney2(m): 5:06pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Kemouche: Hmm sometime when we genuinely fall in love** we feel as if our brain has been kidnapped from us*as if the world would come to an end if he or she jilts me* We act as if we are disabled and being supported by someone** Our eyes are all covered and closed to realities of outside world** Nobody does it better than your lover** Until when the unexpected happens reality starts to set in gradually and common sence gradually returning to its natural state**But I continue to wonder and I ask myself why is it supposed to be so ** |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by justwise(m): 5:08pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Kemouche: Its not but u have to try, even if u get him back now, he will still hurt u in future, is that the life u want for urself? |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Specialist900(m): 5:19pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Kemouche:You'll have to determine to move on. Everything is accomplishable through determination. |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by ukcatlover(m): 6:00pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Just move on with life, there are a lot of guys who wants to meet you and treat you more better than that Muslim Guy. God have a purpose for you in life so do not regret or think over it. just thank God that it happens now |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Nobody: 7:04pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
i will try,always get weak afta a week,would try my best.Why me |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Nobody: 7:04pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
i will try,always get weak afta a week,would try my best.Why me |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Macgreat(m): 7:07pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
You changes your religion for someone you're not married to? . . Hmm, concentrate on your studies, mingle with friends . . . |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by livedit(f): 7:37pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
Hon, this is why you NEVER compromise your beliefs and religion for no man. I know you are upset and hurting and been betrayed. But I'm a firm believer that all things happen for a reason. That is why it's pertinent to wait on the Lord to bless you with your mate. God won't keep together what He didn't put together. Right now, you need to take some time away to get yourself together by seeking the kingdom of God for deliverance, wisdom and healing. You must find a way to forgive what that guy did to you and continue to move on with your life so that God can bring the man who is ordained for you. When he does bring him forth, you won't have to "chase" after him. He will be "chasing" after you. Your life will not come to end just because it didn't work out with that guy. Your life didn't begin with him and it sho nuff won't end with him either. You have to find a way to move on with your life. I'm sure he has! That is why he is not returning your calls or communicating with you. It's hard to pick up and go and start all over again. But many of us has been through it and what didn't kill us made us stronger. You'll be just fine. It's hard, I know. Livedit been there done that. And now I'm with a man who loves me and respects me and don't cheat on me. You have to know and believe in your heart that you do deserve better and deserve nothing less than the best. It's up to you rather or not you have the faith to receive it. |
Re: Pls Urgent Advice Needed by Dsense(m): 7:59pm On Dec 17, 2010 |
OP. I think there is something else discouraging this guy and not the religious issue ''After all You have already been converted in to his religion'' . . . I know he said his family are not supportive of him marrying a girl from an alien religion despite your changing! But i will advice you to call this guy down ''try all your best to get thim down ,talk to him . . Force him to be honest ''You how to do that, don't you? . . . . Let him voice out what's really disturbing his mind . . . I'm sure the craps he told you about his family not being supportive to marry from a christian family is just a framed up stuff . . . .There is something really discouraging him! . . okay? I'm a muslim.My family would dance to the Heaven when telling them the girl i'm dating who was a christian has been converted to muslim . . .They ll feel so euphoric and not angry or unsupportive! |
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